Attention from Weight Loss

[Blackbird93]

Has anyone else had to deal with newfound attention/ thirst from others just because you got in better shape? I have lost 120+ pounds since the start of 2024, and I have appreciated some of the compliments because it is more to do with how to encourage them to take steps in better health. But, I have also noticed some female friends/co-workers show more flirty attention at times that I do not need to act on. I was seeing family yesterday due to a loss in my family, and my cousin's wife straight up made the comment that if we weren't married anymore we could keep things in the family lol. I'm definitely not going to act on any of this, but it is 50% nice to have the attention but 50% not wanting people to talk to me more just because I have a much improved physique.

 

[panicka3]

Yup, at the age of 19 I weighted 142 kilos. At 25 I dropped down to 85 and noticed that women started to take interest in me. Friends, coworkers and random women i met in bars all of a sudden start flirting with me.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Wow ! Who would of thought ?

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I lost weight a significant amount of weight awhile ago. It was very noticeable in my face. Men starting looking at me like they did when I was young, even if I was out with my family.

It's been a nice confidence boost, but it also makes me wonder how many heavy people immediately get written off as a result of their appearance.

 

[LoneMilf]

A few years ago, I lost a scary amount of weight in a very short period of time. I went from slightly overweight to dangerously underweight within a couple of months. When I was at my lowest weight, I could see bones clearly and I did not look healthy in any way. That was exactly the time I got the most positive comments and attention from guys. Random people would suddenly comment on my appearance and I noticed a significant uptick in the number of guys trying to hit on me. I did not see it as a confidence boost, but a scary reflection of the pressures on especially younger women.

I've since returned to a normal weight. I still get attention and comments, but less than before. I am happy with that.

I've also noticed that there seems to have been a shift the last few years, with more positive appreciation of curves and shape on women. I do hope that will alleviate some of the past influences without going too far to the other extreme.

 

[celined]

I lost about 20 lbs over two years and gained it all back recently. I’m steady declining as it was due to travel, different climates, foods, stress and plane inflammation. But when I was at a comfortable low weight I got much more attention. I’m thinking this was because I was much more confident. I’m a little more belly heavy (same initial weight of 185 but just redistributed) than my photo now and I don’t necessarily like it/ not getting that attention but I know it’s because of my surroundings. Not that I’m unattractive or anything like that. I think the attention from men and women was great, it created a complex in me not only that I wasn’t enough when I was larger but that I’d become “better” unilaterally than just a lighter version of myself.

 

[SigmaJay]

Has anyone else had to deal with newfound attention/ thirst from others?

Yes. When I was in my mid 20s, my wife and I pumped out three kids and I gained a lot of weight (dad bod) with our lifestyle changes. I lost it all in my late 30s and I am in good shape now (6'2", 175). I do notice more positive attention from my wife and other people when I am physically fit.

 

[LoneMilf]

When I was in my mid 20s, my wife and I pumped out three kids

I'd argue you pumped them in, she pumped them out

 

[SigmaJay]

Team effort! She couldn't have done it without me! LOL.

 

[Bryn34]

Has anyone else had to deal with newfound attention/ thirst from others just because you got in better shape? I have lost 120+ pounds since the start of 2024, and I have appreciated some of the compliments because it is more to do with how to encourage them to take steps in better health. But, I have also noticed some female friends/co-workers show more flirty attention at times that I do not need to act on. I was seeing family yesterday due to a loss in my family, and my cousin's wife straight up made the comment that if we weren't married anymore we could keep things in the family lol. I'm definitely not going to act on any of this, but it is 50% nice to have the attention but 50% not wanting people to talk to me more just because I have a much improved physique.

Congrats on the weight loss! That’s awesome

 

[Blackbird93]

Thank you! It took learning a lot of discipline and self-control with my eating/sleeping/exercise habits.

 

[Bryn34]

Thank you! It took learning a lot of discipline and self-control with my eating/sleeping/exercise habits.

In sure it did , good job! You have my attention