Are you a person who can let by-gones be by-gones???

[*bratcat*]

 

[koalabear]

HELL NOOOOOOOO

kILL EM ALL LET GOD SORT THEM OUT.......NEVER LEAVE AN ENEMY BEHIND........oops sorry .....flashback momentarily!!!!

 

[estevie]

I just had a conversation like this with southern...he is not a forgiving person, I am. I don't hold a grudge. Of course, there are people that I just don't get along with, for whatever reason. But I do not talk to or about those people, they cease to exsist. Is that holding a grudge?

 

[MissTaken]

I am a very forgiving person, but don't always forget. I may let "by gones be by gones", but when hurt very badly, will be skeptical and cautious of someone who has hurt me.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[iann666]

No

If I hate someone I hate them forever and the reverse is also true

 

[Cheyenne]

One of my biggest faults is that forgive AND forget way too easily. I might dredge something up again, but then I move on...it is a fault that I am trying to get rid of completely. Hey, it takes time, but it is mostly working!

?? Is it me or your wording? I can't figure out if you're saying your biggest fault is that you can forgive and forget, or that your biggest fault is that you can't. If your fault is that you CAN, then why would you be working to change that? Is forgive and forget a bad thing to you?

You didn't ask, but if I had to take a guess from what I've seen, I'd put you maybe in the forgive but never forget camp.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[April]

Don't fuck with me. I never forget, and rarely forgive. Even death will not make me forgive someone if they have wronged me badly enough.

 

[Xander]

If what you're asking..

Is what I think it is...

No I am not a very forgiving person...I hold grudges..and I rarelyu or never forget.

Grudges die when the one you hold a grudge against is dead, buried and you ahve pissed on his/hers grave

 

[April]

What if there is no grave? Just ashes dumped into a lake. And the rest of the family didn't give you enough notice to make arrangements to go? Fucking bastards. But that's another story.

 

[BlondGirl]

"Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me."
If I am stupid enough to let you hurt me a second time, then it is my fault.

Yes, I can hold a grude. But I usually don't. I just try to remember to keep my distance.

 

[Xander]

What if there is no grave? Just ashes dumped into a lake. And the rest of the family didn't give you enough notice to make arrangements to go? Fucking bastards. But that's another story.

You piss into the lake or piss on the last spot this person stood upon.

if its ashes...piss into the urne(sp)

 

[April]

I haven't been back since then, and I don't know when I will.

 

[Xander]

I haven't been back since then, and I don't know when I will.

Send a vial with the content, meant to be spread over the ashes.

 

[Mistress]

Grudges. I may say I forgive, but I dont totally mean it.

 

[Xander]

Grudges. I may say I forgive, but I dont totally mean it.

I know what you mean Mistress. There is just certain things in life that cannot and will not be forgotten regardless of the circumstances. Right??

 

[TygerEyez]

Small differences, yes.

Big differences, no.

 

[Xander]

Small differences, yes.

Big differences, no.

OKay what do you mean with that TE??

I mean I know I hold grudges forever, and very rarely forgive and forget....but what is your point there...I dont quite get it??

 

[naudiz]

Hell, I don't have the energy to hold a grudge. If someone is consistently an asshole I'll keep them at arm's length, or farther, but if the individual isn't specificaly bugging me: out of sight out of mind.

I prefer to get shit settled ASAP and then move on. If the situation can be resolved, great. If not, if they stay out of my way, I'll return the favor. I can think of only one person who's ever screwed me over so badly I can't quite manage to forgive her, and I haven't seen her in years, and when I think about her, I think: wow, what a loser; I can't stay mad at someone so pathetic.

The best revenge is to live well.

 

[nasty]

I'm not one to look at thing one-sided. I may believe otherwise, but I'll listen to the other's POV.

 

[notenufsx4me]

i did go to a funeral one time just to make sure the son-of-a-bitch was dead . does that make me a bad person or them?

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: Re: Are you a person who can let by-gones be by-gones???

 

[april-wine]

I rip and roar, get it all out........then I forgive and it's over......

Life's too short to carry around all that baggage........

 

[nasty]

Life's too short to carry around all that baggage........

DITTO!!!