As a parent

[Peregrinator]

When she wants them. I'm not teaching body shame.

This. Also, who cares what underwear she chooses, as long as it's clean when she puts it on.

 

[cfuhrer]

I started wearing them when I was 15 so I wouldn't mind to have her wait until then or until she's 16.

Same.

 

[phrodeau]

She can have them as soon as she earns the money to buy them, and the self-image to wear them.

 

[blunt_trauma]

yeah, it's underwear.
nobody is going to see it.
it's her way of exploring feelings of being sexy and womanly without any risk or any unwanted attention. she's not wearing a leather mini, stripper heels and a piercing.
i'm a firm believer in letting them have small & harmless freedoms & forms of self expression, as it will reduce the desire for major rebellion later on.
...says the mom of a teenager who loves big knickers and modest clothing. lol.

 

[cfuhrer]

I'm not old enough to have a 16 year old daughter, but I know the problem. The reason she wants to wear sexy underwear is because she wants someone to see her in them.

I started wearing them because they were more comfortable to ride horses in than anything else.
Have somthing sexy on underneath is just a bonus.

 

[evesdream]

I didn't know anything about thongs or shaving past my knees until I started getting naked for tips and someone pointed all of this out.

If I had a kid she could try them whenever she wanted to, but theres' a good chance she would get teased about by other family members.

 

[pink]

hmmmmmm High school age, I guess so 14,15 and above. Anything younger than that is a bit much imo.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Not until she goes away to college.

 

[WillowedCabin]

When she wants them. I'm not teaching body shame.

Amen.

I think it's interesting how we automatically assume that what clothing women put on their bodies has anything to do with wanting to opposite sex to fuck them. Can women who wear thongs not be celibate or a-sexual? Does that mean if I wear a turtle-neck I'm immediately not a sexual person?

Couldn't we also say that your daughter wears them because she finds them comfortable or the lack of panty-lines appealing?

The real issue is the WHY of the thong. If you taught her to love herself and treat herself right, then everything else (including sexuality) will naturally slide into place. I think when I have kids, I'll want them to express their sexuality however they want to, no matter how young;
understanding your body and your sexuality does not mean you are sexual.

Sexy does not equal sexual.

 

[wideeyedone]

i just want her to feel good about herself and wear things she really wants to wear. my oldest is just starting junior high and thankfully comfort is still really important to her.

 

[warrior queen]

Dads don't want their daughters seen in bikinis either.

it's ironic that dad's don't want their teens in bikinis, when it's ok for their 5 or 10 yr old to be in one.
and we all know that that is the age that most pedophiles target.

 

[islandman]

In an age of "Toddlers and Tiaras", is the acrimony really guilt?

 

[VaticanAssassin]

Amen.

I think it's interesting how we automatically assume that what clothing women put on their bodies has anything to do with wanting to opposite sex to fuck them. Can women who wear thongs not be celibate or a-sexual? Does that mean if I wear a turtle-neck I'm immediately not a sexual person?

Couldn't we also say that your daughter wears them because she finds them comfortable or the lack of panty-lines appealing?

The real issue is the WHY of the thong. If you taught her to love herself and treat herself right, then everything else (including sexuality) will naturally slide into place. I think when I have kids, I'll want them to express their sexuality however they want to, no matter how young;
understanding your body and your sexuality does not mean you are sexual.

Sexy does not equal sexual.

Hmmm I wear a turtle neck when I want to go out and get laid....maybe that is what I have been doing wrong!

 

[WillowedCabin]

Hmmm I wear a turtle neck when I want to go out and get laid....maybe that is what I have been doing wrong!

Au contraire
turtleneck sweaters are the fabric of wet dreams.

Perhaps you aren't washing it often enough?
Or maybe you forget to wear pants with it--

then again, the no pants thing might be a good icebreaker.

 

[jomar]

In an age of "Toddlers and Tiaras", is the acrimony really guilt?

Ha! Happen to be watching that train wreck right now. I want to see the followup show of them grown up...and in therapy with Dr. Drew dealing with their mommy issues.

Got to admit, it was kind of a shock to see the kid's thong when putting the clothes into the dryer. She was about 15 or 16, a good kid...sang in the choir. Okay, I made that last part up.

 

[evesdream]

The real issue is the WHY of the thong. If you taught her to love herself and treat herself right, then everything else (including sexuality) will naturally slide into place. I think when I have kids, I'll want them to express their sexuality however they want to, no matter how young;
understanding your body and your sexuality does not mean you are sexual.

Sexy does not equal sexual.

For most parents the shame is meant to protect, not punish.

 

[Waiter519123]

Very difficult seeing your daughter in a weasel bikini. However she is an adult and divorced looking for her next husband.