Are You a Cyber-cynic?

[Bidin~Time]

No matter how hard you try, do you always question whether people are what they seem to be online?

Do you find you set up barriers?

Do you question the smallest inconsistencies, whether you admit it to anyone or not?

Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?

 

[HeavyStick]

I ate white glue in kindergarten.

 

[breakwall]

I ate white glue in kindergarten.

Me too.

Explains a lot, doesnt it Hev.

 

[Bidin~Time]

I ate white glue in kindergarten.

And this lil revelation should come as a surprise to..........


whom??

 

[Dillinger]

No matter how hard you try, do you always question whether people are what they seem to be online?

No - I usually don't. Most people seem to do a pretty good job as coming across as who they are... at least that has held true for most of the people from online that I've met. Maybe I've been lucky - but I've met a lot of very nice people and made some lifelong friends.

On the other side of things - there are enough people here who come across as assholes and whether they are, or not, who cares - I don't want anything to do with them.

Do you find you set up barriers?

I think I'm pretty approachable...

Do you question the smallest inconsistencies, whether you admit it to anyone or not?

No. Not usually. More often then not someone else points them out to me before I notice them myself.

Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?

I really don't think so. I don't know, ask a few who have tried - I don't think they found it difficult.

 

[Cleopatra]

No matter how hard you try, do you always question whether people are what they seem to be online?

Do you find you set up barriers?

Do you question the smallest inconsistencies, whether you admit it to anyone or not?

Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?

Yes.

Hell yes.

Not really, cause I pretty much take everything with a grain of salt.

I don't know. I was thinking of doing a thread on that exact subject, but I couldn't think of a way to put it that wouldn't sound extremely narsisistic. Kind of like a "Tell me one thing you know about me" thread. That would really tell if I make it difficult for people to get to know me.

What are your answers Emi?

 

[Bidin~Time]

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Yes.

Hell yes.

Not really, cause I pretty much take everything with a grain of salt.

I don't know. I was thinking of doing a thread on that exact subject, but I couldn't think of a way to put it that wouldn't sound extremely narsisistic. Kind of like a "Tell me one thing you know about me" thread. That would really tell if I make it difficult for people to get to know me.

What are your answers Emi?

I hate to admit it, but yep I'm a terrible cynic.

That is not to say I haven't made friends online, it just takes more convince me of some people's sincerity I suppose.

With me it's a defense mechanism, I am the same online as I am in person, I've just seen a few who aren't and I tend to overcompensate for what I perceive to be my own naivete`.

Does that make me a terrible person?

 

[k¡tty]

No matter how hard you try, do you always question whether people are what they seem to be online?
Yes I do. After being ol for years I know that a good many are not what they present themselves to be ol. I don't know if it's because that to them this isn't real life.. just a land of make believe and they don't feel it's necessary to be up front and honest about themselves.

Do you find you set up barriers?
As open and friendly as I am... very few people actually "know" me. I only open up to a certain level and after that they are met by a huge brick wall. It's only natural after being hurt once or twice..

Do you question the smallest inconsistencies, whether you admit it to anyone or not?
lol I will rarely ever tell someone that I know they've just fibbed. I have a wonderful memory and it's easy to recall certain things that's been said.. then later say something contradictory.

Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?
In some ways yes. But you have to after awhile.. I mean you have to close yourself off after a bit. I get pm's from people who I guess think that I'm an easy target.. that I'll just slip my lil cyber panties off for them. Once they discover that isn't going to happen rarely will I ever hear from them again. So why put myself out there all the time when chances are they'll move onto someone they think will be interested in a cooterin session?

For the record .. I don't think I'm being very fair. I'm probably missing out on making some wonderful friends. But I do a 'screening' if they are still around and interested in chatting with me after my brief responses.. then they are worth investing time in.

 

[Guest]

No matter how hard you try, do you always question whether people are what they seem to be online?

Do you find you set up barriers?

Do you question the smallest inconsistencies, whether you admit it to anyone or not?

Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?

No I accept everyone as they are

no

no

I should

 

[Nora]

No, I assume people are who they say they are until someone kindly tells me differently. How pissed off I am when I find out differently varies depending on how personally involved I was with them. If I had considered them a friend and I feel lied to or as though I was an object of humor for them when I find out the truth, then I'm sincerely pissed and they're excised from my frame of existance immediately. If it's someone I barely interact with, then I don't care.

Do I set up barriers? Not consciously, no.

I don't question inconsistancies unless they're really blatent, because humans are mutable. I might like mushrooms today, but hate them tomorrow. Others have the right to be inconsistant, too.

I don't think I make it difficult to know me, no. I have a tendency to say what I think.

 

[Cleopatra]

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I hate to admit it, but yep I'm a terrible cynic.

That is not to say I haven't made friends online, it just takes more convince me of some people's sincerity I suppose.

With me it's a defense mechanism, I am the same online as I am in person, I've just seen a few who aren't and I tend to overcompensate for what I perceive to be my own naivete`.

Does that make me a terrible person?

No, I don't think it does at all. I think we've all heard the horror stories (women more than men) and we all have a degree of cynicism.

 

[k¡tty]

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With me it's a defense mechanism, I am the same online as I am in person, I've just seen a few who aren't and I tend to overcompensate for what I perceive to be my own naivete`.

k that's the thing.

I'm like the person in real life that you see here, just without the everyday sexual banter. lol But you get what I mean..

Sadly I've found far too many people aren't who they portray themselves to be.. I've left feeling gullible and naive. Then wonder how in the feck I ever put faith in them in the first place.

 

[nasty1]

I'm becoming one. My problem is that I tend to believe people to easily. That's not to say I don't believe my any of my on-line friends, cause, I do.

 

[Raina]

No matter how hard you try, do you always question whether people are what they seem to be online?
Yes. I'm cynical by nature anyway...I don't just do this online either. I'm in the midst of a RL situation where I'm doubting everything, even though I know it's kinda silly to do so.

However, when I've finally gotten past the being cynical part, I've made some really good friends online.

Do you find you set up barriers?
Hmm...not consciously, but I guess I do. A little part of me tries to stay back from people because I don't want to fall into the trap of beliving them when they're not being truthful.

Do you question the smallest inconsistencies, whether you admit it to anyone or not?
Definitely.

Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?
Yes. I've been told this about myself in RL as well. I've had people tell me that I'm very unapproachable. *shrugs* To me, that just makes the friends that were "brave" enough to approach me all the more valuable.

 

[Bidin~Time]

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No matter how hard you try, do you always question Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?
Yes. I've been told this about myself in RL as well. I've had people tell me that I'm very unapproachable. *shrugs* To me, that just makes the friends that were "brave" enough to approach me all the more valuable.

Just last week I had a person whom I've been friends with for years tell me it took them ages to work up their nerve to talk to me because they perceived me as "unapproachable".

All I could say was....you have GOT to be kidding me!! ME?????

Then they told me that was before they figured out I was such a shithead and I felt better.

 

[Raina]

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Just last week I had a person whom I've been friends with for years tell me it took them ages to work up their nerve to talk to me because they perceived me as "unapproachable".

All I could say was....you have GOT to be kidding me!! ME?????

Then they told me that was before they figured out I was such a shithead and I felt better.

lmao

The unapproachable thing always gets me. I mean, I don't feel that I'm lacking in friends, so I must not be that unapproachable ya know?

 

[Bidin~Time]

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lmao

The unapproachable thing always gets me. I mean, I don't feel that I'm lacking in friends, so I must not be that unapproachable ya know?

I feel the same way Raina. I mean I think I'm an ok person, but that wasn't the first time I'd heard that from a friend. Still it makes me wonder if I should have vanity plates that read "ice princess".

 

[Cleopatra]

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I feel the same way Raina. I mean I think I'm an ok person, but that wasn't the first time I'd heard that from a friend. Still it makes me wonder if I should have vanity plates that read "ice princess".

This happens to me all the time. People assume because I'm slightly aloof until I get to know them, I'm an ice princess. Little do they know it's a defense mechanism to hide some residual shyness.

 

[Bidin~Time]

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This happens to me all the time. People assume because I'm slightly aloof until I get to know them, I'm an ice princess. Little do they know it's a defense mechanism to hide some residual shyness.

Oh I can relate to the shyness!!!

I'm not as shy as I was when I was young, still it's there. I sometimes have to remind myself people don't normally lop off your arm for saying "hello".

 

[k¡tty]

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Oh I can relate to the shyness!!!

I'm not as shy as I was when I was young, still it's there. I sometimes have to remind myself people don't normally lop off your arm for saying "hello".

Gawd help me if you're the shy one between us.



Concerning real life.. I'm painfully shy. I tend to look down when I walk, I hardly notice anyone.. heck my friends have to point out cute men or to tell me that someone is checking me out. I'm just oblivious to it.

 

[curious2c]

No matter how hard you try, do you always question whether people are what they seem to be online?

Do you find you set up barriers?

Do you question the smallest inconsistencies, whether you admit it to anyone or not?

Do you make it difficult for people to get to know you?

1. I never used to but several years of net life has taught me that all is not what it may seem at times.

2. I try not to except for the usual private stuff that one would not share with just anybody. After a 'get to know you' period...well that is person by person.

3. Only if they would add up to a glaring inconsistency.

4. I do not think so. I flirt, I chat, I expound on my beliefs. Take me or leave me. I would not or will not lie about myself. What if I meet this person in r/l for some reason?

 

[Bidin~Time]

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Gawd help me if you're the shy one between us.



Concerning real life.. I'm painfully shy. I tend to look down when I walk, I hardly notice anyone.. heck my friends have to point out cute men or to tell me that someone is checking me out. I'm just oblivious to it.

Ok I admit you have me in the "shy" dept..... but honestly, how long was it before we met living so close?? a year??

And we'd chatter like magpies so it wasn't like we thought we didn't think we'd hit it off.

 

[k¡tty]

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Ok I admit you have me in the "shy" dept..... but honestly, how long was it before we met living so close?? a year??

And we'd chatter like magpies so it wasn't like we thought we didn't think we'd hit it off.

Yep a year. We both wanted to but kinda avoided it. lol

I was sooooooooo nervous going up and tapping you on the shoulder at the mall. I didn't know what to say or how much of an idiot I'd make of myself.

night hon.. I'm loggin off so my grrrl Raina can phone me. ;-)

 

[Bidin~Time]

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1. I never used to but several years of net life has taught me that all is not what it may seem at times.

2. I try not to except for the usual private stuff that one would not share with just anybody. After a 'get to know you' period...well that is person by person.

3. Only if they would add up to a glaring inconsistency.

4. I do not think so. I flirt, I chat, I expound on my beliefs. Take me or leave me. I would not or will not lie about myself. What if I meet this person in r/l for some reason?

As you said, a few years online and you tend to develop a BS detector. And personal stuff....lord no!!

I too flirt and chat, and speak my mind, but rarely in other than the "main" forum.

Hmmm maybe I am unapproachable.......???

 

[Bidin~Time]

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Yep a year. We both wanted to but kinda avoided it. lol

I was sooooooooo nervous going up and tapping you on the shoulder at the mall. I didn't know what to say or how much of an idiot I'd make of myself.

night hon.. I'm loggin off so my grrrl Raina can phone me. ;-)

Sweet dreams Kitts....say hi to raina for me.