Are Older Men Always Controlling?

[BrokenBarbie]

“I’m naturally quiet and submissive” is a sure way to attract them.

 

[Champakian]

So is smoking and a tramp stamp.

That advertises, "I do anal daddy!"

 

[Akinkymind]

Old men have the money (the means).

Young men have to kiss ass and jump through hoops to get laid...

(Or go the giggle route to a controlling old woman.)

People (men and women both) don’t need money to be controlling, domineering, and manipulative; they just have to be an asshole. Controlling people in my experience are much more adept at psychological manipulation, often because they feel a distinct lack of power and self confidence in the rest of their life.

 

[LukSkyFokker]

So is smoking and a tramp stamp.

That advertises, "I do anal daddy!"

Is your tramp stamp tribal or does it say, "Cum Dumpster?"

 

[scrymettet]

Abusive generalization
Age have nothing to do with behaviour

Now stay straight and don't chew with an open mouth. No reply.

 

[silver gurl]

Is your tramp stamp tribal or does it say, "Cum Dumpster?"

Champ’s twin?
Thread 'let's face it: very few Lit women are worth approaching them'
https://forum.literotica.com/thread...lit-women-are-worth-approaching-them.1564202/

 

[Champakian]

Some people are taking Lit wa-a-a-ay too seriously.

 

[Mtnmike]

This one isn’t. More like live, and let live.

Ditto.

 

[Escierto]

As an old man I can tell you that men as they get older go in two directions. They either get more controlling or less. I am in the second group but the first group is probably larger.

 

[TallMan69]

We’re very possessive of our land. View attachment 2142083

 

[Windman1]

In my opinion a controlling attitude is born out of a selfishness that says, “give me what I want and maybe you’ll get what you need in the process.” Its not an attitude of selfless service to a spouse or significant person in their life.

 

[IsItBad]

Hi all! So the long and the short of it is that I was seeing an older man for a few months, but that ended because he was getting increasingly dismissive, unkind, and controlling. I appreciate the wisdom an older man can offer, but I still have too much self respect to be talked down to or pushed around. I like older men, so this won’t be the last time I get involved with one. Any advice on how to avoid this sort of thing in the future? Thank you. <3

its doubtful that he was controlling because he was an older man. he was controlling because he has a controlling nature. as an older man, i don't really think we become more controlling over time. i think however we are just accurately reflects how we are. more than likely, he pretended to mask his control freak nature at the outset so as not to run you off but the more comfortable he got with you the more he let the real person show. if anything, i prefer not to be in control. having run many companies in my life, i have had plenty of control and been required to be in control over many things. i find it quite refreshing to purposely relinquish control.

 

[Islander55]

Being controlling is not age related in my experience. I am 64 so most men that I mingle with are older as well. I find that most of them are quite willing to listen and accept my desires. It seems to me that most older men find it much harder to get laid than when they were 20 so are quite appreciative of the woman that still enjoys sex.

 

[JakBird]

As an elderly curmudgeon I can safely admit to being one of those controlling types without fear of damaging the tattered remains of my reputation. Why are older men so controlling? I can only speak for myself.

To start its one of the few virtues (we'll get to that) I have left to offer. Retired into poverty, decrepit from natural progression and poor lifestyle choices, there is little I have to offer in the usual sense. However, regardless of all the "toxic masculinity" labels tossed around, there are a small number of the submissive female persuasion who are attracted to the dominant male personality.

What's the borderline between dominant and controlling? The wisdom that comes from experience, in knowing that subtlety works, and brute force doesn't. The end goal is the same, but the means to get there, seizing control of someone else's life in its entirety, does take patience and a bit of pragmatism.

In my particular case I only have my stories to keep me going these days. Real life eludes me, but now I'm closer to the end than the start it doesn't bother me. If one of the stories resonates with a particular lady, well then I have someone to carry on an email conversation, about all I can manage. In younger days I did act, not so very different that described above, but only at the right moment. When it comes to controlling, timing is everything.

 

[Mtnmike]

Being controlling is not age related in my experience. I am 64 so most men that I mingle with are older as well. I find that most of them are quite willing to listen and accept my desires. It seems to me that most older men find it much harder to get laid than when they were 20 so are quite appreciative of the woman that still enjoys sex.

Your assessment is correct, well for me anyway.

 

[Islander55]

Your assessment is correct, well for me anyway.

I admit that I would shy away from men that seem too bossy or sling too much BS. I find most older men to be pleasant and friendly and with the few with which I have become intimate, that seems to carry over.