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[skittles_lm]

Well speed bumps sound kinky... I feel properly chastised, Sir. How can this avid reader adequately apologize?

 

[FluteMaster]

I think kneeling, with a flogger in your hands being offered up to me with the request that I don't hold back. (No reason why an apology can't be fun for both of us!! )

 

[leeroy jenkins]

There was some questions I have about titles or word spelling in the lifestyle.

So the word is boy and boi. From one Apex friend and another SWLC boy they said the boi spelling denotes a more female slant. I am just curious if anyone else has heard this?? This would also work for girl and gurl.

Now I guess I can buck the past conotation of the boy or boi and make it my own but either way I might add this to my scene name carries some perceptions that may or may not be correct.

So curious what you guys have to say about this.

 

[JustHoney]

I saw you on another thread, you on? Your private messages are turned off

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I saw you on another thread, you on? Your private messages are turned off

To whom are you talking to?? I know at least I can receive pm's if sent.

 

[Netzach]

There was some questions I have about titles or word spelling in the lifestyle.

So the word is boy and boi. From one Apex friend and another SWLC boy they said the boi spelling denotes a more female slant. I am just curious if anyone else has heard this?? This would also work for girl and gurl.

Now I guess I can buck the past conotation of the boy or boi and make it my own but either way I might add this to my scene name carries some perceptions that may or may not be correct.

So curious what you guys have to say about this.

That's more or less correct. While I've seen "boi" thrown around in the world at large without the connotation when I see it typed up in a leather/SM context I immediately assume boy persona, female biology.

You can just do as you're doing but you may have to correct people as you go.

 

[CutieMouse]

well, this leads to the question: do u have many geman ancestors?

My apologies. I have the worst habit of randomly wandering into threads, then wandering off again, only to forget I've said something somewhere that might have gotten a response.

Anywhoooo... The ancestry is German on my mother's side; English on my father's. I was raised in the South (mostly Texas), and although I'm no longer what one might call religious, my teen years were heavily influenced by an active participation in a good ol' conservative Southern Baptist church... blend the above as desired, shake well, and out pours a very prim, proper, ladylike, prudish as hell good girl- with kinks. LOL

 

[Devish]

I'm fairly new to the D/M lifestyle, (still considering it actually) and was wondering about the decision to become a Dom or a Sub. I'm still undecided about it. I've read tons of articles on the subject. Thanks!

Devish

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I'm fairly new to the D/M lifestyle, (still considering it actually) and was wondering about the decision to become a Dom or a Sub. I'm still undecided about it. I've read tons of articles on the subject. Thanks!

Devish

Devish most people will say here that being a Dom or a sub is something that starts from within and has outward expressions. Now again I think most people will say that you can learn to be a top or bottom though, depends what side of the toy you wish to be on. Now if you figure the second out it can surely help with the first.

But to screw you up totally, some people will bottom for certain people but they identify as a Dom and then the reverse is true for those darn subs too. So if your going to partake of this journey just let what will happen happen.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

That's more or less correct. While I've seen "boi" thrown around in the world at large without the connotation when I see it typed up in a leather/SM context I immediately assume boy persona, female biology.

You can just do as you're doing but you may have to correct people as you go.

Thanks for the answer Netzach, something I noticed at the leather conference is that it seemed alot of the boys were either bi or gay too or maybe I am making a gross assumption.

 

[LadyAria]

To whom are you talking to?? I know at least I can receive pm's if sent.

It was me. I turn off my pm's if I don't plan on being around for a while. Makes my friends send emails and strangers know I'm not going to respond.

 

[LadyAria]

I'm fairly new to the D/M lifestyle, (still considering it actually) and was wondering about the decision to become a Dom or a Sub. I'm still undecided about it. I've read tons of articles on the subject. Thanks!

Devish

Only you know the answer to that question. Read books, talk to people, go to muches, try it with someone you trust and make your decision based on what you enjoy more. Your sexual journey is your own. It's not black or white and you can always change your mind.

 

[babiesmiles]

Just a little hello Lady Aria .
Even if I dont post I always read you thread .

 

[CollaredTigressK8]

some questions...

i am the sub of a wheelchair-bound Master Who is very loving and kind... because of His illness, i have to be physically dominant, but He tells me exactly what to do to please Him, and is very mentally dominant...

Does anyone know where i can find information about positions, specifically those for patients who are wheelchair bound/ muscular dystrophy patients? Please don't say "talk to Him about it" because He has never been in a relationship before where He was allowed to be dominant. We talk about everything, so communication is not an issue, but i don't want to try something that might hurt Him... and aside from me being on top facing Him, we have no idea where to go from here.

please help. Everyone i have asked to this point thinks i'm crazy for even being in the relationship to begin with.

 

[LadyAria]

i am the sub of a wheelchair-bound Master Who is very loving and kind... because of His illness, i have to be physically dominant, but He tells me exactly what to do to please Him, and is very mentally dominant...

Does anyone know where i can find information about positions, specifically those for patients who are wheelchair bound/ muscular dystrophy patients? Please don't say "talk to Him about it" because He has never been in a relationship before where He was allowed to be dominant. We talk about everything, so communication is not an issue, but i don't want to try something that might hurt Him... and aside from me being on top facing Him, we have no idea where to go from here.

please help. Everyone i have asked to this point thinks i'm crazy for even being in the relationship to begin with.

Look into some articles by Mitch Tepper and Lizzi McNeff - qualified sex counselors, researchers and wheelchair users. They have some creative articles about sex that could be a resource. Also, Many rehab centers offer sexual courses. They may seem vanilla in nature, but can be customized with a little creativity for BDSM.

Also, you can do a search on devotee sites that are BDSM in nature. While devotees can be more attracted to the disability, they can be be quite versed in chair-kink. Do be careful though, there is a lot of junk out there. The best thing is trying to find other couples with the same tastes and circumstances to compare notes.

Best wishes to you and your Master.

 

[kayte]

Good evening {{{{{Lady Aria}}}}}}

Your thread is such a valuable resource. Thank You Ma'am.


How are things going?

 

[LadyAria]

Good evening {{{{{Lady Aria}}}}}}

Your thread is such a valuable resource. Thank You Ma'am.


How are things going?

Oh, my favorite clothes pin...

Thank you. Things are very good. Our new addition should be here any day now. Hope all is well with you and the good Sir.

 

[kayte]

Oh, my favorite clothes pin...

Thank you. Things are very good. Our new addition should be here any day now. Hope all is well with you and the good Sir.

He decided He wanted the AV again.


How are you doing? Keeping you in my prayers.

Things are fine with me. He just had a birthday Tuesday. You missed the thread.

 

[LadyAria]

He decided He wanted the AV again.


How are you doing? Keeping you in my prayers.

Things are fine with me. He just had a birthday Tuesday. You missed the thread.

Oh, sorry I missed that. Thank you for the well wishes.

I hope the two of you had fun celebrating his special day.

 

[LadyAria]

Just a little hello Lady Aria .
Even if I dont post I always read you thread .

{babiesmiles}

Always good to see you around, darling.

 

[kayte]

Oh, sorry I missed that. Thank you for the well wishes.

I hope the two of you had fun celebrating his special day.

Good evening {{{{{Lady Aria}}}}}} Yes it was a fun time.

You are in my thoughts. Getting close.

 

[Shagly]

Toys.

Why LadyAria after going over the toys collection I determined it is time to get some new leather toys, any good online stores that you know of?

 

[LadyAria]

Why LadyAria after going over the toys collection I determined it is time to get some new leather toys, any good online stores that you know of?

Buy local. Personalized fits and designs are always best.

 

[jbnet211]

Interested in BDSM

I have always been interested in BDSM, how did you become a dom.

 

[Trajal]

Oh dear.