At what point does the condom/spermicide, etc come into play?

[Cirrus]

I'm a real idiot sometimes. I messed up. I switched birth control pills from Ortho Cyclen to Tri-Cyclen and took the placebos first. No chance of pregnancy since I still had my period the last time He and I had sex, but now we have to use a backup method for the remaining 3 weeks of the pack.

He's an older man and usually doesn't get an erection without some sort of direct stimulation. We've used condoms in the past (once when I was on antibiotics) and we both HATE them. We've tried polyurethane, Inspiral, ultra-thin...we just hate 'em.

I know there are those of you here with multiple or occasional partners who either need birth control or practice safer sex. At what point, if male, do you don the condom, or if you choose a spermicide at what point do you insert it, ladies? I'm thinking if I'm tied, the spermicide might be a problem since a lot of that stuff you have to have sex RIGHT after you put it in for it to work best, and a condom can be a real mood breaker even in the best of circumstances.

Any ideas that might still be fun?

 

[NemoAlia]

Aside from having oral sex/anal sex/mutual masturbation/hand jobs/foot jobs...

There's not all that much that I've figured out how to do in order to practice safer sex without breaking the mood. The best thing I've come up with is that spermicidal film. Sadly, this is not the most effective form of birth control. However, you have a little more leeway as far as timing goes, since it takes 15 minutes to dissolve fully anyway, and then it's good for usually 1-3 hours, depending on which brand you're looking at.

Still, like I said, it's not nearly as effective as birth control oughta be.

Me? I have an IUD. It's going on three months old, and I'm only now getting used to its presence. I was hooked on its convenience and reliability right from the start, though!

 

[MzChrista]

Finally a thread where I have nothing I can contribute.
hahaha

 

[Red Menace]

Ah ha! And a thread where I CAN contribute....

Depo-Provera is my drug of choice. I don't have a period anymore. At all. Ever. And I only have to think about it once every three months. And it's the second most effective birth control method right next to a vastectomy. Which, let's face it... is not the easiest thing in the world to get a guy to do.

 

[James Blandings]

I'm a real idiot sometimes. I messed up. I switched birth control pills from Ortho Cyclen to Tri-Cyclen and took the placebos first. No chance of pregnancy since I still had my period the last time He and I had sex, but now we have to use a backup method for the remaining 3 weeks of the pack.

He's an older man and usually doesn't get an erection without some sort of direct stimulation. We've used condoms in the past (once when I was on antibiotics) and we both HATE them. We've tried polyurethane, Inspiral, ultra-thin...we just hate 'em.

I know there are those of you here with multiple or occasional partners who either need birth control or practice safer sex. At what point, if male, do you don the condom, or if you choose a spermicide at what point do you insert it, ladies? I'm thinking if I'm tied, the spermicide might be a problem since a lot of that stuff you have to have sex RIGHT after you put it in for it to work best, and a condom can be a real mood breaker even in the best of circumstances.

Any ideas that might still be fun?

Have you tried the putting the condom on with your mouth trick? It isn't that hard you just place it in the front of your mouth and go down on him, unrolling it with your lips.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

We haven't had to use birth control in 4 years. Master had a vasectomy after our third was born. I agree on the hating condoms thing....always was a mood breaker for us too. And if you try what James has suggested, make sure its the ones without the spermacide on them. That stuff tastes just nasty....don't ask me how I know ok.


dixi

 

[Red Menace]

Ewww. The ones without spermicide taste bad enough...

 

[SexyChele]

On the pill now, but in the recent past I used a diaphram. No, not a substitute for safe sex - but then, I'm not into the whole casual thing anyway. A diaphram can be placed well before sex initiates so a woman can insert it herself. Or, which is sometimes even more arousing, her partner can do it for her. They are pretty simple to insert, and the feel of your partner doing this while bound and blindfolded is, well, what can say?

Good luck!

 

[cymbidia]

~waving my hand wildly~

I did casual BDSM style sex! I did it from last February through to the middle of July. There were, umm, let's not go into numbers of partners, okay? Suffice it to say that i just don't get that whole self-denial thing. I'm a child of 70's, you know? We don't do chastity.

Okay.
So.
How to use condoms and still keep the heat up on high? What about a spermicide?

Since i've never in my life used a spermicide so i don't know firsthand about that one, darlin', sorry. However, i do know about condoms.

If you're free (not bound) then work it on while you're licking his balls or biting his nips or something in the "direct stimulation" family. Another good thing, hot and wild, is to look directly into his eyes while you're rolling the thing on and tell him how good his cock is gonna feel in your ass/pussy, how much you want it and him and how much he excites you. Men dig that looking into the eyes thing while you're telling them, panting, how much you want them to fuck you.

If you're bound, do much the same thing - use your words. Use your brain. Use the heat that's flowing between you while he's putting it on. Use all the forbidden words, the dirty words, the crude stuff. Beg. Pant. Writhe. It's all for-real stuff - you just gotta let it out while he's putting the condom on.

That's how i did it, anyway.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Another good thing, hot and wild, is to look directly into his eyes while you're rolling the thing on and tell him how good his cock is gonna feel in your ass/pussy, how much you want it and him and how much he excites you. Men dig that looking into the eyes thing while you're telling them, panting, how much you want them to fuck you.

Us men are so easy... LOL

PBW "Whatever you do... please don't stop."

 

[WillowPuss]

And if you try what James has suggested, make sure its the ones without the spermacide on them. That stuff tastes just nasty....don't ask me how I know ok.


dixi

Don't they do flavoured ones now?

I can't help much with this - hystroectomy nine years ago took care of all that

 

[Dr. B Evil]

Have him...

...knock three times ...on the back door if you wa-aa-nt it.

 

[Minout]

No chance of pregnancy since I still had my period the last time He and I had sex.

I hate to burst your bubble but, you CAN get pregnant during your period. Been there, done that, got the 4 year old and a t-shirt to prove it!

At what point, if male, do you don the condom

About 2 seconds before anything leaks/drips/exudes (insert your own favourite word here) out of his dick you should have a condom on (if you are using condoms as a method of birth control). You become pregnant when 1 sperm meets your egg. There are countless (Ok not countless but I think you get the idea) sperm in a single drop of cum.

...knock three times ...on the back door if you wa-aa-nt it.

Nope that doesn't guarantee anything either. See the bit about the 4 year old and the t-shirt.

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