Are you a woman who navigates tensions between religious faith and sexual needs?

[Horny_rabbi]

Does your religious upbringing inhibit your ability to satisfy your sexual needs? Or make you feel guilty when you masturbate or have sex?

Let’s talk about how we navigate those tensions. I am a rabbi in a sexually dormant marriage who craves erotic conversation.

Let’s chat and share.

 

[SmokingFap]

Does your religious upbringing inhibit your ability to satisfy your sexual needs? Or make you feel guilty when you masturbate or have sex?

Let’s talk about how we navigate those tensions. I am a rabbi in a sexually dormant marriage who craves erotic conversation.

Let’s chat and share.

Considering your last six attempts to make this a thing failed, good luck

 

[Horny_rabbi]

I have had dms and good conversations. Thank you.

 

[markchamberlain]

I had a relationship with a devoutly Christian woman for a long time. It primarily consisted of MMF threesomes with her and her husband. She also had sex with a others sometimes. I never heard her mention this as a conflict in her mind, and I never asked (why rock the boat). But surely she must have been aware that her church friends (and probably non-church friends also) would have been astonished if they had any idea of her lifestyle.

By the way, I don't know if this is relevant or not, but she also had what I would consider to be an unusual set of do's and don'ts. I'm not being judgmental, I think it is wonderful when people are comfortable with what they do and don't like. But I'm just saying in my experience, it is a bit unusual. Her husband really wanted to cum on her face, which I consider to be pretty vanilla. But she did not and would not allow this, and once told me "I could never do such perverted thing." Meanwhile, she joyfully participated in threesome and let two guys cum inside her. I often came second, and loved to licked her pussy a little bit right after her husband came inside her. She found it very erotic to make love like that, kissing me with the taste of her pussy and her husband's cum between our mouths, and with my cock sliding into her husband's cum and then adding my own to it. Somehow that was acceptable, and even beautifully intimate according to her. To me...well, I also found it beautifully intimate, but still it's a lot less vanilla than a simple facial with one's husband. But to her, it all made sense somehow.

 

[SmokingFap]

I had a relationship with a devoutly Christian woman for a long time. It primarily consisted of MMF threesomes with her and her husband. She also had sex with a others sometimes. I never heard her mention this as a conflict in her mind, and I never asked (why rock the boat). But surely she must have been aware that her church friends (and probably non-church friends also) would have been astonished if they had any idea of her lifestyle.

By the way, I don't know if this is relevant or not, but she also had what I would consider to be an unusual set of do's and don'ts. I'm not being judgmental, I think it is wonderful when people are comfortable with what they do and don't like. But I'm just saying in my experience, it is a bit unusual. Her husband really wanted to cum on her face, which I consider to be pretty vanilla. But she did not and would not allow this, and once told me "I could never do such perverted thing." Meanwhile, she joyfully participated in threesome and let two guys cum inside her. I often came second, and loved to licked her pussy a little bit right after her husband came inside her. She found it very erotic to make love like that, kissing me with the taste of her pussy and her husband's cum between our mouths, and with my cock sliding into her husband's cum and then adding my own to it. Somehow that was acceptable, and even beautifully intimate according to her. To me...well, I also found it beautifully intimate, but still it's a lot less vanilla than a simple facial with one's husband. But to her, it all made sense somehow.

News Flash: That woman was not devoutly Christian.

 

[Morning_mist]

My conflict is not so much between religious beliefs, though I'm sure they have factored very prominently into the equation from early on, but more between daemons of my libido, which seem to have an appetite for submissive (borderline degrading sexual activity) and the ingrained concepts of what is socially, morally and/or appropriate for a mature (50+), married (monogamous), mother of two (adult and flown the nest), woman. I have consumed a number of stories on Lit and find myself unable to resist those daemons leading me to those creations that involve 'consensual / non-consent' or elements of bdsm, particularly whose which involve forced-lesbian activity. These themes are in direct opposition to my reality sense of self or what is appropriate. Perhaps my reply is a bit off topic, but the angst and conflict for me is very acute.

 

[markchamberlain]

My conflict is not so much between religious beliefs, though I'm sure they have factored very prominently into the equation from early on, ...

I'm not the OP, but to me it doesn't seem off topic. I suppose most of us on this bulletin board struggle with the same thing - there is a big gap between our desires versus what is considered acceptable by the majority of the people around us. Sometimes all of the people around us. Religious or otherwise, the feeling is probably similar. The best way to end this post would be with some pithy insight that would help you (and me) resolve this conflict. But perhaps the second best way is to just say - have a lovely day, amiga.

 

[Bill_Doubleu]

I'm not the OP, but to me it doesn't seem off topic. I suppose most of us on this bulletin board struggle with the same thing - there is a big gap between our desires versus what is considered acceptable by the majority of the people around us. Sometimes all of the people around us. Religious or otherwise, the feeling is probably similar. The best way to end this post would be with some pithy insight that would help you (and me) resolve this conflict. But perhaps the second best way is to just say - have a lovely day, amiga.

I agree. The issue becomes the topic of moral codes in conflict with desire, religious or not.

 

[lovedoublepenetration]

My family was super religious. Was too suffocating when I grew up. Had frequent fights with everyone in my family because I worshipped cocks more than God. The more they tried enforcing God on me the more I fucked around.

 

[markchamberlain]

... Had frequent fights with everyone in my family because I worshipped cocks more than God. ...

Sounds like you were a devout member of the Church of the Expanding Organ.

 

[lovedoublepenetration]

Sounds like you were a devout member of the Church of the Expanding Organ.

I still am. Now i prefer multiple organs rather than just organ

 

[mark_j]

News Flash: That woman was not devoutly Christian.

How would you know?

 

[Fullygrownbrat]

Grew up in the south.

Save yourself for marriage
Don’t be a whore
Don’t get pregnant out of wedlock
Good girls do this
Bad girls do that
Don’t let anyone know you’re not perfect.

All it did was keep me from enjoying good sex back then.

I find it interesting that the woman had a rule about facials. I also have a “constant respect of my face” rule. For me, it makes it feel a little too much “I’m in a porn” than “I’m with a partner”. Slapping is a trigger for me, that will make me throw hands, so I just made a be nice to my face rule.

 

[Veeweewee]

News Flash: That woman was not devoutly Christian.

Well I dunno, there's some pretty kinky stuff in the Bible...

It it really adultery if its with full consent and participation of the spouse?

 

[Elle4u2use2]

The guilt is real
But so is the need.
Using my toy rn

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Cum to daddy…

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I used to really struggle with shame and self-loathing over my sexuality. I always masturbated and read erotica/watched porn, but I really fucking hated myself for it. I'd cum and then immediately be flooded with shame and cry. It took me a long time to get over this, but I did. I'm not really religious at all anymore.

 

[angelwingsub]

I was tossed out of church and told I was going to hell for leaving my abusive first husband. And then I was shunned. I could give two flips what they think. They weren't standing between me and my husband or me and God My first husband should be in jail right now but he's not. So I studied martial arts in the years since I left and now I could kick his ass, although if I never see him it'll be too soon.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I was tossed out of church and told I was going to hell for leaving my abusive first husband. And then I was shunned. I could give two flips what they think. They weren't standing between me and my husband or me and God My first husband should be in jail right now but he's not. So I studied martial arts in the years since I left and now I could kick his ass, although if I never see him it'll be too soon.

You go,girl!!!

 

[Corbie]

The guilt is real
But so is the need.
Using my toy rn

I understand your struggle baby slut!

 

[tristianc]

The guilt is real
But so is the need.
Using my toy rn

Makes sense to me and your username makes sense to me in this as well.

 

[Veeweewee]

Well I dunno, there's some pretty kinky stuff in the Bible...

It it really adultery if its with full consent and participation of the spouse?

Here is an article about sex in the Bible FYI

https://reflections.yale.edu/articl...y-and-scripture-what-else-does-bible-have-say

 

[Cuddlycarebear]

My conflict is not so much between religious beliefs, though I'm sure they have factored very prominently into the equation from early on, but more between daemons of my libido, which seem to have an appetite for submissive (borderline degrading sexual activity) and the ingrained concepts of what is socially, morally and/or appropriate for a mature (50+), married (monogamous), mother of two (adult and flown the nest), woman. I have consumed a number of stories on Lit and find myself unable to resist those daemons leading me to those creations that involve 'consensual / non-consent' or elements of bdsm, particularly whose which involve forced-lesbian activity. These themes are in direct opposition to my reality sense of self or what is appropriate. Perhaps my reply is a bit off topic, but the angst and conflict for me is very acute.

Very good description and i feel i sameway and fight similar struggles

 

[Elle4u2use2]

Its sinful Sunday

 

[marf2200]

Well I dunno, there's some pretty kinky stuff in the Bible...

It it really adultery if its with full consent and participation of the spouse?

I've read that adultery, as defined in the time of the Israelites, was a sin against God, and not against one's spouse. Something to do with keeping the birthrights pure, as you never really know who the father is. There's no doubting the mother