Are There Any Genuine Women Left In This World Or Are They Just Cheap Imitations?

[NyteCruzr]

Are there any genuine women left in this country or have they all become some cheap soap opera imitation? Do any of you still know what love is or just imagine that you do? Do you mean what you say or just say whatever suits the moment? Do you have a real life or are you so hung up and baggage laden you no longer have a clue what a real life is?

I am so damn tired of soap opera females. Such wonderful creatures they can be until the novelty wears off the the real character shows through. Guess it is totally ignorant of me to expect anything else in this environment of non-reality. Unfortunately, this is a microcosm of the real word.

 

[Georgia Girl]

There are plenty of real women left.

Many of them have been injured previously by something masquerading as love and so now they are a bit more cautious. This does not make them drama queens, it means they fear that that type of pain again and have made a decision to take a pathway that is longer and allows them time to get to know this person that they are and that they are choosing to share their heart and soul with.

It takes a lot of guts to put your soul out here for anyone to criticize or comment on. It takes a deep belief in who you are and knowledge of what you want.

Just so you know.......its not just women who are like that. There are men as well, men who want a pretty baggageless Barbi doll who will be ever so perfect and never cry. There are men who are users, abusers, and much worse as well.

Dawn

 

[Native Alien]

i am as real as it gets and yes, i have a real life. i am not a barbie or even close...

maybe you should take a close look at who you are picking to date?...

Georgia Girl got it just right..............

 

[NyteCruzr]

There are plenty of real women left.

Many of them have been injured previously by something masquerading as love and so now they are a bit more cautious. This does not make them drama queens, it means they fear that that type of pain again and have made a decision to take a pathway that is longer and allows them time to get to know this person that they are and that they are choosing to share their heart and soul with.

It takes a lot of guts to put your soul out here for anyone to criticize or comment on. It takes a deep belief in who you are and knowledge of what you want.

Just so you know.......its not just women who are like that. There are men as well, men who want a pretty baggageless Barbi doll who will be ever so perfect and never cry. There are men who are users, abusers, and much worse as well.

Dawn

MS Georgia: I am well aware that both genders have their faults and that some of those faults are predatory in nature to say the least. I am well aware that once dealt a foul deed, one can become jaded with the balance of the opposite gender. Fine! Just don't pretend to be one thing in the beginning and once you have your comfort level established, then show the real you. I may have fallen for the one you were pretending to be and not care at all for the one you are. Thus by being deceiving you have reinforced my feelings about cheap soap opera imitations and perhaps your feelings about all guys are B_ _ _ _ _ _ _ which I have heard many a woman say.

I am real, I only care for real in return.

 

[NyteCruzr]

i am as real as it gets and yes, i have a real life. i am not a barbie or even close...

maybe you should take a close look at who you are picking to date?...

Georgia Girl got it just right..............

Dear N A:

Thank You for your opinion. Those whom I have dated don't come from seedy places for burned out wannabes. I mostly am attracted to intelligence, wit, down to earth, Yes, some attractivesness but I care nothing for the beauty queen as time has shown her to be a mere flash in the pan. Someone I can talk with, hold hands with, walk with, be with and enjoy and who appears to enjoy the same. Someone with a bit of free spirit about them. GEES, it sounds like I am advertising. My apology.

Nyte

 

[LOVELYYLADIE33]

There are alot of real women out here looking for what we might think there is in a real man. A real man is not a man who has created the soap opra woman, however he is a man that can look beyond what a mans image of a woman should be. It is not a soap opra woman, its a woman who has class, im meaning, she cares about herself and how she represents herself to the world, in image and mind. A real woman gets up every day and looks in the mirror and says, i must make myself look like what the world expects, fresh makeup nice hair and so on. She then goes to the kitchen and prepares breakfast for her family, and then she wakes them, rushes them to the table to eat and then from there she rushes them to get ready to start their day, while she is doing this her husband is probably still asleep, and then she wakes him and feeds him and trys to make him happy so that he may have a good day, then she is off to take everyone to their destination, from there she makes a few stops along the way , then she goes to work, on her lunch she goes out and pays bills and does more erronds to make sure everything is taken care of, and then back to work she goes, most of the time her lunch is a slimfast, remember she has to keep the image that a man thinks she should be. After work she picks the kids up, stops at the store for something for dinner, goes home and starts a whole new job, dinner, homework, any problems the kids may be having and so forth, and this is done usually before the man is even home from work. Then he comes home and she has to do the same for him, after that she has to get the kids prepared for the next day, and to bed. Then she has to clean the house, do the dishes, and get a shower. Buy this time her day is gone and its bed time, and lets not forget once she is in bed she still has one more duty to do to fullfill her day and that is to please her husband. And then she can rest. Now that my friend is a real woman, and there are several that do that everyday without thinking twice, and did you happen to notice, was there anything in her day that was just for her? It was all for someone else. And guess what she loves every moment of it. So when you ask again where are all the real women out there, we are not all soap opra women, yes maybe some, but i can bet not many. And remember its a man that expects us to portray ourselves this way, just think how it would be if we walked out of the house with out combing our hair or washing our face or applying a little make up, we do this to satisfy you, would you like us to stop??

 

[MissTaken]

You aren't likely to find a woman of substance here at lit with such an offensive opening.

Just some friendly advice.

 

[NyteCruzr]

There are alot of real women out here looking for what we might think there is in a real man. A real man is not a man who has created the soap opra woman, however he is a man that can look beyond what a mans image of a woman should be. It is not a soap opra woman, its a woman who has class, im meaning, she cares about herself and how she represents herself to the world, in image and mind. A real woman gets up every day and looks in the mirror and says, i must make myself look like what the world expects, fresh makeup nice hair and so on. She then goes to the kitchen and prepares breakfast for her family, and then she wakes them, rushes them to the table to eat and then from there she rushes them to get ready to start their day, while she is doing this her husband is probably still asleep, and then she wakes him and feeds him and trys to make him happy so that he may have a good day, then she is off to take everyone to their destination, from there she makes a few stops along the way , then she goes to work, on her lunch she goes out and pays bills and does more erronds to make sure everything is taken care of, and then back to work she goes, most of the time her lunch is a slimfast, remember she has to keep the image that a man thinks she should be. After work she picks the kids up, stops at the store for something for dinner, goes home and starts a whole new job, dinner, homework, any problems the kids may be having and so forth, and this is done usually before the man is even home from work. Then he comes home and she has to do the same for him, after that she has to get the kids prepared for the next day, and to bed. Then she has to clean the house, do the dishes, and get a shower. Buy this time her day is gone and its bed time, and lets not forget once she is in bed she still has one more duty to do to fullfill her day and that is to please her husband. And then she can rest. Now that my friend is a real woman, and there are several that do that everyday without thinking twice, and did you happen to notice, was there anything in her day that was just for her? It was all for someone else. And guess what she loves every moment of it. So when you ask again where are all the real women out there, we are not all soap opra women, yes maybe some, but i can bet not many. And remember its a man that expects us to portray ourselves this way, just think how it would be if we walked out of the house with out combing our hair or washing our face or applying a little make up, we do this to satisfy you, would you like us to stop??

Dear LOVELYYLADIE33:

Perhaps there are more soap queens out in the world than you are aware. As for taking care of the children, they didn't ask to be brought into your world so they deserve to be loved and cared for regardless how one might catagorize it. As for taking care of the husband, maybe he sould get off his lazy arse and help. That you take care of everything and enjoy doing so, I applaud you. If that is how you feel and what you feel then I would say you do fall in the genuine catagory. However, you aren't who or what I am talking about. Yes, I lumped all women into my initial comment and that is incorrect. One would think that if you perform all those duties and enjoy doing them as you say, then you aren't a part of the dating scene and thus my comment isn't applicable to you.

Nyte

 

[NyteCruzr]

You aren't likely to find a woman of substance here at lit with such an offensive opening.

Just some friendly advice.

Dear Miss Taken:

At this point in my life I am not searching. That would be a futile effort.

Nyte

 

[Georgia Girl]

Just don't pretend to be one thing in the beginning and once you have your comfort level established, then show the real you.

It would seem you are comparing all women to some woman who has injured you in the past. That is not fair to the rest of us nor is it fair to yourself.

The picture I show others of me is the real me, no make-up, hair is not fixed and wearing a t-shirt. Why not show others what I really look like on a day to day basis?

If I happen to get my make-up on thats okay and if I don't thats okay to, I do it for me ........ not for anyone else.

Pretense is for fools.

 

[NyteCruzr]

It would seem you are comparing all women to some woman who has injured you in the past. That is not fair to the rest of us nor is it fair to yourself.

The picture I show others of me is the real me, no make-up, hair is not fixed and wearing a t-shirt. Why not show others what I really look like on a day to day basis?

If I happen to get my make-up on thats okay and if I don't thats okay to, I do it for me ........ not for anyone else.

Pretense is for fools.

Dear Georgia:

It isn't about make up or the lack thereof. OK, OK, maybe my initial comment was a bit harsh. Maybe

Nyte

 

[harlock17]

It was harsh. First off you're looking too hard.

I can remember the countless times I've been hurt...every single one of them. I consider each of them extremely valuable in the sense of experience. One thing remained the same in each one. I was trying WAY too hard to find someone and whenever I found a possibilty. It blew up in my face.

Its gunna hit ya, hard, and you're not going to be expecting it. When I stopped looking for a girl who was the real thing who was caring and perfect in everyway and wanted to be with me forever. Thats when I got hit, and the girl I found, and been with so far these past couple of months has been the greatest thing ever. Example: I suffer from depression, whenever she see's me like that she takes it apon herself to baby me and try her hardest to make me feel better.

Most girls I've been with previously would say "you've got problems I don't want to have to deal with that, bye!"...

So stop looking so hard and stop complaining...complaining only makes you feel more fervent in your own decision that there is no one real out there and makes the whole thing seem more hopeless. (Take this from a guy who went through the same thing).

Do what I did...have fun.

Believe it or not, if you're paying more attention to having a lot of fun, you're not going to be looking so hard for someone and you'll probably not care too much either. Stick with bros, see the movies, read books.

And then one day out of the blue you're going to suddenly find yourself making your saturday free for a date you just scheduled, and that person will more then likely be a keeper.

You're most likely setting yourself up for the fall...you get too excited that they may be real and suddenly step on what they feel is uneasy ground for them which they are not ready for and you make them push you away?...is any of that sounding familar?

 

[Jaded1]

NyteCruzr

My GOD man I honestly don't believe that you are comparing all woman to so few. I will not go into a long story as I can only imagine your words were meant to be directed at a specific person. In fact you should be telling THAT particular person how you feel! There are millions on millions of REAL women in the world but sadly I sense you will never find one. There is a ole saying and it goes like this 'You attract what you project.' Personally I feel you owe the female population and apology for your anger at a single person.....

Oh, and all men are not bastards.... But, sadly there are a few!

Jaded1, CT

 

[NyteCruzr]

Re: NyteCruzr

My GOD man I honestly don't believe that you are comparing all woman to so few. I will not go into a long story as I can only imagine your words were meant to be directed at a specific person. In fact you should be telling THAT particular person how you feel! There are millions on millions of REAL women in the world but sadly I sense you will never find one. There is a ole saying and it goes like this 'You attract what you project.' Personally I feel you owe the female population and apology for your anger at a single person.....

Oh, and all men are not bastards.... But, sadly there are a few!

Jaded1, CT

Dear Jaded:

Well, I need not fear whatever my projection may attract for I seek no one at this time. Never met anyone before who had personally met and intimately knew millions of women. I am kinda drawing the idea that if I should decide at some point to seek someone else in my life, I will need look in a direction opposite of you.

Thanks for your opinion,

Nyte

 

[NyteCruzr]

It was harsh. First off you're looking too hard.

I can remember the countless times I've been hurt...every single one of them. I consider each of them extremely valuable in the sense of experience. One thing remained the same in each one. I was trying WAY too hard to find someone and whenever I found a possibilty. It blew up in my face.

Its gunna hit ya, hard, and you're not going to be expecting it. When I stopped looking for a girl who was the real thing who was caring and perfect in everyway and wanted to be with me forever. Thats when I got hit, and the girl I found, and been with so far these past couple of months has been the greatest thing ever. Example: I suffer from depression, whenever she see's me like that she takes it apon herself to baby me and try her hardest to make me feel better.

Most girls I've been with previously would say "you've got problems I don't want to have to deal with that, bye!"...

So stop looking so hard and stop complaining...complaining only makes you feel more fervent in your own decision that there is no one real out there and makes the whole thing seem more hopeless. (Take this from a guy who went through the same thing).

Do what I did...have fun.

Believe it or not, if you're paying more attention to having a lot of fun, you're not going to be looking so hard for someone and you'll probably not care too much either. Stick with bros, see the movies, read books.

And then one day out of the blue you're going to suddenly find yourself making your saturday free for a date you just scheduled, and that person will more then likely be a keeper.

You're most likely setting yourself up for the fall...you get too excited that they may be real and suddenly step on what they feel is uneasy ground for them which they are not ready for and you make them push you away?...is any of that sounding familar?

Dear Harlock:

I find myself laughing as I read your writing. WHOA! I am not laughing at you. I am laughing because I have told many another person the same thing you are telling me. Interesting how you can so freely give advice to another yet find it not present in your own way of life. Yes, perhaps much of what you say is true. I was too harsh with my initial comment. I therefore offer my apology to the women whom I may have offended.

Thanks again Harlock, Good Luck to you and yours,

Nyte

 

[carnie_24]

Looking for a real lady

When you are looking for a "real" lady... you have to look deep beneath the surface to see what she is... Beyond the beauty, size shape etc. Women who want to be loved and cherished will shine like a beacon in the night to whomever asks. Love is not something that happens overnight and I can't believe that women have just shown their good side for so long that you fell for them. We all shine through, in our weakest moments, the cruelty and anger that we can be capable of. Our tempers can not always be controlled, nor do our tears, fears, regrets, wants and needs stay hidden beneath a false face. I believe, if you look, you can always find something..

Oh yeah... women are no more soap stars than men.

 

[Guest]

The Women they are ....

The Women they are is in all truth, the women they DECIDE TO BE! It is as simple as that. Sadly though, few realize that.

The REAL women, are the ones that DON'T hide behind their past hurts, fears and pains NOR bring it into any current relationship they may have. The REAL women are the ones that decide who THEY want to be and ARE NOT the mere product of societies or mens expectations of them - they are themselves.

The REAL women, GO BEYOND their own emotional views and feelings of the world and try to look, feel and interact with it from understanding of others views and NOT EXPECT all in the world to go out of their way to 'communicate' as THEY EXPECT they should but adapt in compromise.

In summary, the REAL WOMEN ARE the beauty blending of TOUCH - truthfulness, openness, understanding, compromise and selfless communication and heart .... enough said.

 

[carnie_24]

ABSOLUTELY! I agree with you totally and could never had sait it so well....

 

[harlock17]

NP Nyte, hope hearing your own advice helps out. I often have to hear my own medicine from a friend to actually believe its feasible for me. =P

 

[Jaded1]

Actually Nyte..........

I'm glad were going in opposite directions......

Jaded1, CT

 

[NyteCruzr]

Re: Actually Nyte..........

I'm glad were going in opposite directions......

Jaded1, CT

Tis my pleasure to oblige.

 

[didababy]

Im so sorry NyteCruzr, that you have ran into so many bad apples. I know there are so many of us out there, that are not real, but I for one am a true believer that there is someone for everyone. So, hang in there, she will come along.

 

[~*EroticKiss*~]

Are there any genuine women left in this country or have they all become some cheap soap opera imitation? Do any of you still know what love is or just imagine that you do? Do you mean what you say or just say whatever suits the moment? Do you have a real life or are you so hung up and baggage laden you no longer have a clue what a real life is?

I am so damn tired of soap opera females. Such wonderful creatures they can be until the novelty wears off the the real character shows through. Guess it is totally ignorant of me to expect anything else in this environment of non-reality. Unfortunately, this is a microcosm of the real word.

I say what I mean and mean what I say...Iam who Iam...
Genuine?...Hell yes!!!
~*((HUGS))*~

 

[Karyatide]

It does seem, at times, that few people know how to be real anymore.

Very many don't even know what they think or feel about something, they only know what they've been told is the "correct" thing, the accepted thing, the popular thing.

Sadder is that so many don't even know themselves. They never have looked inside, they just see their image reflected in the opinions of others and accept that is who they are.

I haven't noticed it being heavily weighted on one gender, though.

Yes, there *are* real women and there are real men, but it might take a while to get to know that you have met one, particularly online, since you lack the clues of an open, honest and relaxed gaze. Likely curious, but not assessing.

However, it can be done!

 

[AardRiven]

I am of opinion that real people are a horrible minority and most of fakes dont think of themselves as such. Keep in mind tho, although you might meet her as fake, that doesnt mean she will stay as such, and that goes for real people as well. Oh, well, now I'm depressing myself.

Change that to 'Everybody is potentially real'. There. Better now.