Bachelor Party

[Mischka]

Mr. Mischka has been invited to a bachelor party in Vegas. He's good friends with all the guys invited, and he's looking forward to the trip. I mentioned the bachelor party to some of my friends (and the coinciding bachelorette party that I'm attending), and one friend commented incredulously, "You gave him permission to go?!"

It has never dawned on me to require my husband to get my permission to go to on a trip with his friends. Just plain odd.

 

[Freya]

I always think it's funny when people say things like that. What are they, children who need to ask permission for everything they'd like to do? I would never consider asking permission of a man to do something I want to do, unless it involved using something of his to do so - so why would I expect that from another?

 

[Spinaroonie]

Is your husband gay?

Seriously.

Why is he going out to Vegas to watch the Bachelor? #1- That show sucks. #2- He could watch it at home with his friends.

Some times people are weird.

 

[Mischka]

Precisely, Freya. Sometimes I'm just reminded of how lucky I am to be with someone who thinks like me instead of someone who thinks like that.

Spin, you goof. I didn't even think of that show - I've never seen it.

 

[Spinaroonie]

The guy is making the rounds, he was on Letterman tonight, Conan tomorrow, that's why I know.

 

[Ham Murabi]

It has never dawned on me to require my husband to get my permission to go to on a trip with his friends. Just plain odd.

I think there's a limit to this permissive permission. If he strolled out the door announcing he would be back in six months, would your spirit be as blythe?

 

[Freya]

Re: Re: Bachelor Party

I think there's a limit to this permissive permission. If he strolled out the door announcing he would be back in six months, would your spirit be as blythe?

Read the part again that you quoted, and what it's in reference to. She said a trip with friends - for a bachelor party.

 

[Mischka]

Re: Re: Bachelor Party

I think there's a limit to this permissive permission. If he strolled out the door announcing he would be back in six months, would your spirit be as blythe?

I suppose I should put my example in context. Several other guys can't go because their wives/girlfriends refused to let them. I don't get that sort of dynamic.

I could never fathom Mr. Mischka strolling out the door unannounced. We're friends. We talk. It's a relationship, with give and take and loads of respect. Strolling out like that would be out of character. A simple weekend trip with friends is a fun getaway, and on a completely different level.

 

[freakygirl]

hell I won't even let Mr Freaky drive himself to work.. let alone go all the way to Vegas with friends.

I keep him on a short leash.

 

[freakygirl]

boy.. it must be late.

My joke killed this poor thread.

 

[Mischka]

My joke killed this poor thread.

Nah, my threads have a pretty short shelf life. Few get past 10 posts, so this one is right on par.

 

[Spinaroonie]

joke?

I believed it!

You said that Mr. Freaky had sex days!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

When one of our litsters came up from Boston to come see me, my honey said he had no qualms with me staying in the hotel room with him. Nothing happened, and nothing ever would have happened, but all of his friends were incredulous at the fact that he 'gave me permission' to stay in a hotel room with another guy. I never asked for permission, honey didn't GIVE me permission, but he did say that he was okay with it. I would have stayed with my friend if he wasn't okay with it, but it was reassuring to me that he trusts me enough to be okay with me staying in a hotel with some strange guy. (He met the guy, by the way).

I'm the same way. I don;'t have problems with my honey hanging out with other women, because I understand that he loves me, and I trust him. That is all that is needed.

 

[freakygirl]

joke?

I believed it!

You said that Mr. Freaky had sex days!

He does. But that is only because I want his paychecks. No sex. No money. That's our deal. But he is free to go whereever whenever he pleases

 

[freakygirl]

I do want to say..

Mr Freaky and I respect each other. We don't give each other restrictions on things. But we do have a few things that we agreed on a long time ago. They were mutual decisions on things we didn't feel comfortable with.

If something I (or he) wants to do bothers him (or me).. we discuss it and decide on a comfortable alternative.

 

[Cheyenne]

I'm the same way. I don;'t have problems with my honey hanging out with other women, because I understand that he loves me, and I trust him. That is all that is needed.

ditto.

 

[DevilBoy79]

It has never dawned on me to require my husband to get my permission to go to on a trip with his friends. Just plain odd.

i'm happpy with being told the details of where, when and who your going with (just plain outta respect for your S.O is all that is) ,and then the usual you better come home in one piece! speech

 

[brokenbrainwave]

aint no woman gonna tell me I cant go anywhere....

(its safe for me to say that, the wife is at work )

Seriously though, whomever implied he needed permission could probably use some of your trust.

 

[RawHumor]

It also depends if you have kids or not. I've I'm going away for a weekend to go somewhere, you'd better believe that I'm going to ask my wife if she's okay with that? Why? I'm basically telling her that she's watching the kids by herself while I'm gone, or else finding a babysitter. She might have other things going on that are a little more pressing than a bachelor party (or whatever).

She'd give me that same courtesy.

If you don't have kids, then you have a bit more freedom.