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[warrior queen]

I think this was a very good piece of butt.....but even this needs both parties to co operate....I know....mine wouldn't even hear of it! We have been divorced for more than twenty years now.

ahhhh...yes
but at least, by doing something like this, one finds out exactly how much one's partner really has invested within the relationship.

sometimes, finding out is the way to either fix, or fuck, a relationship - but the alternative is....?

well, the alternative is either to have a rwarding, communicative relationship filled with joy, love and understanding - or to live an unfulfilled life, and grow old with regrets.

 

[mortalwombat]

if i may give an opinion - and feel free to completely ignore it if you want....
this sounds like a counselling job.
you need to sit her down and state firmly that you are not happy with the lack of communication within the relationship - and by communication i'm talking verbal AND physical - and demand she attend relationship counselling with you to correct it.
tell her EXACTLY how you're feeling, and don't mince words.
make sure you have some info on relationships australia or similar before you do this though...

and then leave her some time to think on it... but make sure you give her a time-frame, and then stick to it.

communication is a learned thing - it does not just 'happen'.

butting out now.....

thanx wq-we actually did have a very big conversation on this subject a few weeks ago-i was pretty depressed at the time and everything came to a head (i was very hurt that she didn't wear birthday pressent i got her and gave her early to her birthday dinner-she did wear it for breakfast but that wasn't the same. her excuse? " i didn't have an outfit to go with it" funny since she bought an outfit for the night after i gave it to her. she also went out with friends the next day when we booked out of the hotel-without asking me if i wanted to come along-i felt pretty neglected, add to that we spent the night in a hotel by ourselves and nothing happened!) i thought we'd sorted a few things oput and have fely pretty good the last few weeks-however i might have been wrong. as for counsellors-i'm actually the one who would be reluctant to go to one-i have a serious mistrust of counsellors and social workers since i had a few "help" when i was a kid. no doubt we'll work something out-ty for the concern *hugs*

 

[australwind]

My experience was one where I had to take the bull by the horns and decide that the person I needed to help most was myself!

If that meant walking away from a relationship of many years standing.....with noone willing to fight to make me stay..then that was what I had to do and did.....I have never once regretted the move...It was very difficult at first but it was worth it in the long run.

I couldn't find a strong enough reason to stay...especially when he refused to even think about how we could explore saving it. He didn't think there was anything actually wrong!!!!!!!

Everyone finds their own path eventually....just helps to know that others have trodden it...and when they reached that fork they made the choice that suited thier personal needs.

I'm glad that your choice, WQ, has proved to be a happy one...that's all we can hope for, for all of us!

 

[warrior queen]

I'm glad that your choice, WQ, has proved to be a happy one...that's all we can hope for, for all of us!

so am i!

i made the choice in my first marriage to walk away - and i have never regretted it for a second.

this time, there was enough respect and love to make me think twice - and i am happy with the decision i made to stay and fight for something that was so good, and is again.

it's a very personal thing, and i hope wombat finds his personal 'right' in this situation.

but damn! it's hard while you're actually in it

 

[mortalwombat]

so am i!

i made the choice in my first marriage to walk away - and i have never regretted it for a second.

this time, there was enough respect and love to make me think twice - and i am happy with the decision i made to stay and fight for something that was so good, and is again.

it's a very personal thing, and i hope wombat finds his personal 'right' in this situation.

but damn! it's hard while you're actually in it

tell me about it. even as we speak she's not home from work yet.we celebrate our 17th anniversary in november so it's a bit hard to lookm to breaking up-i feel lonely alot of the time now how would i be if i was totally alone?

 

[warrior queen]

tell me about it. even as we speak she's not home from work yet.we celebrate our 17th anniversary in november so it's a bit hard to lookm to breaking up-i feel lonely alot of the time now how would i be if i was totally alone?

i feel the need to point out that relationship counselling is NOT the same as other counselling - it's geared toward teaching effective communication, so that you both can resolve your own issues.
they don't resolve them for you - they just give you the tools to make it a little easier.

 

[Huggles]

aaaaarrrrrggggghhhhhh......!!!

somebody put me out of my misery!!!

i started to use my silk-epil to de-forrest my legs - but had forgotten exactly how much it stings!
got halfway through one leg.... began to rethink the entire ordeal..... and then realised i had no choice but to continue, or it would have looked ridiculous
so now i'm sitting with lashings of cooling aloevera layered all over my lovely hair-free, burning, pink-dotted legs

Get a Seiko Clean Cut Intimate Area Shaver (Used to be called a Feather Touch Razor).. You trim the forest with a beard trimmer (or a Femini which is a custom device for the job).. then you use talc and this device to bring it back to smooth skin.. It's the best thing other than waxing/epilady etc.. It doesn't last as long as waxing, but no pain.. I got pretty good at it..

why do we do this to ourselves?

Because we love it..

Why do I blunder around half blind with itchy eyes wearing contacts when I go to parties???

 

[Huggles]

not me-i still love my V8 and to hell with fuel expense! i might add here that during the week i drive a company van with all fuel paid for.

<hugs his LPG>


<laughs at the people paying $80-$100 at the bowser as he hands his $20 to the cashier>

 

[mortalwombat]

Get a Seiko Clean Cut Intimate Area Shaver (Used to be called a Feather Touch Razor).. You trim the forest with a beard trimmer (or a Femini which is a custom device for the job).. then you use talc and this device to bring it back to smooth skin.. It's the best thing other than waxing/epilady etc.. It doesn't last as long as waxing, but no pain.. I got pretty good at it..



Because we love it..

Why do I blunder around half blind with itchy eyes wearing contacts when I go to parties???

i cant even get my face smooth and with no skin irritation

 

[warrior queen]

Get a Seiko Clean Cut Intimate Area Shaver (Used to be called a Feather Touch Razor)..

do you have these on your site?
coz i haven't been able to locate one.....

Why do I blunder around half blind with itchy eyes wearing contacts when I go to parties???

because you haven't got 'gelflex' lenses!
i had the same problem with mine - till i got these!
16 hours is a breeze with these!
cost approx $149 each.

 

[Huggles]

i cant even get my face smooth and with no skin irritation

You can with one of these..

 

[Orlanth]

Since I've never been married, or living with a partner, I can't omment.

So, hello!

 

[Huggles]

do you have these on your site?
coz i haven't been able to locate one.....

Of course... both the single, and the combo kit.

because you haven't got 'gelflex' lenses!
i had the same problem with mine - till i got these!
16 hours is a breeze with these!
cost approx $149 each.

Whats that?? Remember, up at my power, I don't have a lot of choice.. I can't get dailies at my power.. I use the highest water content bi-weekly disposables.. which are not bad..
(-8.75/-8.5).. And they aren't perfect,and don't correct my astigmatism.. I should get a pair of reading/driving glasses to go with them when I go out so I can at least read.. and not have to squint at road signs when Im getting to the party..

 

[Huggles]

because you haven't got 'gelflex' lenses!
i had the same problem with mine - till i got these!
16 hours is a breeze with these!
cost approx $149 each.

Oh.. BTW.. theres no point me wearing contacts all the time (like at work and stuff)
because they can't correct my eyesite 100%.. so I would have to wear glasses as well anyway..
it just would mean I could wear thin fasionable glasses... so.. <shrug> I only have contacts got "going out"..

 

[warrior queen]

Of course... both the single, and the combo kit.

link me!

Whats that?? Remember, up at my power, I don't have a lot of choice.. I can't get dailies at my power.. I use the highest water content bi-weekly disposables.. which are not bad..
(-8.75/-8.5).. And they aren't perfect,and don't correct my astigmatism.. I should get a pair of reading/driving glasses to go with them when I go out so I can at least read.. and not have to squint at road signs when Im getting to the party..

mine correct all my problems - but they're not disposable.
they're long term ones.
they correct my astigmatism, my short-sightedness, and go some way to correcting my colour irregularity in the left eye.
my eyes are at -12.75/-9.25, yet i'm corrected to within 95% with these.
(and i've been told by the Lions eye institute "actually, we wouldn't consider you for lasik even if you paid triple!")

 

[mortalwombat]

You can with one of these..

got a link to it? and a price?

 

[mortalwombat]

Since I've never been married, or living with a partner, I can't omment.

So, hello!

g'day orlanth

 

[Orlanth]

Oh.. BTW.. theres no point me wearing contacts all the time (like at work and stuff)
because they can't correct my eyesite 100%.. so I would have to wear glasses as well anyway..
it just would mean I could wear thin fasionable glasses... so.. <shrug> I only have contacts got "going out"..

Stuff what people think, I need glasses, so I wear them. If I look ugly, then so be it.

 

[Orlanth]

g'day orlanth

G'day!

 

[Huggles]

link me!

http://www.condomcountry.com.au/item/s-feather-razor

mine correct all my problems - but they're not disposable.
they're long term ones.
they correct my astigmatism, my short-sightedness, and go some way to correcting my colour irregularity in the left eye.
my eyes are at -12.75/-9.25, yet i'm corrected to within 95% with these.
(and i've been told by the Lions eye institute "actually, we wouldn't consider you for lasik even if you paid triple!")

Holy shit!! (My glasses script is -9.5/-9.5) with a slight right aspheric astigmatism.. and a slight red/blue colour shift from left to right, and Drusen near the optic nerve, but no macular degeration.. (yet)

Wow.. And I thought I was the one with the worst sight around.. My doc tells me not to even go NEAR the laser surgery places..

 

[australwind]

Since I've never been married, or living with a partner, I can't omment.

So, hello!

Hello yourself!!

 

[warrior queen]

Stuff what people think, I need glasses, so I wear them. If I look ugly, then so be it.

i like my glasses also

hi orlanth - i missed your coming in!
oops

 

[Orlanth]

Hello yourself!!

Ok, hello elf.

 

[Orlanth]

i like my glasses also

hi orlanth - i missed your coming in!
oops

Sorry, i've never comed in you.

 

[mortalwombat]

simpsons-back later