Ass fucking

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""If you're really nice I'll send you a private email with some details...""

So what would you describe as "really nice." Maybe we could negotiate. What about 30 orgasms? 40? What time period? You want I should stop when you pass out or keep going?

Just the first interview could be such an epiphany for you - and your bum...
 
alright I'm curious

I understand the attraction for men, the tight fit etc. etc. but as a woman I have never once enjoyed it!! NOT ONCE!!!
Now I have had folks tell me that this is because it was done all wrong, that if I'd just had a skilled anal lover I'd be on the butt love bandwagon in two shakes!!

So....my question is this, what is the " right way"? I've had guys who were so damn gentle I fell asleep! Guys who used enough lube to grease a pig! I've had guys with thick cocks try, guys with skinny cocks try, you name it! I have never had ONE positive anal experience. Generally speaking the pain upon initial entry is enough to make me scream and then even if I get passed that the skin around my anus tears and then bleeds once he begins to thrust no matter how well lubed I am. In addittion to the unpleasantness of blood coming from my ass, I almost always have very sharp pain in my hips and back regsardless of positioning.
Maybe I'm just a freak, and maybe EVERY single guy who's tried has really done it wrong, but given what I've gone through with anal I have to say I'm one of the woman who won't let a man within a mile of her backdoor.
 
PinkOrchid said:
Ok, I need to know if this is just me, or is this relatively common. I don't think it's any great secret that I love anal sex, but most of the guys I've been involved with prefer vaginal sex, to the point where it's a big deal to get a good ass-fucking.

What's up with that??? Is that the case for most guys, or am I just finding the weirdos?

i like both fucking a woman in her pussy and ass.


so does this make me weird?
 
Re: alright I'm curious

Mstrskey said:
I understand the attraction for men, the tight fit etc. etc. but as a woman I have never once enjoyed it!! NOT ONCE!!!
Now I have had folks tell me that this is because it was done all wrong, that if I'd just had a skilled anal lover I'd be on the butt love bandwagon in two shakes!!
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Maybe I'm just a freak, and maybe EVERY single guy who's tried has really done it wrong, but given what I've gone through with anal I have to say I'm one of the woman who won't let a man within a mile of her backdoor.

No, you are not a freak. As with every sexual practice, anal sex just 'works' for some people and not for others. If you don't like it, for ANY reason, you don't have to do it. (And you sure as heck shouldn't put up with any guy who says otherwise!)

Given your experiences, I can certainly understand why you don't like it. And particularly since you've tried it several times, your decision is an informed one and therefore even MORE understandable.

Anytime you have pain and bleeding, something is going WRONG and you should stop. You are under no obligation to anyone to engage in anal sex. Anyone who won't respect that decision doesn't deserve ANY kind of sex. Draw a line in the sheets and stick to it. You're not a freak; you're self-aware. *HUG*
 
Well I havn't had anal sex yet. The biggest reason is that when I suggest it the response I have gotten everytime is "Your not putting that thing in my ass". So I just figured that most women don't like anal sex. I'm willing to give it a go because I havn't done it but I havn't found a girl willing to let me in her ass yet *shrug*

Dizzy
 
PinkOrchid said:
I want to scream and fight and thrash about until I pass out. Throw some water on my face, repeat 3-4x, fuck me REALLY hard, and then we can talk.

Pink,

Now you're talking the language of anal. It's wild. Even if done gently, it's nasty, taboo, a power exchange. In my fantasy of the moment, you let the slutt out verbally. You talk dirty, nasty, filthy. You do everything you can to provoke a response like,

'you dirty sexy little fucking slutt whore, you think you know what you're asking for? You don't even have a clue what you're going to get now.'

Tried anything like that?

:devil:
 
Working a man up to it

Hubby didn't like the idea, initially. I did like the idea, a lot. Even as a teenager, I used toys in my ass. I asked him several times over a period of years and he didn't even want to try. He's hung up about causing me pain, and also thought of anal sex as dirty.

Then about a year ago I did some research online and even bought a book. I told him what I'd found out about the general technique and left the book where he could read it. That got results. Nothing like a how-to manual where men are concerned! The first few times we tried, he couldn't keep enough of an erection to get inside. That was discouraging, but I didn't beat him up about it.

The first time we succeeded, I came like crazy. After fantasizing about it for years and using toys, finally having a cock in my butt was incredible. He complained that it was so tight it hurt him to ejaculate--but he did ejaculate. After a few more experiences, he got used to the tightness. The last time we did it, he was so turned on he pounded me like a wild man. Now that's what I was going for. ;-)

Like everything else, anal sex is something you have to learn, and it is not the simplest or most intuitive form of sex. You do have to know what you are doing in a way that doesn't apply for plain vanilla vaginal or oral. Don't come down hard on yourself or on your partner if it takes a while to get it right. Patience can pay off. Of course, I'm talking about a long-established marriage--there are relationships where that approach would certainly take much too long. It DID take too long, IMO, since I would have been willing to give it a shot in 1982, but hey. Better late than never!

From his perspective, it has to be at a time of day when he isn't tired and when we won't be interrupted by little voices outside the bedroom door. For me, I have to be well turned on, with plenty of finger and butt plug insertion first to loosen me up, and my heinie has to be in the mood. Don't ask me why, though it's well documented in the literature--sometimes asses are fit to be fucked, and sometimes they are not. They are very much affected by your general mood and state of health, and by more mysterious factors. I occasionally pop out a hemorrhoid, and obviously that's not a good time!

So I have to tell him flat out whether my booty is looking for love or not. He can't guess. We don't do it every day. It takes me a little while to recover, though with good prep I have no aftereffects to speak of. It's more like once a month at the moment. But I have the feeling it's going to increase in frequency. ;-)

MM
 
Re: alright I'm curious

Mstrskey said:
. . .Maybe I'm just a freak, and maybe EVERY single guy who's tried has really done it wrong, but given what I've gone through with anal I have to say I'm one of the woman who won't let a man within a mile of her backdoor.


Some people (male or female) are just not anally erotic. That's all. It feels intensely wonderful for some people while it is merely annoying or irritating for others.

One suggestion I would have for novices is to take some time to explore yourself. Use fingers, toys, whatever, just take some time to get acquainted with your body.

If anal self-exploration isn't erotic for you in any way, cross it off your list and forget about it! You can honestly say you've tried it many times and it just isn't your thing (and then you say, "but you can lick my pussy all you want, baby").

:D
 
Re: alright I'm curious

Mstrskey said:
In addition to the unpleasantness of blood coming from my ass, I almost always have very sharp pain in my hips and back regardless of positioning.

Some people have a bend or kink in the rectum, and any kind of anal insertion beyond an inch or so hurts no matter what. That's obviously something you have to take seriously, because injury is a real possibility. Listen to your ass--it knows best. And checking with your doctor might be a good idea.

MM
 
Alright...I asked my doc...

there's a conversation ya never think you'll be having with your OBGYN ya know?!

and she basically said what Madame Manga said about a bend or deviation in the rectum, which under normal circumstances causes nothing more then a minor discomfort during bowel movements, but when subject to invasive penetration.-i.e. anal intercourse- it can perforate or tear and cause quite a goodly amount of pain. The cramping in the hips and back is apparently a result of trying to tilt my body in such a way as to avoid the pain of penetration.

Ya learn somethin everyday!!!
 
cybin said:
Pink,

Now you're talking the language of anal. It's wild. Even if done gently, it's nasty, taboo, a power exchange. In my fantasy of the moment, you let the slutt out verbally. You talk dirty, nasty, filthy. You do everything you can to provoke a response like,

'you dirty sexy little fucking slutt whore, you think you know what you're asking for? You don't even have a clue what you're going to get now.'

Tried anything like that?

:devil:

Oh, wow.

Wanna fuck? :D

S.
 
PinkOrchid said:
My EXACT thoughts.

Makes me hot and wet every time I read it. (Which is more often than I'm willing to admit.)

Ahem. I'm not admitting anything, either! But the views on this thread are going up...and up...and up...

Oh, by the way. This response happens to be your 666th post. Hehehehe! :devil:

S.
 
PinkOrchid said:
I've gotten a lot of interesting PMs from it as well. :D All this fuss over me getting a little bitchy because I can't get fucked the way I want, lol.

Now now, darling... calm down. Good things come to those who wait. And you bitchy??? Hardly!

Demanding yes, but why not??;)
 
sheath said:
Oh, wow.

Wanna fuck? :D

S.

yanno, what you & Pink & Cyb are talking about sounds like the last time I had anal lo these many years ago
How come I can't meet any women like you & Pink RT that're interested in what I have to offer?
LOL
 
Re: Re: Re: alright I'm curious

PinkOrchid said:
Not a bad alternative!

And even if insertion isn't for you, maybe rimming, as part of oral pleasure, is.

Commentary as an anal-erotic guy here
I enjoy stimulating my partner, and I have had a few try insertion with my (fingers).
It does nothing for me....no discomfort, just no response.
But a good rimming?
MMMMMMMMM :D
 
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