Never
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High-Maintenance has a different meaning based on who you ask but it all boils down to this, what is the minimum amount of energy it takes to please you? And in what areas? And at what stage in the relationship?
I wouldn't consider a woman who wanted me to spend money on her to be high-maintenance. Being my mother's daughter I expect that's part and parcel of having a partner, in fact I spend dinero on my friends as well because some part of me thinks that's what I'm supposed to do. Likewise, I expect that she'd 'have a preferences to how her food is served', or where she ate or what she wore or she'd want to get her armed waxed, or mess with her hair and make-up or expect me to listen to her when she has a problem or wants to talk - I can accommodate that with no problem.
Expressing emotions is high maintained for me though, and I can't stand being around people all the time. I need at least three hours a day of solitude and to actually expend that type of time and energy on another is incredibly difficult, even the amount of 'togetherness time' and emotional involvement that most people would consider less than average is a drain. I've never been able to figure out why.
As for being high-maintenance myself I know that my friends, co-workers and family are constantly trying to make me 'happy' or 'lighten me up' and it doesn't work, so I'd say I'm damn hard to please. You don't know what high-maintenance is until you deal with a very controlling and moody Never who refuses to tell you what she's feeling or thinking. Why? Because you should know and the fact that you don't know is only proof that you don't care.
I feel sorry for my mother, she's domestic goddess who has to make everything 'right' and laughs loudly, cries with all her heart or yells so hard you can hear it in the next county. There's her daughter again, stalking around the house with a frown on her face for hours and, of course, any inquires she makes are met with "Nothing" or "I'm fine."
I'm surprised she's never tried to strangle me.
I wouldn't consider a woman who wanted me to spend money on her to be high-maintenance. Being my mother's daughter I expect that's part and parcel of having a partner, in fact I spend dinero on my friends as well because some part of me thinks that's what I'm supposed to do. Likewise, I expect that she'd 'have a preferences to how her food is served', or where she ate or what she wore or she'd want to get her armed waxed, or mess with her hair and make-up or expect me to listen to her when she has a problem or wants to talk - I can accommodate that with no problem.
Expressing emotions is high maintained for me though, and I can't stand being around people all the time. I need at least three hours a day of solitude and to actually expend that type of time and energy on another is incredibly difficult, even the amount of 'togetherness time' and emotional involvement that most people would consider less than average is a drain. I've never been able to figure out why.
As for being high-maintenance myself I know that my friends, co-workers and family are constantly trying to make me 'happy' or 'lighten me up' and it doesn't work, so I'd say I'm damn hard to please. You don't know what high-maintenance is until you deal with a very controlling and moody Never who refuses to tell you what she's feeling or thinking. Why? Because you should know and the fact that you don't know is only proof that you don't care.
I feel sorry for my mother, she's domestic goddess who has to make everything 'right' and laughs loudly, cries with all her heart or yells so hard you can hear it in the next county. There's her daughter again, stalking around the house with a frown on her face for hours and, of course, any inquires she makes are met with "Nothing" or "I'm fine."
I'm surprised she's never tried to strangle me.
