Are we all just narcissistic?

[bi golly]

One thing that I have been thinking about lately is narcissism. When I think of my bisexual urges, they are not a driving urge. I have not gone to great lengths to satisfy them. I masturbate to them and that is usually the end of it. But there is something that is troubling me about this: there is nothing that is emotionally fulfilling about them.


When I am dating a woman, I get something from it. I am more interested in making an emotional connection than a sexual one. I have looked at the adverts on Craig's list and I don't know what people get out of sneaking out to blow someone before heading home to wife and kids.


I read an article about BDSM, Pleasure of Pain, and it seemed that what people were doing is turning inward and feeding a narcissistic need. The thrust of the article was to try to normalize the behaviour, but my question is: why normalize the behaviour if it is not aiding in building character? Is it a wallow, or is it the best part of our character?

Narcissic Personality Disorder has a link to Kiersey Temparment Sorter

 

[Jander1]

I am certainly narcissistic to a point and see nothing wrong with that. I love masterbation, getting myself off and having someone else get me off. Personally I also like to see others get off , which is serving a need for both me and the other person. Just because one does not have an emotional attachment to someone that he or she has sex with does not mean that they do not enjoy giving the other person pleasure. I really think everyone is a narcissist, it is just how one goes about satisfying their needs that makes it wrong. In other words if you are not hurting anyone else what does it matter. We all want to have fun and pleasure in our lives. Sex, as long as it is mutual, is generally a good experience for both parties involved. If not then I assume the person that did not have a good time would not have sex with that person again. I also believe in the old adage "If you do not love yourself you can not love anyone else"