Attention BBW's and those who love us!

[Calibetsy]

Ok this goes out to all the BBW's out there. It's a little complicated but well worth the time to answer. When you watch a love story and the skinny girl always gets the guy even if shes the "nerdy" type etc. Does it bother you when she is NEVER the fat chick? I recently watched A Walk To Remember and I thought to myself that's what I want to experience. I want to find the guy who makes a girl like me feel that way. Are there any BBW's who have experienced that? Are there any BBW's lovers out there that have made their girl feel like that? I think women who are BBW's are always expected to be stronger and not to need a man's attentions in the same way put personally I would love it. So if your a BBW or a BBW lover let me know about your own experiences. Please help me gain my hope back.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I agree!

I am a BBW myself and know exactly what you mean. You are right in the movies it is always the thin girl who gets swept off her feet, lives through heartache only to get the big reward in the end. Who says that those things can never happen to a woman who doesn't look that way? I too wish to experience that, even if it's only once in my lifetime. What woman wouldn't want to feel that desired and loved to have a man go out of his way to make her feel as if she's the only woman on the face of the earth. I can only imagine what a beautiful feeling that must be...sighs.

Oh well, never lose faith, right?

 

[Biggie74]

why cant either of you be closer?,am a big guy myself and very romantic and sweet,but dont have one to use that stuff on but myself,and well i already have me

 

[michaelinteas]

In my opinion all bbw's should feel like super models. The difference being that you all got the complete package. Not only are you intelegent, charismatic, full of life, But you are all sexy and a tremendous turn on. I wish I could have all of you to myself.

 

[firstclassmale]

sad but true

your right in the movies the thin girl is swept off her feet and the bedroom scene is the same.but if you read lit.enough you might see there are those of us who adore bbw..

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

In my opinion all bbw's should feel like super models. The difference being that you all got the complete package. Not only are you intelegent, charismatic, full of life, But you are all sexy and a tremendous turn on. I wish I could have all of you to myself.

Bbw's aren't necessarily intelligent, charismatic, or full of life. Some are, some aren't. Just like any other woman. Yes, they deserve the same chances as other women, but it's not a fair world.

 

[ky horn dog]

i love big women the best lover i ever had was a bbw its a pretty face that i look for first size is not that important

 

[Missingmeds]

Bbw's aren't necessarily intelligent, charismatic, or full of life. Some are, some aren't. Just like any other woman. Yes, they deserve the same chances as other women, but it's not a fair world.

We do deserve a chance and you are right it isn't a fair world. But it gets alot better for us when men like you keep your negative thoughts to yourself. We don't need for you to tell us how unfair the world is. We live with that every day. It is always to nice to see a thread where the men who don't mind that we don't look like the media says we should, speaks up.

Sorry for the hijack and I do apologize for inserting my 0.02 cents worth in here.

 

[Calibetsy]

We do deserve a chance and you are right it isn't a fair world. But it gets alot better for us when men like you keep your negative thoughts to yourself. We don't need for you to tell us how unfair the world is. We live with that every day. It is always to nice to see a thread where the men who don't mind that we don't look like the media says we should, speaks up.

Sorry for the hijack and I do apologize for inserting my 0.02 cents worth in here.

Never apologize for your opinion. I wasn't trying to remind people things aren't fair. I was simple wondering if other BBW's felt the way I do. It's something that's been missing in my life and I only realised lately that it was. I also firmly believe that there are men out there who like doing the things we're missing and to hear from those who actually have it in their lives.

One more issue I have with Tv and the media...a couple years back black people and gay people were trying to get others to boycott Tv and movies because they said the weren't bring fairly represented and their images weren't that prevalant on show. I for one want to know where are the plus size people on Tv. Not someone poking fun at us people showing that we can have normal lives the same as everyone else and the majority of the population is plus sized. And that's my 2 cents.

 

[david_42]

The supply of BBWs far exceeds the demand, just like balding middle aged white guys. Learn to live with who you are and accept the simple fact that you may never have sex again.

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

We do deserve a chance and you are right it isn't a fair world. But it gets alot better for us when men like you keep your negative thoughts to yourself. We don't need for you to tell us how unfair the world is. We live with that every day. It is always to nice to see a thread where the men who don't mind that we don't look like the media says we should, speaks up.

Sorry for the hijack and I do apologize for inserting my 0.02 cents worth in here.

Hey now. What's with the hostility? I wasn't putting anyone down, just stating objective facts.

I'm a fat guy, and I will go on record saying it is harder for us to get laid than it ever will be for you. Regardless of how big you are or how unattractive, there will always be a guy desperate enough to sleep with you if you're desperate enough to find him.

It does not go both ways though, so don't get up on your soapbox with me.

Call me negative if you want, but all I'm being is bluntly honest. You could've spared yourself this if you hadn't jumped down my throat.

 

[midnightsleeve]

The supply of BBWs far exceeds the demand, just like balding middle aged white guys. Learn to live with who you are and accept the simple fact that you may never have sex again.

That is just downright funny (not sweetly amusing)...I can't wait to hear the responses to this one.

 

[foofoo416]

I agree with your thoughts on the media's representation of plus sized women. Some men get it too, but you will see a cuddly "teady bear" guy get a cute girl in some shows and films, just look at "Hitch" if you haven't seen it. But you will hardly ever see the big girl get the guy. Only if she loses weight, and they have the actress take off her fat suit! The few times you see any men with larger women, it's treated like a secret fetish. The secret that they have to hide to keep from being made a laughingstock. I know slim women are sexy, and I wish all the time that I could look like that, but I also live in the real world, and men are going to have to wake up and realize that those are a very small percentage of real women.

I may not be tiny, but honey, I can fuck as good as they can! And I'm not so stuck on myself...I like to laugh and have fun. There is nothing like being able to let loose with someone once you're finally over being worried if he'll still be attracted if he sees you naked. When my husband and I got together, it was so wonderful. He didn't care, and that made me not care, and I got so much more comfortable in my skin. Of course, what would really thrill me is to find a man who not only "doesn't care", but thinks it's extremely sexy. A man who can look at me and say, "Fuck, baby, you make me so hard!" Is that so wrong? I think any woman, no matter how she looks, should be able to find that at least once in their life. I have had the sweet romance. Just once, with hubby, but that's why he's my hubby. I'd never had anyone not care and tell me I was beautiful and be proud to take me out. Of course, he doesn't have the biggest libido. That's the one place we don't quite sync. I want it all the time, and he could take it or leave it. So, when looking for romance, just be sure he likes to fuck a lot too! Then you have definitely got the best mixture!

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

Yeah, I definitely don't agree with that last part. It'll be harder to find sex, sure, but it's not impossible. I managed to lose my virginity, which is something I hadn't thought possible until it happened.

 

[Calibetsy]

Wtf???

The supply of BBWs far exceeds the demand, just like balding middle aged white guys. Learn to live with who you are and accept the simple fact that you may never have sex again.

Ok if we're talking about supply and demand, which I have no idea why we are but anyway, I can and have gotten laid three times a day for years without a problem. On the other hand I was talking about love and romance. I am a firm believer that women can have unemotional sex the same way men can I know I have but love is an entirely different creature. I am also not saying that we can't find love because though there are those who don't weight isn't usually the only issue that they face. I'm talking about romance. I'm talking about your man coming home at the end of the day when your standing at the sink making dinner and he comes up behind you and kisses the back of your neck for no other reason than that he loves you. I'm talking about going out to a club and the guy your with turns down the skinny chick making a pass at him because she could never be as sexy in his eyes as your are. Or when your having a hard day at work he calls and says he loves you just because he knows you need it. Sex is wonderful and I think everyone should be having lots of it, but making love is better. And having a man that you can turn on just by the smell of your perfume when you enter the room is priceless.

 

[foofoo416]

Three times a day! Now that's just bragging! LOL.

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

Ok this goes out to all the BBW's out there. It's a little complicated but well worth the time to answer. When you watch a love story and the skinny girl always gets the guy even if shes the "nerdy" type etc. Does it bother you when she is NEVER the fat chick? I recently watched A Walk To Remember and I thought to myself that's what I want to experience. I want to find the guy who makes a girl like me feel that way. Are there any BBW's who have experienced that? Are there any BBW's lovers out there that have made their girl feel like that? I think women who are BBW's are always expected to be stronger and not to need a man's attentions in the same way put personally I would love it. So if your a BBW or a BBW lover let me know about your own experiences. Please help me gain my hope back.

Not sure I qualify as a BBW but I am not the skinny girl. With that said I do like the stories and romance as we all need to see some happy sappy stuff sometimes. I think I did relate more to the movies such as "The Truth about Cats and Dogs" where the girl is not especially beautiful but gets to know the guy over the phone and other such encounters. He falls in love with her personality first, then the rest. I do think most heavier set women have to be more caring, daring, protective of their emotions etc to survive. I like Lit because I think in some of the pics I see normal/real people. Notice i said some. Point being we all are different and all have beautiful things. Perfect isn't perfect if it's due to make up and surgery.

I do think most characters in love stories are small or even if "nerdy" are beautiful. If you took your average girl it would be even more convincing.

As I said I don't consider myself a BBW, I may be in denial here. My husband makes me feel beautiful in every situation no matter how embarassing or stupid. I know in his eyes (no he isn't blind) I am his version of a supermodel. How do I know? He tells me, but not just that. He begs me daily to see myself as he sees me. I think his want for me to see myself in that positive beautiful light is priceless. I feel like a princess.

Here comes the weird part...When we first got together I was smaller, by three sizes. I have gained around 30lbs since we started dating up until our wedding. For the wedding I lost some but now am back where I started. Still he loves me for me. Not my dress size. I think sometimes my size is more of an issue for me than it will ever be for him. I try to look at it in the opposite way. Would I find him attractive if he were 30lbs heavier. Yes, of course....just because it's simply him.

Good luck and remember, never settle.

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

In my opinion all bbw's should feel like super models. The difference being that you all got the complete package. Not only are you intelegent, charismatic, full of life, But you are all sexy and a tremendous turn on. I wish I could have all of you to myself.

Thinkin I need to buy you dinner or something

 

[Calibetsy]

Not sure I qualify as a BBW but I am not the skilly girl. With that said I do like the stories and romance as we all need to see some happy sappy stuff sometimes. I think I did relate more to the movies such as "The Truth about Cats and Dogs" where the girl is not especially beautiful but gets to know the guy over the phone and other such encounters. He falls in love with her personality first, then the rest. I do think most heavier set women have to be more caring, daring, protective of their emotions etc to survive. I like Lit because I think in some of the pics I see normal/real people. Notice i said some. Point being we all are different and all have beautiful things. Perfect isn't perfect if it's due to make up and surgery.

I do think most characters in love stories are small or even if "nerdy" are beautiful. If you took your average girl it would be even more convincing.

As I said I don't consider myself a BBW, I may be in denial here. My husband makes me feel beautiful in every situation no matter how embarassing or stupid. I know in his eyes (no he isn't blind) I am his version of a supermodel. How do I know? He tells me, but not just that. He begs me daily to see myself as he sees me. I think his want for me to see myself in that positive beautiful light is priceless. I feel like a princess.

Here comes the weird part...When we first got together I was smaller, by three sizes. I have gained around 30lbs since we started dating up until our wedding. For the wedding I lost some but now am back where I started. Still he loves me for me. Not my dress size. I think sometimes my size is more of an issue for me than it will ever be for him. I try to look at it in the opposite way. Would I find him attractive if he were 30lbs heavier. Yes, of course....just because it's simply him.

Good luck and remember, never settle.

Amen and in my opinion...true love

 

[shift25]

If there was a BBW near me, and she was a cool woman, I wouldnt mind being with her at all.

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

If there was a BBW near me, and she was a cool woman, I wouldnt mind being with her at all.

Not minding and being wild about her is a little different. When you think of all the people in this world, hell even on these boards. Don't you think you should be able to find the one that finds all of those quirks about you, no matter what they are wonderful? I know it's easy to say but giving yourself to anyone just to say you had "something" isn't good for you. I know I would have settled if he had not come along. Thank god I waited because he was more than worth the wait.

 

[kittenartist]

Ok this goes out to all the BBW's out there. It's a little complicated but well worth the time to answer. When you watch a love story and the skinny girl always gets the guy even if shes the "nerdy" type etc. Does it bother you when she is NEVER the fat chick? I recently watched A Walk To Remember and I thought to myself that's what I want to experience. I want to find the guy who makes a girl like me feel that way. Are there any BBW's who have experienced that? Are there any BBW's lovers out there that have made their girl feel like that? I think women who are BBW's are always expected to be stronger and not to need a man's attentions in the same way put personally I would love it. So if your a BBW or a BBW lover let me know about your own experiences. Please help me gain my hope back.

The skinny girl getting the guy is annoying but not always the case. There was a movie awhile back about a bigger girl being a model and getting the guy... the name escapes me. Also, ok, yeah, kid's movie, but having just watched Shrek I kinda have to point out the it was not the skinny version of the princess that won in the end. Granted, she was an ogre, but a gorgeous ogre.

Also, I've had the sweep me off my feet romance - and married the man. Heh. He thinks I am the most beautiful person on earth, even when I hate myself in the mirror. He does not just feel ok with how I look but actually fawns all over me and shows me physically how much he enjoys every inch. He is beyond proud to have me on his arm when we go out - especially when I dress up. He is not overly romantic in the classic sense, he is a little more logical than most (the curse of dating a programmer) and misses some more subtle emotional bits. However, he does show his love in millions of ways, from random kisses when I least expect them to running out in the cold to buy me bread because I suddenly had a craving (just now).

Just thought I'd share

 

[BlueAngelGal73]

I agree with your assessment calibetsy..I am too tired of seeing the skinny girl always get the guy in the movie...The media does not want to portray us BBW's as beautiful, when we have every right to be portrayed that way as we are.

I agree about wanting the romance...I adore romance and just because I am not stick thin then does that mean I can not receive the romance...

I hope to one day find that loving romance..The way it goes inthe movies....

Great thread by the way!

 

[itsanalias1000]

Trying to figure out when and why it changed. The models in the 50s and even 60s would be considered overweight by todays standards. Somewhere after that the media started feeding us to be accepted you have to be this size and weight, and used plastic surgery to enhance what wasn't real.

I believe each woman is unique and should be respected as an individual for who they are no matter the size shape or looks. I would rather see somebody on the screen that is real instead of somebody that has conformed to what they think society wants.

 

[Calibetsy]

When it changed

Trying to figure out when and why it changed. The models in the 50s and even 60s would be considered overweight by todays standards. Somewhere after that the media started feeding us to be accepted you have to be this size and weight, and used plastic surgery to enhance what wasn't real.

I believe each woman is unique and should be respected as an individual for who they are no matter the size shape or looks. I would rather see somebody on the screen that is real instead of somebody that has conformed to what they think society wants.

It changed when a women named Twiggy became what people considered the ultimate.