Asked My Co-Worker if He wants me to Suck Him

[nirmal1979]

Hello:

Lately I was attracted to one of my co-worker who is very good friend with me. We will often talk about sex life and I figured that he is not getting a head from his wife.

So one day we went for drinks and I took advantage. I asked him if he wants then I can suck his cock just for fun. But do not tell anyone.....

He trust me as well...and he smiled and said no... He mentioned that he can not imagine a guy....so I threw a line saying if you ever want to get sucked let me know.... we can do it. He told me that if that thing ever happens he will let me know....


We are still friends...we meet for coffee break.... today when I mentioned him to come over for drinks...he agreed but said his wife doesnt want him to drive after drinks...so I offered that he can stay over if he wants and he agreed.....

Is he really thinking to let me suck him?

 

[klippert]

you will....if he isn't getting any at home...not just head. if the home fires are just warm amber..... he'll take you up on the cock-sucking suggestion. If he's at least getting laid...might be a while. Don't push it.

One day he'll....say....'were you serious about......"

 

[nirmal1979]

you will....if he isn't getting any at home...not just head. if the home fires are just warm amber..... he'll take you up on the cock-sucking suggestion. If he's at least getting laid...might be a while. Don't push it.

One day he'll....say....'were you serious about......"

Cool.... Do you think I should ask him again not always but occasionally?

If he stays over what should I do?

 

[Hitchiker69]

Don't get ahead of yourself...take it one step at a time.
First, get him to your place
Second, get a few drinks in him
Third, be suggestive and available, maybe a little assertive. You'll need to take the lead here.

Nature will take it's course when the conditions are right. Your job is to set up the right conditions.

If all goes well he will want to come back again and again.

 

[nirmal1979]

Ok so now I am meeting my coworker for drinks at my place. I managed to plan it. I am nervous as how should I go about this.

I mean strategy or ways to get his agreement ... How should I make move and what would be the right time to ask him? How?

 

[rbone04]

Ok so now I am meeting my coworker for drinks at my place. I managed to plan it. I am nervous as how should I go about this.

I mean strategy or ways to get his agreement ... How should I make move and what would be the right time to ask him? How?

You should take everyone else's advice here and NOT make a move or ask him. It's not as if he just forgot you asked him if he wanted you to blow him. Just be your casual self, and hope for the best. If he wants it, you can bet the farm he'll make his desires known if/when he's ready.

 

[nirmal1979]

Should I hint it one more time while talking to him? He is going to be with me for few hours in the evening.

 

[rbone04]

Should I hint it one more time while talking to him? He is going to be with me for few hours in the evening.

I wouldn't if I were you... you took a big chance by asking him in the first place, and luckily it ended well. Even though he didn't take you up on the offer, you guys are still friends. You never know what his tolerance for your suggestive remarks may be. It seems as though he is currently completely comfortable and doesn't feel pressured by you right now, even if he's not at all interested under any circumstances. However, just as he respected your desires, he would certainly expect you to respect his in return. Bringing it up again, if even just a hint, might be enough to breach that respect and at the very least have a negative impact on the friendship. At worst could lead to major fallout, public scrutiny (which I imagine you would like to avoid, seeing as your inquiry alone suggests you might be new to exploring men sexually), and possibly thoughts of sexual harassment in the workplace on his behalf.

Again... He will NEVER forget the fact that you propositioned him in the first place. If he's into it, he will let you know.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Should I hint it one more time while talking to him? He is going to be with me for few hours in the evening.

No, you should shut the fuck up.

You told him, he said no. No does NOT mean yes. YES means yes.

He's willing to still be your friend, which is very tolerant of him, some hetero guys would beat the crap out of you. Some women would too, or get a dude to do it for them.

If you keep on pestering him you're going to end up losing your job over it. No coworker wants to be harassed about YOUR desires.

 

[nirmal1979]

Just a note... Drinks and dinner meeting is not at work. It's after hours

I won't ask again but just for clarification.

 

[EMPRESSLAINIE]

I remember when I was 18-20 and having an affair with someone at work.
We tried to act at work like we hated each other. I think everyone saw through us.

 

[clcoog]

Just a note... Drinks and dinner meeting is not at work. It's after hours

I won't ask again but just for clarification.

I work in HR - it doesn't matter in the slightest that it's not at work, or after hours. Many boss/secretary-type issues happen off of company grounds and during non-work hours. Obviously I don't know where you work, but don't think that being off of company property during non-work hours gives you carte blanche with a co-worker.

 

[nirmal1979]

Agree and thx for advice

 

[Cookie123]

It looks like everyone else said what I was thinking
Would love an update on how tonight went.
I have had a couple office flings..years ago. They both ended badly and I was forced to look at them 5 days a week for years. It wasn't comfortable.

 

[nirmal1979]

It looks like everyone else said what I was thinking
Would love an update on how tonight went.
I have had a couple office flings..years ago. They both ended badly and I was forced to look at them 5 days a week for years. It wasn't comfortable.

It's tomorrow. As everyone suggested I ain't going to do anything.

By the way what was your story? I mean, is it possible for you to share your story and situations? How did you approach and what went wrong?

 

[Cookie123]

Please, please..do not type, 'ain't' again. Pet peeve of mine. Thank you, sweetheart I have no idea if he came over for drinks or not..


Send me a pm later One was my boss, the other was under me. They never knew about each other, that I know of. It became very complicated!

It's tomorrow. As everyone suggested I ain't going to do anything.

By the way what was your story? I mean, is it possible for you to share your story and situations? How did you approach and what went wrong?

 

[Somehowyou]

I work in HR - it doesn't matter in the slightest that it's not at work, or after hours. Many boss/secretary-type issues happen off of company grounds and during non-work hours. Obviously I don't know where you work, but don't think that being off of company property during non-work hours gives you carte blanche with a co-worker.

I think what is important is what are the lines of reporting. If you are not responsible for managing this person or vice versa, than you can technically become romantically involved.

However, you laid oyur cards out on the table and he said no. You planted the seed and it is now his turn to make the next move. Have drinks and attend a strip club or meat market type club. When he sleeps over sit next to him on the couch for a night cap and watch skin to the max or pop in some porn or something. He will let you know if he changes his mind. Maybe he will plant his seed down your throat?

 

[Somehowyou]

It looks like everyone else said what I was thinking
Would love an update on how tonight went.
I have had a couple office flings..years ago. They both ended badly and I was forced to look at them 5 days a week for years. It wasn't comfortable.

And I have had more than a few and they ended amicably

 

[nirmal1979]

And I have had more than a few and they ended amicably

Do you mind sharing your story about those experience ?

 

[Cookie123]

That is awesome!

And I have had more than a few and they ended amicably

 

[Cookie123]

I was going to pm you the details, but it seems you aren't accepting any messages. Good luck!

It's tomorrow. As everyone suggested I ain't going to do anything.

By the way what was your story? I mean, is it possible for you to share your story and situations? How did you approach and what went wrong?

 

[nirmal1979]

I was going to pm you the details, but it seems you aren't accepting any messages. Good luck!

Ok I have enabled pm messaging

 

[Cookie123]

I just sent a pm

 

[Somehowyou]

Do you mind sharing your story about those experience ?

I took a risk with my secretary when she was 19 and I was in my mid 30's. She came after me, leaving me notes on my windshield "You are very sexy" etc. I met her after work at her college and we had sex in my car and she made the first move. I will never forget how she unhooked her bra for me and out came the most perfect set of natural D breasts and how we fucked and kissed that night.
I would pick her up at night school and I would give her lingerie and stockings to wear. She would say I will surprise you with what I am wearing and I would meet her in the parking lost and she was dressed to kill explaining that she was worried about bending over to pick something up her skirt was so short. Her stocking tops would show...so sexy. We would rent rooms. I would go in the hotel first to check in. I would call her and tell her to come to Room # XYZ. She would knock on the door and say "Hello I am _____ from the agency." We would play game like this and then fuck. We would sneak out for lunch. She would tell me that she loved me and ask if she was getting better at BJ's. The problem is that there was not enough in common. I took her to a Big 10 game and we fucked in the parking lot of a rest are on the way home. I did not know what to say to her after sex. She left our business which made life more comfortable for me. She was quiet and I could tell she could keep a secret. So could I.

All the time she had a BF and during our time they became engaged and married. I kind of told her that this was not right and I avoided her. She decided that she had better concentrate on her BF and there was nothing there long term with me. We became friends and it wasn't awkward. Later I made advancements and she said "do that with your wife." She was right so I backed off. I thought that I got off easy. There was no hard feelings. we met for lunch after and actually ate food. We golfed in a couple of alumni events. We were friedns for a long time. i could not go to her wedding but I gave her a nice gift. I explained why. I did not want to meet her hubby. We would meet once a year for lunch andnever mention the 18 times or so we had sex. One time she even showed me how she sahved her pubes and I said lets get a room. she said she was comfortable with me and trusted me...no sex. I was ready to start again but we did not.

I can provide two other examples.

 

[klippert]

If your having a casual after work get together.... and you've kept your cool and not gone all...."let me suck your cock". Your chance are rather good you will have his meat in your mouth.....

Let me stress this one point. He may want it...but he's not just going to let it out, oh he might....but, the two of you may sit at your house or the bar and he won't as much as mention it. If you come out desperate he might walk out.

This is a tipping point for him...If his home sex life, I know from experience, isn't what he is fantasizing about... he, in the back of his mind is looking for NSA sex.....I don't think he's ever thought it would come in the form of another man though. If you Clean, discrete.....especially the keep your sex life behind closed doors type...well

As I have mentioned before....your the aggressor, he is actually finding himself on the other side of this. you want to suck him.... you will eventually.