At what point does hanging out here start looking like a porn addiction?

[GrushaVashnadze]

I'm addicted to porn.
Erotica is porn.
QED

 

[DeMont]

I guess at some level the test for addiction is pretty consistent across addictions: are you neglecting other responsibilities? Is it making you unhappy? Does it feel compulsory?

And, no, none of these, yet.

But...I sure do spend a lot of time reading, writing, and thinking about fictitious sex.

Has anyone here considered themselves to have crossed the line? What did that look like?

@joy_of_cooking,
My dear colleague, you sure do come up with some intriguing questions that's for sure. Keep 'em coming, keeps the mind sharp!

In the short version I would say you hit the nail on the head already with your observations about neglecting other responsibilities.

My question is, what other responsibilities? Eating, sleeping, taking care of the household, visiting friends and family that, until now, you have visited regularly (i.e. social seclusion)
grocery shopping, paying bills, not supervising the kids etc. etc. - I could go on. It has been my experience, observation wise, that these are sure fire signs of something having become addictive.

Do you mean, do you walk around in public just "people watching" and imagine what their sex-lives are like, making up vignettes in your head about couples as you wander along, wonder about work colleagues that seem to get on well, and work together well?

There are, in my opinion, many levels to "addiction", it's not just a "go to whoa" situation. Likening it, for example, to illicit narcotics someone, somewhere and at sometime gave the addict their first puff of mary-jane, or their first E at a party. I do not think I have crossed any lines. Sure, I am here quite frequently, usually after everyone else has gone to sleep. I like to engage, I like to explore "ideas", "concepts" and so forth but I don't merely use them for writing stories for Lit, I also employ things I pick up things here for utilisation in other, non-lit writings (I currently have four concepts in the research stage)

In short, I don't think I am addicted and neither will I become addicted. I still have a life in the daytime.
Most respectfully,
D.