Are older people kinkier?

[Marquis]

This is something I have often wondered. It seems to me that most people don't get kinky until they are at least 30.

I am 20 years old, and I feel kind of funny talking to my friends about sex sometimes because they HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING INTERESTING. Whats more, most of them don't even want to try. They all seem satisfied with missionary over and over while my girlfriend and I are exploring each other in all sorts of ways. Anyway, for a long time I just chalked this up to my girlfriend and I being real kinky, but now I think maybe we are just a little advanced.

I went to a party with a mostly late 20's early 30's crowd, and the whole thing seemed MUCH more fun!!! People were much chiller and even seemed hornier!!

Whats up with this?? Where people who were vanilla at 19 become perverts at 33? Or does it just take some time to know how to express yourself? I had no idea things were like this. Let me know what you all think.

 

[Rubyfruit]

That has been my experience. It takes time for most people to have the confidence to explore sex more fully. It did for me, anyway.

 

[mike_mike02128]

with age comes an understanding of sex.....its not as big a deal to discuss it or have it out in the open as it is when your a teenager or 20. I found that out as I got older. It came to a big surprise to me also when I noticed how open most people were. And you know....its easier to get too.

 

[GuyJD]

I got that compliment from my girlfriend at the time. She was 20 and I was 37, at the time.

As she put it, younger guys just want to "Hit It & Quit" and we older guys put forth more effort.

 

[HeavyStick]

it's experience and confidence to try new ideas and frontiers.... older people are less likely to be intimidated by fear of the unknown

 

[mike_mike02128]

with experience comes a certain begree of knowledge....and with practice things get better....goes for sex as well

 

[RhumbRunner13]

Yes, but then they get" smellier!

Seriously, all of life is experience. As you experience more things that were strange become "everyday". With a little luck it never stops.

Rhumb

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I've been told by many of my older male friends that young men just don't know how to take care of a woman (admittedly, these men were trying VERY hard to get into my pants, but have not yet succeeded). These were gentlemen who'd heard something of my sexual appetite, and believed that a younger guy could never satisfy me...

Anywho, I'm pretty kinky for a young'un. When I began having sex, I knew right away that it would be fun, and that it was a world of possibility. I also knew that I'd be good at it. And if I wasn't, I'd work to be. I've been with lovers far older than myself, and I really have to admit, they are a lot more comfortable with their sexuality than younger guys (and gals), so they knew what to do to make it a more mutually pleasurable experience.

 

[mike_mike02128]

lol

 

[Laurel]

The older you are, the more experience you have, the better you know yourself (physically and otherwise). I'm waay more sexual & orgasmic at 30 than I was at 20.

 

[mike_mike02128]

The older you are, the more experience you have, the better you know yourself (physically and otherwise). I'm waay more sexual & orgasmic at 30 than I was at 20.

I must agree....they say men peek at 18....30 is more like it

 

[Dougy]

I'm not sure it is sexual experience based either. I am certainly more open to talking about sexual matters than I was at 20, even though what experience I have had predates most of my 20's. I think that it is really a more centered outlook on life, in which sex is just one aspect of the entire experience. Were the subject to come up I would be much more open to different experiences now, and thus kinkier, than I was ten years ago.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

It all depends on what you and your partner are comfortable with. I'm only 20, but after losing my virginity in the "Hit it and Quit it" way ( Nice way to put it JD ) my girlfriend and I immediately started exploring different things we had heard about and wanted to try.

There are ways to enhance your experience level without actually doing more than reading... and thats what I did. I came in knowing some of the stuff I wanted to try and tried it, now I'm into the real-time experience enhancers.

 

[mig]

Consider

That sometimes it takes a lot of years to escape from a repressed
upbringing.

I can now do things that were impossible for me when I was 20.

Pity I've not got the same energy.

 

[Marquis]

Consider

That sometimes it takes a lot of years to escape from a repressed
upbringing.

I hadn't thought about that actually, but it makes a ton of sense now that I do!

I have a male friend who tells me he still feels guilty after sex with his girlfriend of 2 years because of his religion.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Consider

That sometimes it takes a lot of years to escape from a repressed
upbringing.

I agree completely. It took me many years, and into my early 30s, before I could let go of the "good girl" I was raised to be.

 

[mig]

I was raised on the basis that boys don't cry.

Men never show their feelings,etc.etc.

 

[Andreina]

so i'd be even kinkier than i am now? COOL!

however, if i think of my parents i hope that every bit of sex drive we have in our bodies disappears as soon as you turn 40.

 

[koalabear]

Especially when you try to get out of bed in the morning.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Who are you calling old???!!!!

Yikes, I feel as if I need to go and get my S.S. check after that comment! (Hmm, maybe I could call work and tell them I'm feeling too old to come in today!)
I agree with the other "more experienced" folks who said that as one grows older, you are more comfortable trying out new things. After all, variety is the spice of life!

 

[Hornymama]

I'm older and I don't know if you'd call me kinky but i do know as i got older there were alot more things I was willing to try(not talking about orgies, threesomes, or things like that)but i know as i got older and hopefully matured I wasn't quite as concerned about what people thought about me as before. the more I found new things i liked the more I wanted to find out. I also think for me anyway, it has a lot to do with your relationship.The more you love someone and the closer you become the more you want to explore together.Sounds like and you girlfriend have a good relationship and as you become closer you want to do what pleases the other. It's great satisfaction to know your making your partner happy.that's the way i feel anyway.I know i'm not expressing myself to well here but hopefully you understand what i'm trying to say.

 

[Bluesboy2]

so i'd be even kinkier than i am now? COOL!

however, if i think of my parents i hope that every bit of sex drive we have in our bodies disappears as soon as you turn 40.

It doesnt, trust me.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Somebody is Misinformed

so i'd be even kinkier than i am now? COOL!

however, if i think of my parents i hope that every bit of sex drive we have in our bodies disappears as soon as you turn 40.

Sorry Andreina, That just does not happen. Rather, life begins at forty, and just gets better each year.

 

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[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Re: Somebody is Misinformed

Sorry Andreina, That just does not happen. Rather, life begins at forty, and just gets better each year.

I agree with you 100% there, Don! I know that since I turned 40 a couple of years ago, my life has been much easier in many regards. For instance, I don't have the worry of raising children, career concerns, or if I can satisfy my partner. Whew! The last was a BIG one when I was younger!! I'm more confident about my capabilities now.
LIFE IS WONDERFULL!!
And yes, I do have a few grey hairs, but I view them as badges of honor. I earned every damned one of them!