Avoiding jealousy in a triangle relationship

[Etoile]

Does anybody have tips for avoiding jealousy in a threesome? I was just in a situation where I was secondary and got my tits sucked while my girlfriend went down on Daddy. I was terribly jealous because I could feel Daddy's hips moving and hear the noises my girlfriend was making. My girlfriend has a jaw problem and hasn't gone down on me in years, so I was jealous of that too. I was intensely jealous but doing okay until Daddy started whispering to me about what my girlfriend was doing, and then I just lost it and started crying, which really put a stop and the action and made my girlfriend upset with me, because I do that a lot and she doesn't get to do much with my Daddy when I'm around, even though we are supposed to be a triangle.

Any suggestions out there for avoiding this kind of real-time, on-the-spot jealousy? What can I do to keep myself from being jealous at that moment? I had already been with Daddy alone several times this weekend, but for whatever reason, knowing that wasn't compensation enough.

This is really wreaking havoc for us, I'd be grateful for any helpful ideas.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[dollface007]

Who says you're "supposed to be" a triangle??? Cut yourself some slack, babe!! You're having problems handling it and anyone can see that including the other 2 people in this relationship. You need to do what's best for you, and if that means not putting yourself through this kind of emotional torture then you shouldn't do it.

 

[Noor]

Maybe I am not understanding this properly but if your girlfriend is capable of going down on Daddy, why not you? If she is, then I can see the problem, she is sharing something with him that she doesn't with you but could.

There seems to be some tension between you and your girlfriend, you should be able to express your feelings, even they are jealous ones and she should help make you feel better by reassuring you and/or finding a way to work it out so you feel better in future situations. My off the cuff solution would be to have Daddy go down on you while she is going down on him.

I don't understand jealousy that well, as I am rarely jealous of other people, I get jealous of inanimate objects such as guitars, pianos...

 

[hogjack]

Does anybody have tips for avoiding jealousy in a threesome? I was just in a situation where I was secondary and got my tits sucked while my girlfriend went down on Daddy. I was terribly jealous because I could feel Daddy's hips moving and hear the noises my girlfriend was making. My girlfriend has a jaw problem and hasn't gone down on me in years, so I was jealous of that too. I was intensely jealous but doing okay until Daddy started whispering to me about what my girlfriend was doing, and then I just lost it and started crying, which really put a stop and the action and made my girlfriend upset with me, because I do that a lot and she doesn't get to do much with my Daddy when I'm around, even though we are supposed to be a triangle.

Any suggestions out there for avoiding this kind of real-time, on-the-spot jealousy? What can I do to keep myself from being jealous at that moment? I had already been with Daddy alone several times this weekend, but for whatever reason, knowing that wasn't compensation enough.

This is really wreaking havoc for us, I'd be grateful for any helpful ideas.

Have a portable DVD player available at the bedside when you're not in the action.

 

[Etoile]

I want to thank everybody for their responses. I have a really hard time remembering that I am loved by both my girlfriend and my Daddy, and that just as I can love both of them, they can love each other and still love me. It's hard being together (for sex) all three at once, so maybe I will just have to avoid that situation as much as possible. If I'm not in the middle, I don't like it (selfish!). I think I'll let this thread die now, as that was yesterday and this is today. But I did want to thank all of you for posting.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I don't think there is some magic button you can push that will turn off your feelings of jealousy. And just ignoring those feelings will more than likely do more harm than good in the long run. It may be that you are able to deal with this over time and using good solid communication with your girlfriend and Daddy. However, I think this might be the main reason you do not see more triangle relationships. Someone always feels a little left out or like they are not being given enough attention. And I think it gets a bit worse when one person in the triangle is the dominate person and the other two are vying for their attention.

Good luck with your situation Etiole, I hope it works out. These are issues that all of us who someday dream about being in a triangle relationship need to know about.

 

[James G 5]

Etoile, just 2 comments..........
from experience, sharing as a group is often harder, especially if you like to be in the middle/the focus
for many submissives certainly part of the appeal is the Dominant's focus on them, and having that diffused is tough

Also, probably THE hardest thing in a group situation is when a partner does something with another partner that she won't do with you
There's NOT a real good answer to that except to ask them not to rub your face in it, so to speak, and work on them doing it with you

Hope it all works out!

James~