ass play

[cymrocock]

For me and her...

I've always been an ass man and I've finally found someone who feels the same way, not only does she love my ass but she is into us exploring anal and loves to be spanked. We have also discovered that her playing with my asshole acts like a kind of instant 'erectionator', and she gets ridiculously turned on doing it.

We have tried anal with my cock in the throes of passion, but with no lube it was pretty impossible and she didn't enjoy it. I have started inserting a finger during sex and she enjoys this. not meaning to blow my own trumpet (If I could, would I be posting on here etc. etc.) but I have a large cock - I'm 6' 5", it's a proportion thing. so I'm guessing this may complicate things.

I guess I'm just looking for any hints and tips you may have, for both of us, suggestions for lube, toys that may help, techniques for getting into her ass...anything really.

all help will be greatfully, and avidly , received.

 

[buxxxom]

Check the Blank Manual. It's a sticky at the beginning of this forum. There is a wealth of knowledge to be found there.

 

[SweetErika]

Yep, The Blank Manual sticky at the top of How To is where you need to go. Halo_n_horns' post(s) were especially helpful to us, as was silicone lube, a vibe on my clit and me initiating movement (then he takes over when I'm comfortable). It took us many tries to get it right, so keep practicing unless one of you decides you hate ass play (some are like that).

NEVER EVER attempt penetration of any type without copious amounts of lube - not only will it hurt, there's a high risk of tearing the tissue, which is serious due to infection and slow-healing nature of the area. When you think you have plenty of lube (NOT spit or KY or double dipping in her pussy), add a lot more.

Also cock size has little to do with height. Some of the tallest men I've been with had the smallest cocks. If she's worried about your size, work up to a toy that's wider than you are (put a condom on it and have her use it on you first, so you know how it'll feel for her); also realize the colon isn't that long (not more that 6" usually), so you may not be able to penetrate her fully.

 

[LastoftheGentlemen]

Too much lube is ALMOST enough

You need lots of lube - then a little more lube, and just in case things are not slippery enough, perhaps a touch more lube after that. Forget how it works in most porn movies - a drop of spit is no good at all. A good lube makes all the difference (Personally, I find Super Slik is excellent, but each to their own).

You may also wait to try anal penetration until after you've cum once - the second erection is a little less firm, and is slightly easier to guide in without causing discomfort ( I can say from experience that this doesn't always need to be the case, but in the early days, it sure helped). It is also worth making sure that she is really turned on - extended sessions of foreplay are not only fun, but will make "accessing the tradesman's entrance" much easier.

Never underestimate the value of a selection of butt plugs, starting from the very small to the "quite" large - depending on your / her personal taste. Again, plenty of lube, then slowly and gently insert the plug (perhaps with a slow twist as it goes in). Once completely in and comfortable, leave it there for a little while.

The biggest hint I would offer though is communication. Let her tell you what feels good and what doesn't. If something doesn't feel right, back off and let her guide you, or perhaps take a break altogether. Not only will she feel safer this way, but also far more likely to keep trying.

I haven't slept for almost 24 hours now, so if any of this doesn't make sense, drop me a line and I'll try to elaborate.

 

[cymrocock]

Thanks folks, I will try that thread.

We tried again the other night and got much further - I actually got in - but had to stop because it hurt for her. I think we have to prepare properly instead of just going for it when we're both really horny.

This was a second erection and therefore a bit softer but I got really hard at the thought and visuals of putting it in.

 

[SubNebGuy]

lube, lube, and then more lube.
start with a finger too, and the harder your cock, the better, since the anus resists insertion to begin with.

 

[Amora]

From a woman's side

Experiment with different positions too, some are just easier, particulaely the spoons position. Allow her to control the speed at which you enter. Whilst in the spoons get her to reach back and gradually guide you in by placing her hand between her ass and you with thumb and forefinger around your cock. That should mean she is in control.

Use lots of lube, seriously, when you think it's enough you still need more, and rememebr to play with her clit as you start off, that will help her to relac. Stop and let her get used to the sensation and get her to push against you, like she is having a bowel movement to open herself out a bit.

Then just take your time. Starting with fingers or even a small butt plug can be helpful. In fact sometimes the small plugs are better than fingers because of their regular and slicker shape.

Good luck and have fun

Amora

 

[MaraJade1978]

another position that works well for me for anal is missionary with my hips propped up on a pillow. Also maybe try her being on top, that way she feels like she has a little more control and is open a bit wider? That works for me as well.

Best of luck!!!

 

[stripey_type_person]

i have been on the receiving end of a large cock (yes height and size is a proportion thing) and my partner made sure that i came at least 3-4 times before attempting anything. it also helped that he is bi and took things slowly.
lube, lube ,lube

 

[TBKahuna123]

I think we have to prepare properly instead of just going for it when we're both really horny.

You are absolutely right. I'm sure some couples might be able to do it, but I have never been with a woman who could jsut go for it. You have to take the time and have patience. Some people think this need for preparation takes something away form the experience, but I disagree. It's all in your attitude while you prepare. If you do it right it can be jsut as erotic and arousing as just going for it, and even more so when you actually accomplish penetration.

 

[Bottomlover]

it also helped that he is bi and took things slowly.

Bingo. My advice to the OP is to experiment with a toy in his own ass, and then try it with his partner controlling the toy. This will give one a pretty good idea of how to make it good for his partner.

 

[cymrocock]

thanks again, we both enjoy each other's fingers in our asses.

lots of lube and taking it slow is what we haven't tried, believe me we will. Spoons or the position shown in the incrediby erotic pic in the Black book thread sounds like a goer as well.

thanks for all your best wishes!

 

[BreeCarter]

For me and her...

I've always been an ass man and I've finally found someone who feels the same way, not only does she love my ass but she is into us exploring anal and loves to be spanked. We have also discovered that her playing with my asshole acts like a kind of instant 'erectionator', and she gets ridiculously turned on doing it.

We have tried anal with my cock in the throes of passion, but with no lube it was pretty impossible and she didn't enjoy it. I have started inserting a finger during sex and she enjoys this. not meaning to blow my own trumpet (If I could, would I be posting on here etc. etc.) but I have a large cock - I'm 6' 5", it's a proportion thing. so I'm guessing this may complicate things.

I guess I'm just looking for any hints and tips you may have, for both of us, suggestions for lube, toys that may help, techniques for getting into her ass...anything really.

all help will be greatfully, and avidly , received.

we use adam and eve's anal lube, and it works well and has a very slight numbing agent to help ease it in. as far as toys, we've had anal beads, butt plugs, and dildos. we personally are wanting to try out a double ended for both of us, but all we've found so far is the jelly kind, which i would not suggest for anyone to use (jelly anything) for anal, because it burns like sin, and has also been confirmed by several others on here, as well as several toy stores. but definitely start with fingers, and slowly work your way up to bigger things, and for god's sake don't EVER try to just go in there with your cock and no lube, are you insane? and keep the line of communication completely open. TAKE YOUR TIME!