Are there any parents who are Lesbian or Questioning that would feel like helping me?

[UnkownGhost]

Hello,

I've been trying to get some short stories done that involve mother's who either lesbian or questioning.

I don't have anyone in my area to ask these questions so I figured I could ask them here.

My goal is to make sure the thought process of the characters are accurate, relate-able, and respectable.

Sure I can imagine what it would be like but I would like to know for sure. I'm one those people that are interested in the smallest details of something, what makes something tick exactly. For instance I see two fans in a room and I'll ask "What's different about the one to the left?" many will answer "they're both fans so they're practically the same thing". So I'll nod my head and then get the tools and open them both up and find out for sure why this one is different from that one. Yes they're similar but at the core the methods of how they both work are different.

So when I ask these questions I'd like for you understand that I would like to know the true feelings, etc.

I also appreciate a variety of answers. The questions I'll ask have no right or wrong. I would like to know what you may do or have done, or what some others may do or have done. I want these characters to be real and I think there are many things I'm clueless about and haven't considered which is why I need your help and viewpoints. Because my characters will reflect on my own ignorance and in the end will come out hollow and unrealistic.

Anyway having said all that. If you feel like answering one or any of these please feel free to PM your questions to me.

Oh these are also non-erotic stories as well. So certain situations aren't going to be too graphic. Just implied.

The Mothers' Children in either story age range is (11-13)

Element One: The Culture widely accepts Homosexuality but your child has been raised on a remote colony that is VERY conservative.

How might you open up to your child about being a lesbian or questioning your orientation?

What steps might you take to get them acquainted with you having a same sex partner?

How might you get your child to think about homosexuality as being something one is born with instead of it as a choice?

How might you help your child get acquainted with your very liberal society?

Would you label them a homophobic and toss them to the curb if they ever made an error of unintentionally saying something offensive?

Assuming you kept your lesbian life a complete secret from your kid. How might you explain a situation in which the child's school had an early dismissal you forgot about and your child caught you having lesbian sex?


Element Two: Society doesn't condemn homosexuality however it doesn't make a huge deal about it either. It is what it is. Homosexuals are treated like everyone else if your spouse happens of the same sex oh well. At worst people will think it's odd and may ask a lot of questions merely to satisfy a curiosity. There was never a need for a gay rights movement etc. Its never in the news so and so is gay, no one gets fired for being gay etc. It is what it is. Those in the various religious institutions don't make a huge fuss and condemn them to "hell" either. They aren't ousted they're still welcome.

This story will also impact the child a bit deeper than the first and most of it is focused on the child as he endures a barrage of psychological attacks from an outside influence. This is targeted more to those questioning.

How might you handle thoughts as a straight women being sexually attracted to other women? Thoughts you never had before. Would you be nervous to think about such things?

How would handle coping with your new sexual orientation and your child's odd behavior as you notice your child becoming more distant and less responsive than normal?

How might you reply if your child asks you if you still love them or are if their presence is simply for appearance sake? In other words did you have a kid just so you can fit in?

How accepting would you be if your child starts to accept a dangerous lifestyle?

How would you handle an argument in which the child states "I can't change who I am! If you were born to be gay then I was born to be a [not telling]."?

Thank you for answering one or any of these questions. Or just for taking the time to read my ramblings.

 

[stickygirl]

This is an odd request - I'm puzzled. If you'll forgive me asking - why are you asking? Is it really for a story ( you don't have a track record ) or, given the other posts you've made, are you maybe looking for advice for a real life situation? Again, forgive my puzzlement!

Also, be aware of the very strict rules on Lit involving children/underage, even if your intention is to write non-erotic, in the context of Literotica you need to tread very carefully and I'd suggest asking a moderator before you put too much time into a story that cannot be published.

Since you seem to be starting from scratch in an genre unknown to you, then you could do worse than research blogs that discuss these matters directly.
Good luck with whatever it is!

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Good luck getting any candid replies. Around here sexual orientation is guarded against exploration and as static as your astrology sign, when its unfinished business for most people. Theyre gay one day and vegan the next and atheist a day later.

 

[NaokoSmith]

Also, be aware of the very strict rules on Lit involving children/underage, even if your intention is to write non-erotic, in the context of Literotica you need to tread very carefully and I'd suggest asking a moderator before you put too much time into a story that cannot be published.

Bear in mind carefully what Jane says above.

I have been in lesbian relationships, although I brought my daughter up mostly with her biological dad, so I might be able to help. I would want to know a little more - being a mum, and working, and coming on here to do my writing, editing, reviewing blahdiblah, I am quite busy!

Another good resource to add to the ones Jane has linked to, are the Alison Bechdel cartoon stories. Her website here. In particular Spawn of Dykes to Watch Out For is a very realistic (as well as funny and heartwarming) account about two of the lesbian women having a baby. The story of their family goes over several of the books and includes bringing up their son (IVF mostly produces boys, apparently, to the consternation of some living in women only housing collectives). I think the books have all been collected into one big volume now?

 

[UnkownGhost]

This is an odd request - I'm puzzled. If you'll forgive me asking - why are you asking? Is it really for a story ( you don't have a track record ) or, given the other posts you've made, are you maybe looking for advice for a real life situation? Again, forgive my puzzlement!

Also, be aware of the very strict rules on Lit involving children/underage, even if your intention is to write non-erotic, in the context of Literotica you need to tread very carefully and I'd suggest asking a moderator before you put too much time into a story that cannot be published.

Since you seem to be starting from scratch in an genre unknown to you, then you could do worse than research blogs that discuss these matters directly.
Good luck with whatever it is!

I have been in lesbian relationships, although I brought my daughter up mostly with her biological dad, so I might be able to help. I would want to know a little more - being a mum, and working, and coming on here to do my writing, editing, reviewing blahdiblah, I am quite busy!

For story one (element one)

The story is focused on a young MC that has been transferred from Station 27 Bravo a Knight's station. Knight's are advanced front line assault warriors who spend a large portion of life in training. Almost like the knights of old Training can start as early 8 or 9 years for most. They learn discipline, history, and maintenance skills. Because in their younger years they'll be spending a lot of time cleaning and doing basic repairs. As they get older they'll learn more about battle tactics and combat skills. The reason for starting as such a young age is because traversing the stars still takes a long time. So an 18 year old rookie will be 20-25 depending on what world they land on.

In the MCs case the Station has been closed down and recent technology has negated the use of young ones being in training. The death of his father leaves him in the custody of his mother. Who lives on a world that is completely different from life on the station.

The MC will have to get used to many changes most importantly his mother's life style.

At one time his mother lived in such a rigid society but has come to accept the one on the world she lives now.

At worst when the kid catches his mother he won't be standing and watching. He'll just run. I have read stories where kids walked in other their parents. Those too young were clueless, those old enough would have rather died. In his case I'd think it would be shock and he'll just go somewhere else for a while.

Other than that they'll be involved in battles and fire-fights. The second story the MC will be in an intense firefight with several Death-bots. That will be around the time the mother has concrete evidence that was he's doing and his attitude has nothing to with her. Nevertheless I want to get some feedback on how to get their thought processes done right.

For the second story (element two)

The MC learns that he isn't who he thinks he is. Outside influences will attempt to tear the MC away from anything he has an emotional attachment too. Since his mother is his biggest source of strength she becomes their target. They'll feed him information and plant ideas in his head that his mother doesn't want him, she never has, she's merely using him so she can fit in. etc. etc. The influence doesn't care if it's true or not. They need to emotionally deaden him so he execute their objective which just might get him killed. Hopefully not though. However thousands may die so that millions may live. He and a few others will be only ones to complete the task but to do their job effectively they'll have to let go of their emotions so they won't make irrational calls.

In this story the questioning mother will actually think her son's hostility is about her and possibly her girlfriend. But his problem is that he's coping with everything being a lie.

There is soooo much more about both of these characters I'd love to tell you about however this is the meat of their problems and a decent chunk of the story.

Thank you for taking the time to time to read and reply everyone I look forward to reading more of your insight.

 

[UnkownGhost]

Good luck getting any candid replies. Around here sexual orientation is guarded against exploration and as static as your astrology sign, when its unfinished business for most people. Theyre gay one day and vegan the next and atheist a day later.

I'm starting to see how true those words are.

A bit off topic by the way your avatar of the gun ... there is a grill around my area that looks like that very revolver.

Anyway I can understand why people wouldn't be so open with it they're used to getting attacked. Me... I just don't give a damn what a person is. I have my own problems and I'm not one to condemn anyone.

I just want to make sure I'm doing things right. You know there is a term I remember coming across called the "Male-gaze" when men write about female characters. There are certain words they use to describe their female characters that women wouldn't use when describing themselves ... or so I've been told. Well I'm wanting to avoid the "Heterosexual-gaze" ... if that makes sense.

 

[TxRad]

I'm starting to see how true those words are.

A bit off topic by the way your avatar of the gun ... there is a grill around my area that looks like that very revolver.

Anyway I can understand why people wouldn't be so open with it they're used to getting attacked. Me... I just don't give a damn what a person is. I have my own problems and I'm not one to condemn anyone.

I just want to make sure I'm doing things right. You know there is a term I remember coming across called the "Male-gaze" when men write about female characters. There are certain words they use to describe their female characters that women wouldn't use when describing themselves ... or so I've been told. Well I'm wanting to avoid the "Heterosexual-gaze" ... if that makes sense.

Just be aware that NT is the AH's pet troll so take everything he says with a large grain of aspirin. He's very jaded and doesn't fit in here but he keep baiting everyone he can. He's homophobic about Lesbians above all else.

For insight in the lesbian mind set, go read in the lesbian category. Colleen Thomas would be a good place to start.

 

[UnkownGhost]

Just be aware that NT is the AH's pet troll so take everything he says with a large grain of aspirin. He's very jaded and doesn't fit in here but he keep baiting everyone he can. He's homophobic about Lesbians above all else.

For insight in the lesbian mind set, go read in the lesbian category. Colleen Thomas would be a good place to start.

Thank you for the advice and link.

 

[UnkownGhost]

Read some of her work and you are not kidding she is definitely the one to look up! Again thank you!

 

[TxRad]

Read some of her work and you are not kidding she is definitely the one to look up! Again thank you!

We lost a damned good writer and an even better person when she passed away.

 

[NaokoSmith]

We lost a damned good writer and an even better person when she passed away.

Sorry I didn't get to know her, TX.


UnkownGhost, just to explain how getting story feedback works.

You can come here and put up a thread as you've done and you will get some tips from other authors on the site.

You could write the story and publish it, then you may get feedback in Comments. When you've published it, you could also go to the Story Feedback board where you can put up the link in a New Thread of your own, or post in one of the threads where some of us offer feedback. You can get a lot of very useful critical feedback that way. (You can take the story down and re-write it then re-publish it, you will still keep the marks and comments you had on the earlier version.)

If you want some support while writing the story, you can go to the Editors' Forum, post a brief description of the story you plan to write and explain what editing help you need - in your case that would be less copy editing and more a beta read by someone who understands these issues. As you will be aware, that might be hard to find, so you could also ask someone you think will know about these things or be a good advisor on writing a credible story, if they would read it for you.

This board is generally for writers chatting so you probably won't get much more detailed feedback about your story ideas here.