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[haurni]

Hello, everyone. Another trans woman here -- I transitioned about 3 years ago, and it's always nice to meet other trans folks and allies.

I'm working on a story, and I thought I'd check out the forum here, and see if it's a place I want to hang out.

Welcome to Lit. Sadly, this thread has pretty much expired with Sticky's departure, but there's a wealth of information buried in it if you take the time to look through it.

Lit itself (even the GLBT forum) tends to attract - in addition to trans people - a large number of chasers/fetishists whose knowledge of trans-related issues is, shall we say, 'minimal', and they tend to dominate the forums.

That said, there are always opportunities for titillation here if you can deal with the noise level.

A word of advice - stay out of the General forum.

 

[TransChick]

Welcome to Lit. Sadly, this thread has pretty much expired with Sticky's departure, but there's a wealth of information buried in it if you take the time to look through it.

Lit itself (even the GLBT forum) tends to attract - in addition to trans people - a large number of chasers/fetishists whose knowledge of trans-related issues is, shall we say, 'minimal', and they tend to dominate the forums.

That said, there are always opportunities for titillation here if you can deal with the noise level.

A word of advice - stay out of the General forum.

Thanks for the welcome.

And yeah, I noticed that we seem to be vastly outnumbered. A lot of what's on this forum doesn't exactly cater to my interests, but there are definitely interesting threads.

 

[stickygirl]

Given how dull ordinary life can be I may be tempted back
tbh loving being normal at last even if it means that reading Sense and Sensibility is something I rush home for! Funny how things turn out - I used to be such a slut, but I put that down to the pollution of T Maybe I could write a pastiche of Jane Austen-goes-slut?! I'm even planning a trip to Bath Spa to see her museum...

Thanks for the posts, Transchick - it would be a shame if the thread disappeared without trace under the blizzard of Blanchard in LGBT. Plus ça change. Lets start a convo, chick. Anything trans I read from stateside leaves me depressed so I'm avoiding it.

Hoping very much y'all well.

 

[haurni]

And lo, the heavens opened, and the peals of a thousand trumpets rang forth, and a voice from on high proclaimed:

Given how dull ordinary life can be I may be tempted back
tbh loving being normal at last even if it means that reading Sense and Sensibility is something I rush home for! Funny how things turn out - I used to be such a slut, but I put that down to the pollution of T Maybe I could write a pastiche of Jane Austen-goes-slut?! I'm even planning a trip to Bath Spa to see her museum...

Thanks for the posts, Transchick - it would be a shame if the thread disappeared without trace under the blizzard of Blanchard in LGBT. Plus ça change. Lets start a convo, chick. Anything trans I read from stateside leaves me depressed so I'm avoiding it.

Hoping very much y'all well.

Also - great picture, transchick!

 

[TransChick]

Given how dull ordinary life can be I may be tempted back
tbh loving being normal at last even if it means that reading Sense and Sensibility is something I rush home for! Funny how things turn out - I used to be such a slut, but I put that down to the pollution of T Maybe I could write a pastiche of Jane Austen-goes-slut?! I'm even planning a trip to Bath Spa to see her museum...

Thanks for the posts, Transchick - it would be a shame if the thread disappeared without trace under the blizzard of Blanchard in LGBT. Plus ça change. Lets start a convo, chick. Anything trans I read from stateside leaves me depressed so I'm avoiding it.

Hoping very much y'all well.

Normal sounds delightful. These days, my life has been anything but. lol

And I don't blame you for avoiding the news from around these parts. It's pretty grim.

But I get through it by connecting with other people. It's nice meeting friendly trans folks even in the margins of places where we're vastly outnumbered.

 

[TransChick]

And lo, the heavens opened, and the peals of a thousand trumpets rang forth, and a voice from on high proclaimed:



Also - great picture, transchick!

Thanks, I love yours as well!

 

[timreh]

Given how dull ordinary life can be I may be tempted back
Anything trans I read from stateside leaves me depressed so I'm avoiding it.

Hoping very much y'all well.

Welcome back!!

Amongst all the noise about how bad things are stateside, there are good things happening too. They just don't get the notice. Here, the local PFLAG group has pretty much gone full support mode for transgender people. They have started passing out "I'll Go With You" buttons, they instigated and hosted a presentation on Gender, and they have reached out to the local press to stir up interest.

So yes, while there is doom and gloom on some fronts, there is also positive action at the grass root level.

Anyway, Welcome Back!!! Stick around for a spell, I can think of a few of us who would appreciate being part of an ongoing conversation.

 

[haurni]

The only good thing about Trump is that he's managed to galvanize the opposition. The tide of time is ultimately in trans peoples' favour.

 

[TransChick]

The only good thing about Trump is that he's managed to galvanize the opposition. The tide of time is ultimately in trans peoples' favour.

Let's hope. But there's so much harm that he's inflicting in the meantime. Already on immigrant communities, but he's currently working to harm people with medical needs, which includes so many members of the trans community.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

So happy to see this thread alive. Love to you all. Please stick around Sticky Dear. and the same goes to all of you.

 

[yukonnights]

The only good thing about Trump is that he's managed to galvanize the opposition. The tide of time is ultimately in trans peoples' favour.

I agree and think the tide has to, and will, shift for truth. It seems to be the way of things. It's just such a shame that the shift seems to take way longer than need be. But looking at history shows that good eventually wins over evil...just wish it didn't take so long

 

[yukonnights]

Normal sounds delightful. These days, my life has been anything but. lol

And I don't blame you for avoiding the news from around these parts. It's pretty grim.

But I get through it by connecting with other people. It's nice meeting friendly trans folks even in the margins of places where we're vastly outnumbered.

Speaking of grim; Has anyone else watched the new(ish) Netfilx release titled Deep Run? It's a documentary about a couple of young folks in North Carolina. It follows a FtM young man for a year of so after high-school graduation and his attempt at finding love and acceptance in a very rural part of the state. I have to say, it was really depressing. I kept asking myself; Why would any LGBTQ person choose to stay there...but in truth, the poverty, lack of education and any viable options almost imprisons them. Made me want to go get them and move them to Portland or Seattle so they might have a chance at a happy life ! He is so upbeat and positive, but gets smacked down at almost every turn

(I'm hoping that the story on Netflix has brought some crowdfunding or other assistance their way)

 

[stickygirl]

...and to prove that the BBC hasn't totally lost perspective when it comes to LGBT documentaries, this one aired on the 9th May and there are 21 days left in which to view it
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b08qh5v7
If you can use an browser app to get around the geographic viewing restriction, then it's a much happier watch than that crap doc that aired a few months ago.
As a summary, it follows a 16 yr old schoolgirl from a small Welsh town, who transitions while at school. It includes a very positive interview with her head teacher, follows her to get her first puberty-blocker and numerous camera pieces by her and her parents. I had to feel for her Dad, who is a typical salt-of-the-earth farmer, obviously completely baffled by his daughter's transition, stumbling over pronouns, but still very supportive.
Getting your first blocker at 16 is shite: 14 should be normal and 12 ideal.

There's a related news item here too
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-39783013

I wanted to throw something positive into the page

 

[BradBigBrain]

...and to prove that the BBC hasn't totally lost perspective when it comes to LGBT documentaries, this one aired on the 9th May and there are 21 days left in which to view it
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b08qh5v7
If you can use an browser app to get around the geographic viewing restriction, then it's a much happier watch than that crap doc that aired a few months ago.
As a summary, it follows a 16 yr old schoolgirl from a small Welsh town, who transitions while at school. It includes a very positive interview with her head teacher, follows her to get her first puberty-blocker and numerous camera pieces by her and her parents. I had to feel for her Dad, who is a typical salt-of-the-earth farmer, obviously completely baffled by his daughter's transition, stumbling over pronouns, but still very supportive.
Getting your first blocker at 16 is shite: 14 should be normal and 12 ideal.

There's a related news item here too
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-39783013

I wanted to throw something positive into the page

Great article! I couldn't watch the video, which is OK. Thanks so much for sharing.

 

[stickygirl]

Hello all
I was at a small family gathering over the weekend and a number of my cousins are teachers, so conversation often goes that way. Ofsted ( govt school inspectors in the UK ) suffer from their fair share of fake news and teachers get hot under the collar about them. Apparently FGM, and how to respond to suspected cases, is the latest. The suggestion being if a member of staff suspects it has occurred they should phone the police immediately, because a crime may have taken place. A certain amount of cheek blowing and grumbling followed, but my cousin added, “It’s like the whole transgender thing. I mean, it’s ridiculous how much safeguarding we have to have in place and I don’t suppose we have more than three kids in the county.”
I saw his father catch his eye and do a very laboured ‘eyes-right’ signal at me.
“Oh shit, I didn’t … I just… well you’re not really trans anymore are you?” he spluttered.
I couldn’t help but laugh. I know for sure he’s a great teacher and lovely man and he was talking off-duty. Clearly his gripe was with the bureaucracy, not the kids.
So there you have it - I am not really trans anymore What a relief!

 

[jaF0]

The biggest question I've had concerns aging. For those who do this at 20 or so, what happens at 70 or so?


There are diseases and ailments that are decidedly gender based that may not become apparent until 60, 70 or later.

 

[stickygirl]

The biggest question I've had concerns aging. For those who do this at 20 or so, what happens at 70 or so?


There are diseases and ailments that are decidedly gender based that may not become apparent until 60, 70 or later.

Hi jaF0
you're right, prolonged hormone treatment is still a bit of an unknown because there are not enough meaningful studies from which to draw conclusions. There are a number of known side-effects and risks to both testosterone and estriadiol / spiro' treatments but no one takes those drugs unless there is a clear need.

 

[coati]

Hello all
So there you have it - I am not really trans anymore What a relief!

I s'pose now that you aren't trans anymore, you can move about freely in Texas and North Carolina, and secretly implement The Trans Agenda!

 

[hylas_]

SG, glad you could laugh about it! It is pretty hilarious.

 

[CountryGuy2]

I guess that shows that he doesn't think of you as trans. I'll bet the look on his face was priceless.

Glad to see you're still around

 

[stickygirl]

I s'pose now that you aren't trans anymore, you can move about freely in Texas and North Carolina, and secretly implement The Trans Agenda!

Ahead of you already coati http://images.fandango.com//mdcsite/images/featured/201607/wonderwoman-setphoto-official-bettequality.jpg

SG, glad you could laugh about it! It is pretty hilarious.

I was smiling quietly for the rest of the day

I guess that shows that he doesn't think of you as trans. I'll bet the look on his face was priceless.

Glad to see you're still around

Always been around - just didn't have anything else to say *shrugs* and yes, his face was a picture for a moment till I put a wet finger in his ear I'm sure it's going to be one of those family jokes that'll morph. That family are always taking the micky out of each other!

 

[coati]

Always been around - just didn't have anything else to say *shrugs*

Sticky, whether you are shouting from the mountain tops or quietly transforming the states of Texas and North Carolina, we love you.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Hi jaF0
you're right, prolonged hormone treatment is still a bit of an unknown because there are not enough meaningful studies from which to draw conclusions. There are a number of known side-effects and risks to both testosterone and estriadiol / spiro' treatments but no one takes those drugs unless there is a clear need.

On the bright side, if we're worrying about trans health at 70+ then that's already a sign of progress!

 

[stickygirl]

Here's a link to a AMA session on Reddit regarding everything transgender with some super smart replies that made me want to hug the monitor. Thought you might like a read and this thread needed a dust-off. Cobwebs everywhere yeuch
http://www.teenvogue.com/story/reddit-transgender-ama-busts-myths

^That's the summary and here's the Reddit page itself. Usual confusing page layout but just noticed one myth laid to rest that ought to be rolled out in the GB
"UK study: "Suicidal ideation and actual attempts reduced after transition, with 63% thinking about or attempting suicide more before they transitioned and only 3% thinking about or attempting suicide more post-transition. 7% found that this increased during transition, which has implications for the support provided to those undergoing these processes (N=316)."

 

[BradBigBrain]

Here's a link to a AMA session on Reddit regarding everything transgender with some super smart replies that made me want to hug the monitor. Thought you might like a read and this thread needed a dust-off. Cobwebs everywhere yeuch
http://www.teenvogue.com/story/reddit-transgender-ama-busts-myths

^That's the summary and here's the Reddit page itself. Usual confusing page layout but just noticed one myth laid to rest that ought to be rolled out in the GB
"UK study: "Suicidal ideation and actual attempts reduced after transition, with 63% thinking about or attempting suicide more before they transitioned and only 3% thinking about or attempting suicide more post-transition. 7% found that this increased during transition, which has implications for the support provided to those undergoing these processes (N=316)."

That's tremendous!