Bah! Humbug!

[Forever_Gemini]

I too hate the holidays, partly because my mom left me around christmas time, but thanksgiving to me is useful in the fact I get paid for one day off - totally uninterrupted - to do my 'fall' cleaning

(Hate is maybe too strong of a word, but when they commercialize it soo much with a family of 20!! or so, I can't help but to feel a little slighted )

... just rambling.. *hugs* everyone

FG,

 

[Jaded1]

Hi, Cookiejar...

As a kid growing up I loved all the many different holidays. Then I went off to Nam. Guess I just lost to many really good friends over there... Thanksgiving and Christmas being the two most depressing of the holiday season. Realizing that didn't get to come home again to be with there familys. My kids are grown and have a life of there own now. Being a single guy the holidays are not my best times either! Guess it's just to much time and to much to think about...

Jaded1, CT

 

[Owlz]

I loathe this time of year...which for me lasts 'til mid-May/early June.

 

[MindFire]

Ill just leave all the antidepressants here... start on em right away

they will kick in in a few weeks... Mean time keep away from

the regular population.. we are all happy..

 

[alwaysawake]

Ill just leave all the antidepressants here... start on 'em right away--they will kick in in a few weeks... Meantime keep away from the regular population.. we are all happy..

Not needed Mind...I just avoid the crowds and commericialized part of Holidays--including the profusion of ads. I rejoice when January comes!

 

[GeorgeWBush]

Cookiejar,

Nice to meet you first of all.

Could it be because by the time the actual holiday gets here, you are like me and all holidayed out? They were putting Christmas things out before the Halloween stuff was gone here.

It is like the Holidays are 3 months long anymore.

I agree it's seems like very year it's earlier.

 

[MindFire]

After reading these case histories here..

I think it might be Sadds more than the holiday..
the holiday falls in the middle of the Sadds season..
and the sadds is a debelitating thing.. and you have
max effort to do anything.. Now your forced to do. go shop
go visit, just forced to do all the things you cant....
In the name of Christmas... So you have come to hate the
holiday for any number of reasons..

in your cases
Its the season..... Not the reason..

good luck..

 

[cookiejar]

After reading these case histories here..

I think it might be Sadds more than the holiday..
the holiday falls in the middle of the Sadds season..
and the sadds is a debelitating thing.. and you have
max effort to do anything.. Now your forced to do. go shop
go visit, just forced to do all the things you cant....
In the name of Christmas... So you have come to hate the
holiday for any number of reasons..

in your cases
Its the season..... Not the reason..

good luck..

I hate it because people are so insincere...the rest of the year they fight, cut each other's throat and lie. then for 6 weeks we're all family? It's hypocritical...

 

[CharlotteNCguy]

I hate it because people are so insincere...the rest of the year they fight, cut each other's throat and lie. then for 6 weeks we're all family? It's hypocritical...

Can we at least celebrate Qwanza?

 

[Forever_Gemini]

Can we at least celebrate Qwanza?

No more holidays!

... Wait, is that a paid day off work? Then, it's ok, lol

 

[carrie-on]

It's called Seasonal Affective Disorder EL, and along with being Bi-polar it's a nightmare.

I have what are called SAD lights, very expensive but I'm hoping they will help. They supply light to your brain in concentrated doses.


And moosie...I take Wellbutrin & Zoloft just to survive...lol

Hi Missingmeds...nice to meet you too...

I tend to shy away from malls and do most of my Xmas shopping online ... I think people get very high expectations at Xmas, everyone wants the perfect family atmosphere they see in movies and tv.

I have talked this out with my 7 year old, I want to make sure she isn't feeling like I did at that age. So far, so good. It's terrible to be a child and cry yourself to sleep at Xmas and have no idea why.

Thanks everyone ...

Hi Cookie! I,too have been diagnosed with SADD. You mentioned SAD lights and how expensive they are? I built one on my own from a flourescent light fixture and growlight bulbs. I call it my "Happy Light!" A lot cheaper than the ones that are on the market.

 

[Owlz]

Does anyone hate the holidays as much as me? They are the most depressing time of the year. I should be happy, I have a wonderful family, I'm not alone. I have enough money, I shop early... no stress there. But each year it only gets worse. I can't remember a Xmas that I wasn't depressed, starting back as early as 4 years old.

I was talking to a friend from Lit yesterday and he asked if I was okay with the holidays coming. A very perceptive man to pick up on my feelings.

I feel overwhelming guilt because many people spend the holidays alone but you can be alone in a crowd.

I'm sorry but I needed to vent ... I will smile and shop and eat and play the game, all the time waiting for it all to be over again.

I'm right there with you, cookie! I can't WAIT for 01/02/04 (gotta get through ANOTHER boring, lonely New Year's Eve, too)!!

 

[MindFire]

Carrie-on
you are taking Wellbutrin and Zoloft?? honey thats a
heavy dose. real heavy.
i hope you all pass the season easily

most sincerley
mindy

 

[Owlz]

Edit: Sentiment about this time of year previously posted.

 

[rosylady]

It less than a week to Christmas and I don't have any decorations up nor have I even begun shopping. The thing is that I don't want to do any of it.

I don't want the kids to be disappointed but I can't get into the spirit of Christmas. I just feel like locking myself in my room under my cover's and not coming out till the holiday's are over.

 

[SexyChele]

When my father was still alive (the original "Christnmas Elf!) I loved the holidays and everything about them. I especially loved setting up the tree in my apartment and then preparing a huge Christmas Eve dinner for just my parents and me. But, hey, I love to cook and I love to play hostess.

But when my dad passed on 12 years ago, my mom and I tried to do the "Christmas thing." It didn't work. We went through the motions of putting up decorations, tree, presents, etc, and all the while we were still hurting and mourning. So I gave up Christmas, which is easy enough for me, as I have no children and the bulk of my family lives 2400 miles away. As long as I send out Christmas cards, they could care less.

Once I'd abandon all the tappings of Christmas, I have found I rather enjoy it. I still insist on doing my Christmas morning movie, but if I get invited to another's home for the holidays, I'm delighted to go. I still don't do the tree thing or any decorations. Not big on presents, either - giving or receiving. (I'm a total Scrooge at the company Christmas party because I don't get involved with the meaningless gift exchange) Between my co-workers, I always suggest we donate to a good charity rather than buy each other gifts none of us have any use for. Sometime between now and Christmas, I'll pick up my mom and the two dogs and we'll drive around and look at lights. Tonight, I'm going to dinner with my S/O and then we are going to do his shopping. I love it. He drives, he goes through the dilemma of what to get, and I get to enjoy all the tinsel.

Yeah, I did get a gift for my S/O - hotel and airfare for 4 days in San Francisco, which I think he might enjoy much better than a new shirt or undies (or whatever one is supposed to get guys). As far as a gift from him? A nice dinner in San Fran would do just fine.

Once you sit back and refuse to get involved with all the madness, the holidays are quite pleasant, even enjoyable.

 

[MissIntrigue]

I say Bah Humbug also! I just barely got the tree up and decorated yesterday(all for the little one). I too was wishing it would just go away and it gets worse every year, (that feeling). If I were alone as in no child in the home- I wouldnt bother at all that is indeed a sure thing!