Are lit members predictable?

[pplwatching]

I'm curious about the average lit user (but then, I'm a voyuer at heart).

A month or two ago I found www.match.com's " provocative personality test". It has a section on sexual compatability, which is pretty cool for a free web site. Take it and post your results here. It's free and worth a try. Do you feel like it matches you?

For me it says : Romantic sex Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you connect with your partner. To you, life is about finding balance, and a romantic and satisfying sex life is a key part of your vision.

Among men your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 10 men (11%).
Is she sexually compatible? You're looking for someone who'll bring a lot of sexual energy to the relationship and help keep sex exciting and new.

What's ahead for you sexually? You will probably experience some kind of sexual miscommunication or lack of interest with a partner. The good news? You're naturally suited to handle it. If your sex life needs a jump-start, you're creative and imaginative enough to heat things up in bed. If there's a more serious problem, your problem solving skills enable you to talk rationally about it. Since compromise is key to a long-term sex life, few are better suited than you to make things work.

That pretty much pegs me. My favorite sex kitten and I didn't match up especially well, but we have a great marriage anyway ;-)

How about you?

 

[Delta Boy]

I'm going to take that test right now but I can already tell you:

I'm predictable as hell.


Except when I'm unpredictable.


I'm just funny that way.

 

[TNRkitect2b]

my results...

As you probably know, you have a higher sex drive than most! You give and receive pleasure easily. The connection you feel from making love energizes and comforts you in a way most people wouldn't understand. Plus, your vivid imagination fuels a variety of fantasies you'll explore with your lucky future partner.

You're looking for someone who enjoys sex and wants it as often as you do. You want someone who shares your playful and adventurous approach to sex.

A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. Your profile points to a very promising sex life with your future partner. If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring. You know what it's like to emotionally connect with someone and truly make love (vs. just having sex). It will be hard (or impossible) to settle for anything less. Someone as loving and sensual as you should hold out for a woman who shares your passions.

 

[Starfyre]

Here's mine... (you know I love the tests)

Romantic sex
Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you connect emotionally with your partner. Whether it's sexual or simply an affectionate touch, you give and receive pleasure easily.

Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 10 women (10%).

Is he sexually compatible?
You're looking for someone just like you, who values the quality of sex over the quantity. You want someone who would never pressure you about sex.

What's ahead for you sexually?
A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. Your profile points to a very promising sex life with your future partner. If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring. You know what it's like to emotionally connect with someone and truly make love (vs. just having sex). It will be hard (or impossible) to settle for anything less. Someone as loving and sensual as you should hold out for a man who shares your passions.

~Star

 

[pplwatching]

Curious minds want to know ...

Both my wife and I think that the computer came pretty close in describing us.

Do you think describes you, or does it miss the mark?

 

[TNRkitect2b]

it described me pretty damn closely... i'd say spot on, i was surprised

 

[Starfyre]

it's pretty close!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[pplwatching]

Thanks

I am insatiably curious about other people and to find a board like this is a fantasy come true. I Love reading about other people's sex lives and learning about what makes them tick. I want to thank each and every one of you who posts. You all seem genuine, and that makes reading the posts so much more interesting. I love people watching and my wife is learning the fine art of it too ;-)

I had figured the sex part would be what people here would pay attention to (maybe I'm just a perv after all), but PinkOrchid's post is interesting so I'll do mine and invite others to. Perhaps other's like me will be interested. It's long, but the computer doesn't care and you can always scroll down or move on This is one of the few nights where I actually have nothing to do, so here goes.

You're always exploring
You're smart, insightful, and have an insatiable curiosity about life. You have a vision for how you want your life to be, so you refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Life should be "balanced" with plenty of time for fun, spontaneity, and romance! Because you're independent and a little shy, you only let a few people get especially close. Still, you have an emotional depth that most men lack. You're ready and able to experience romance and a powerful "spark" with someone special.
<<< Pats self on back. Would be egotistical to jump on the smart, but otherwise very accurate. Insatiable curiousity is an understatement. I love to learn, and exploring my sexual curiosity is a major turn on. I'm not a thrill seeker, but definately a voyuer.

How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of men your age. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken the test, about 31.2% (or 1 in 3 men) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.
<<< "You men are all the same. You're not unique, but you can play unique on TV". I happen to think that I'm unique. Would be interesting to see if it's averages apply to other lit users.

What's dating all about to you?
You believe dating and life in general is about learning and growing as a person. You're a great listener, so women tend to enjoy going out with you. However, it's hard for you to have a real intellectual connection with an attractive woman.
<< When I was dating it was hard to talk to very attractive women, true. But I sort of stumbled into a relationship with a great looking woman and after that they sort of fell in line. Of course there is no woman on the planet more beautiful than my lovely wife. The rest of you will have to be content being runner up. ;-)

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because you're shy, you feel like you have to be someone else or "wear a mask" to go out and meet new people. You're left feeling like a distant observer, and women find it hard to truly understand you. Second, although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect woman.
<<< Don't feel like I need to put on a mask, but then I'm married and she's stuck with me. Very interesting tho, because when I was dating women would tell me that they couldn't really figure me out. One even said point blank "You're wierd". Either she had low standards or she liked wierd, because she dated me. My wife's profile is like PinkOrchid's, says that she may appear to be too perfect. In point of fact, she has some very beautiful imperfections.

Quirks women notice
Like all men, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.
<<< Heh. "You can't live with an imperfect woman, but she'd better not care if you're imperfect." I'll go with that.

You won't be too bothered by the fact that your partner always has multiple projects and hobbies going on with few ever finished.
<<< True. I never finish them, why should she? Except laundry. Can't stand piles of clothes laying about. -- Before I get flamed, she's got a degree in math and chose to be a stay at home mom and housewife. Her choice.

At times you can become so focused on ideas, plans for the future, or a new project that you lose track of the day to day details of life (like doing laundry, balancing your checkbook, or even eating).
<<< Too true. I sometimes look up from programming and have to think back if I ate dinner tonight. Drives my wife right up the wall that I can be so focused. Good think she doesn't mind doing the laundry

You have such a positive attitude that at times your upbeat mood may irritate those who think you're "too happy" or aren't taking problems seriously.
<<< I'm a grouch. I'm not taking *your* problem seriously because it's not *my* problem.

Who you're looking for :
She'll be an enigma. You're looking for a very balanced woman. She'll have clear goals in life without being a dreamer. You'll both enjoy going out with friends but also love spending quiet times together. She'll manage to balance an objective and rational side with a very compassionate and caring side. On top of that, she'll be a fun and free spirit but still do what she promises and show up on time. Sound too good to be true? Women who are truly balanced like this are rare, but do exist and would be an excellent fit for you.
<<< As amazing as it sounds, this is my wife. Downside is that she'd rather I be the creative one Still, I consider myself lucky.

Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including: You can appreciate each other's "dark side" and don't have to pretend that you're happy all the time. <<< I don't like it much when my wife's moody, but I can usually ignore it.

Number of women your type
Women with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 women) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.
<<< Okay, beat the odds there. Included it for reference.

However, there's a larger group, 22% (or 1 in 5 women), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. But you'd have a negative reaction to 33% (or 1 in 3 women), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike. The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a woman who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" woman.
<<< What a lecture! I like most everybody, but when I meet someone (male or female) with traits that I don't like I usually go a little past just disliking them. In fact it sometimes gets in the way of working with them day to day.

Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the women you're looking for, but there are types of women you clearly do NOT like. Women's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include Women who lack an imaginative or creative side, Women who have a strong need to make their plans ahead of time and stick to them.
<<< Hrmm... My wife to a T. She can't stand that I change plans at the last moment, but she's always willing to go the extra mile and compromise. Very cool. The creative thing obviously wasn't a deal breaker, but a few surprises would be nice. Predictability ain't all that it's cracked up to be.

This is getting long, so I'll leave it at that! I already posted the sex part anyway.

Curiously yours,

 

[wicked woman]

Who You Are

You have a special zeal for life

You're a woman with a very balanced personality and lifestyle. You believe in making room in life to relax, think, and have fun. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You know what real love feels like and you'll accept no imitations! You pride yourself on not being the "typical woman." You're more honest and straightforward than most women. But just because you don't "wear your heart on your sleeve" doesn't mean you lack deep feelings. In fact, you're deeply committed to your loved ones and the causes you believe in. Women as truly balanced as you are very rare. <---Yup me to a T.


What's dating all about to you?
You believe dating and life in general is about learning and growing as a person. You have a great skill for connecting with people, so dating comes relatively easily to you. However, it's hard for you to have a real intellectual connection with an attractive man. Hopefully, you've found a way to "go with the flow" in dating as you already do in other parts of your life. <---No clear what they mean in the second sentence...the intellectual connection is key to me

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because your mind is so busy making sure you say and do the right things on dates, it's hard for your deeper and caring self to come through. It feels risky to share this part of yourself. Second, although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect man. <---True, I share my deeper self easily but selectively so not too much on a first date. Ditto to high standards don’t expect perfection though...just won’t settle for run-of-the-mill.

How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of women your age. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken the test, about 5% (or 1 in 20 women) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.

Quirks men notice
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person in your life who understands.

•You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit! <---Agreed even-tempered and not especially annoying...well maybe my ex-husband will disagree! Hehe Not really.

Do men like your type?
Notice that 41% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 3% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches. <---not bad odds...44%


Who You're Looking For

He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a man who can be your soul mate AND playmate in life! Unlike most men, he's not afraid of his emotions. In fact, the two of you will probably share an immediate, passionate connection. Romance will come easily to the two of you. The challenge may be fitting into his busy life. You'll have to share him with his adoring friends, job, and variety of social and community causes. But when you're alone with him, you'll always have his undivided attention and be the focus of his loving and supportive nature. <---True

Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:

• No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style. <---Agreed...I don’t want a carbon copy of myself....that would be boring....

Number of men your type
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 10% (or 1 in 10 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing. However, there's a larger group, 34% (or 1 in 3 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below. <---10% Damn guess I do have high standards hehe but 44% isn’t too bad.

Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

•Your responses suggest that you are pretty accepting and tolerant of shortcomings. No major personality "deal breakers" or reasons to rule out potential dates were identified. <---True although there are some deal breakers....guess I wasn’t fast enough to hit them.

Sex

Fulfilling your sexual fantasies
As you probably know, you have a higher sex drive than most! To you, creativity, exploration and surprise are what sex is all about. You need a partner who'll appreciate your gifts, especially your vivid imagination, as well as the variety of romantic and sexual fantasies the two of you can explore together. <--- Damn! Really? hehe

Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to more than half (60%). <---Actually this surprises me.

Is he sexually compatible?
You seem okay with, or even prefer, someone who's not quite as sexually charged as you. Often this type of pair can offer sexual balance to each other. <---Well I would if I had to but don’t know how they came up with the ‘fact’ that I wanted some one who wasn’t as highly sexed as I am....

What's ahead for you sexually?
You will probably experience some kind of sexual miscommunication or lack of interest with a partner. The good news? You're naturally suited to handle it. If your sex life needs a jump-start, you're creative and imaginative enough to heat things up in bed. If there's a more serious problem, your problem solving skills enable you to talk rationally about it. Since compromise is key to a long-term sex life, few are better suited than you to make things work. <--- Is this what you call 6 of one ½ dozen of the other? There will most likely be sexual miscommunication or lack of interest from my partner (Christ!) but I’m the best to be able to cope with it!!! No no no go back to the error in compatibility in sex drives!!!!

 

[chatbug]

This is a fairly accurate evaluation of who I am at this time in my life.

Who You Are

You're loved, and for good reasons
You're a man with a very balanced personality and lifestyle. You believe in making room in life to relax, think, and have fun. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You know what real love feels like and you'll accept no imitations! You're honest, straightforward, and have lots of common sense. Because you don't "wear your heart on your sleeve" doesn't mean you lack deep feelings. In fact, you're deeply committed to your loved ones and the causes you believe in. Men as truly balanced as you are very rare.


What's dating all about to you?

Falling in love is a spiritual experience for you. A truly loving relationship helps bring meaning to your life. You try hard to make your date feel comfortable and have a good time. You're good at anticipating what other people need and giving it to them. But inside, you're usually on an emotional roller coaster. You don't want to reject nice women, but also take it very personally if you're the one rejected. You're constantly trying to find the "rules" for successful dating but often find they don't work.

Although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect woman can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect woman. It won't come naturally to you, but you're more likely to find what you want if you can sit back, "go with the flow," and see where dating leads you.

How unique is your type?

Your personality profile is similar to a number of men your age. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken the test, about 5% (or 1 in 20 men) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.

Quirks women notice

Like all men, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person who understand.

You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!

Do women like your type?

Notice that 43% of women are generally attracted to your personality type. 7% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.

Who You're Looking For

She'll be a star
You're looking for a woman who's smart, insightful and a "star" in her career. She approaches everything in life, including relationships, with total dedication and commitment. You can always count on her to do what she says and say what she means. In many ways she's the classic strong, silent type. She's very independent and a little hard to get to know, especially emotionally. But she's worth the effort! In one-on-one time with her, you'll share exciting conversations about your careers, hobbies or anything that interests you.

Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:

No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.

Number of women your type

Women with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken this test, only 16% (or 1 in 6 women) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.

However, there's a larger group, 32% (or 1 in 3 women), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.

Approximately two-fifths of the women have at least some of the traits you find attractive.

But you'd have a negative reaction to 1% (or 1 in 10 women), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

Finding someone like you

You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in women suggest you would certainly be happier with a woman who's more like you.

No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to women who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.

Quirks you can tolerate

The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a woman who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" woman:

You described a pretty balanced person as most attractive to you, so no strong quirks were noted. Watch out for quirks during dating, since they may indicate a strong quality that is hidden at first.

Downside of your "ideal"

In addition to her quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, her quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

Because you're most attracted to women with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.

Deal breakers

You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the women you're looking for, but there are types of women you clearly do NOT like. Women's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

Women who wait until the last minute to make plans (for weekend fun, for example) and even seem to resist your attempts to plan activities ahead.

Sexual spice is nice

Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you like to connect with your partner. You give and receive pleasure easily, whether it's sexual or simply an affectionate touch. Plus, with your vivid imagination, you always bring new fantasies and methods of pleasing each other into your sex life.

Among men your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 10 men (9%).

Is she sexually compatible?

You're looking for someone who really enjoys sex. (Perhaps even more than you!) If you share this sexual energy, you don't mind being the one who's more sexually creative or adventuresome.

What's ahead for you sexually?

You will probably experience some kind of sexual miscommunication or lack of interest with a partner. The good news? You're naturally suited to handle it. If your sex life needs a jump-start, you're creative and imaginative enough to heat things up in bed. If the problem is more serious, you're naturally insightful and will probably have a clear picture of what's going on. Your future partner will be very lucky to be with someone like you who can bring enormous warmth and compassion to even the most frustrating relationships.

 

[tendril]

Hey this test is fun!

Who You Are

You're adored, and for good reasons
You bring real passion to life. You're a woman of great integrity who'll stand up and fight for causes she believes in. You have a vision for the future and always are searching to find love and a sense of "balance" in your life. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. You have lots of friends and really appreciate the people in your life. You put the ones you love ahead of everything else. In fact, sometimes you can put them ahead of your own needs. You're overdue to bring real romance into your life and are ready to experience a powerful "spark" with someone special.<<<<...now this is spooky.


What's dating all about to you?
Falling in love is a spiritual experience for you. A truly loving relationship helps bring meaning to your life. You try hard to make your date feel comfortable and have a good time. You're good at anticipating what other people need and giving it to them. But inside, you're usually on an emotional roller coaster. You don't want to reject nice men, but also take it very personally if you're the one rejected. You're constantly trying to find the "rules" for successful dating but often find they don't work.

Although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect man can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect man. It won't come naturally to you, but you're more likely to find what you want if you can sit back, "go with the flow," and see where dating leads you.



How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of women your age. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken the test, about 12% (or 1 in 8 women) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.


Quirks men notice
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person in your life who understands<<<<<<well doesn't everyone?

You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!
Do men like your type?
Notice that 40% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 9% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.<<<<hey, these are GOOD odds


Who You're Looking For

He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a man who really enjoys life and can bring fun and excitement to your relationship. He's easygoing and knows how to live in the moment. You'll be impressed by how he can see the "big picture" and have a vision of what he wants to accomplish in life, while still having a practical and down-to-earth style. Though he can be outgoing and charming at times, you also will find he has a shy and quiet side. In some ways, especially emotionally, he may be hard to get to know. But he's worth the effort! You'll certainly never be bored. He loves adventure and is always looking to shake things up.<<<<<pretty much right

Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you.

No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.

Number of men your type
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 3% (or 1 in 33 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.

However, there's a larger group, 12% (or 1 in 8 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.

Over half of the men have at least some of the traits you find attractive.

But you'd have a negative reaction to 6% (or 1 in 16 men), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

How many men are your "ideal" type?

Finding someone like you
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in men suggest you would certainly be happier with a man who's more like you.

No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to men who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.
Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:

You described a pretty balanced person as most attractive to you, so no strong quirks were noted. Watch out for quirks during dating, since they may indicate a strong quality that is hidden at first.
Downside of your "ideal"
In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

Because you're most attracted to men with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.
Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

Idealistic or artistic men who get lost in their own world as they pursue their dreams.
Trade-offs you'll face

Good Qualities Challenging Qualities
Cares deeply for a few very close friends. Has little desire to branch out and meet new people.
Tries to balance a creative and imaginative side, with "real world" pragmatics about what you can and cannot do. Promising ideas are often dropped if they don't succeed right away.
Tries to balance an objective view of problems with compassion for the people and feelings involved. Competing drives from your rational vs. compassionate points of view can stand in the way of making decisions.
Tries to be decisive, but still not rush into anything. How much attention is given to problems and how decisions get made seems unpredictable.



Sex

Sexual spice is nice
Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you like to connect with your partner. You give and receive pleasure easily, whether it's sexual or simply an affectionate touch. Plus, with your vivid imagination, you always bring new fantasies and methods of pleasing each other into your sex life.

Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 5 women (18%).

Is he sexually compatible?
You're looking for someone who enjoys the quality of sex over quantity. If you share this sexual energy, you don't mind being the one who's more sexually creative or adventuresome. <<<of course I don't mind!

What's ahead for you sexually?
If you end up with a man less sexually charged than you, you'll have two options: open up your partner's "wild," sexual side or settle into a relationship with less sex, but more affection. Improving the quality of sex, rather than simply the quantity, would be relatively easy for someone like you. If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring. You know what it's like to emotionally connect with someone and truly make love (vs. just having sex). If you've truly connected with a man this way, you'll be willing to work through any differences.



And my verdict is...hmmmm...pretty damn accurate.

 

[James G 5]

WHO YOU'RE LOOKING FOR
He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a man who can be your soul mate AND playmate in life! He's a man with great integrity and the strength to stand up for causes he believes in. You'll also find he has an insatiable curiosity about life, which leads him to have a wide variety of interests and hobbies. He's shy and a little hard to get to know. But he's worth the effort! One-on-one, you'll find a very warm, easygoing and understanding man. You may find it's like awakening a hidden prince! Though he may not always put it into words, he's in touch with his emotions and will do spontaneous and romantic things to express his feelings for you.
You don't expect your partner to be in a good mood all the time. You understand that sometimes your partner will be down, get pessimistic or worry too much. These days are balanced by the many good days the two of you will share. In fact, you share a number of positive qualities, including:

* No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.
---------> If you are a man who fits this description, PM me NOW.

Damn
too bad I'm not shy

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[sensual101]

.....

 

[MyEros333]

I'm not looking...but here's my results

Who You Are

You're loved, and for good reasons
You bring a certain passion to life that most men lack. You're a man of great integrity who'll stand up and fight for causes he believes in. You have a vision for how to live the "good life" so you refuse to settle for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Life should be "balanced" with plenty of time for fun, spontaneity, and romance! Because you're an independent man and a little shy, you only let a few people get especially close. Still, you have an emotional depth than most men lack. You're ready and able to have a powerful "spark" with someone, and have a romantic side dying to get out.


What's dating all about to you?
Falling in love is a spiritual experience for you. A truly loving relationship helps bring meaning to your life. You try hard to make your date feel comfortable and have a good time. You're good at anticipating what other people need and giving it to them. But inside, you're usually on an emotional roller coaster. You don't want to reject nice women, but also take it very personally if you're the one rejected.

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because you're shy, you feel like you have to be someone else or "wear a mask" to go out and meet new people. You're left feeling like a distant observer, and women find it hard to truly understand you. Second, although your compassion for women is a very attractive quality, your focus on her can get in the way of getting what you want and need. It's crucial to find a way to "go with the flow" in dating as you already do in other parts of your life.

How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of men your age. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken the test, about 5% (or 1 in 20 men) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.

Quirks women notice
Like all men, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.

* You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!

Do women like your type?
Notice that 47% of women are generally attracted to your personality type. 3% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.


Who You're Looking For

She'll be passionate
You're looking for a woman who can be your soul mate AND playmate in life! She's a woman with great integrity and the strength to stand up for causes she believes in. Like most women, she's not afraid of her emotions. In fact, the two of you will probably share an immediate, passionate connection. She's shy and a little hard to get to know. But she's worth the effort! One-on-one, you'll find a very warm, easygoing and understanding woman. You may find it's like awakening a hidden princess! Though she may not always put it into words, she's in touch with her emotions and will do spontaneous and romantic things to express her feelings for you.

You don't expect your partner to be in a good mood all the time. You understand that sometimes your partner will be down, get pessimistic or worry too much. These days are balanced by the many good days the two of you will share. In fact, you share a number of positive qualities, including:

* No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.


Number of women your type
Women with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken this test, only 5% (or 1 in 20 women) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.

However, there's a larger group, 20% (or 1 in 5 women), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.

Approximately two-fifths of the women have at least some of the traits you find attractive.

But you'd have a negative reaction to 2% (or 1 in 50 women), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

How many women are your "ideal" type?

Finding someone like you
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in women suggest you would certainly be happier with a woman who's more like you.

* No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to women who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.

Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a woman who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" woman:

* You described a pretty balanced person as most attractive to you, so no strong quirks were noted. Watch out for quirks during dating, since they may indicate a strong quality that is hidden at first.

Downside of your "ideal"
In addition to her quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, her quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

* Because you're most attracted to women with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.

Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the women you're looking for, but there are types of women you clearly do NOT like. Women's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

* Women who rarely open up completely and share their true feelings about the issues and events in your lives.
* Women who have a strong need to make their plans ahead of time and stick to them.


Sex

Sexual spice is nice
Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you like to connect with your partner. You give and receive pleasure easily, whether it's sexual or simply an affectionate touch. Plus, with your vivid imagination, you always bring new fantasies and methods of pleasing each other into your sex life.

Among men your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 10 men (9%).

Is she sexually compatible?
You're looking for someone who'll share your enthusiasm for keeping sex exciting and new. You want someone like you who values the quality and variety of sex over the quantity.

What's ahead for you sexually?
A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring. Unlike most men (and many women), you know what it's like to connect emotionally with someone and truly make love. This is a blessing and a curse. It sets a high standard for your sex life. If things are off in your relationship, you'll probably worry too much and read a lot into the situation. Your challenge is to keep your fears in check and share your feelings and insights with your partner. If she truly shares your hunger for passion and romance, amazing things are possible, even if he's not perfect.

 

[mck]

took the test, but...

It wasn't very accurate for me...maybe I should do it again and see if it works better the second time?
I think one reson it didn't come out accurate for me is that I have a very complexpersonality with lots of differnet side to me that I call apon and enjoy when the mood is right. The test is somewhat looking for a black and white picture and I think my personality is far to much like a kalidiscope for a black and white picture to ever fit neatly.

 

[mck]

took the test, but...

It wasn't very accurate for me...maybe I should do it again and see if it works better the second time?
I think one reson it didn't come out accurate for me is that I have a very complexpersonality with lots of differnet side to me that I call apon and enjoy when the mood is right. The test is somewhat looking for a black and white picture and I think my personality is far to much like a kalidiscope for a black and white picture to ever fit neatly.

 

[Henry]

Who you are

You have a dazzling personality

You're a man with a very balanced personality and lifestyle. You believe in making room in life to relax, think, and have fun. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You know what real love feels like and you'll accept no imitations! You're honest, straightforward, and have lots of common sense. Because you don't "wear your heart on your sleeve" doesn't mean you lack deep feelings. In fact, you're deeply committed to your loved ones and the causes you believe in. Men as truly balanced as you are very rare.


What's dating all about to you?
Finding a loving relationship is a mission for you. You have clear goals and even a timeline in mind. Falling in love is an especially magical experience. You're suddenly free from the rules and thinking that guide your life. You usually keep your feelings and life under control. But remember, the bigger the dam, the bigger the flood when it breaks!

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because your mind is so busy making sure you say and do the right things on dates, it's hard for your deeper and caring self to come through. It feels risky to share this part of yourself but most women need this emotional connection. Second, although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect woman can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect woman.



How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of men your age. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken the test, about 9% (or 1 in 11 men) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.



Quirks women notice
Like all men, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person who understands.

You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!


Do women like your type?
Notice that 40% of women are generally attracted to your personality type. 2% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.







Who You're Looking For

She'll be an enigma
You're looking for a woman with an artistic and sensual nature. She's typically easygoing and believes in living in the here and now. But she's also willing to take a stand for social or environmental causes she believes in. She's rather reserved and quiet, so she can be hard to get to know. She's more likely to express her feelings through actions and art, rather than through words. But as you spend more one-on-one time with her, you'll discover an exceptionally kind and compassionate woman. Like most women, she's not afraid of her emotions. In fact, the two of you will probably experience an immediate, passionate connection.

You don't expect your partner to be in a good mood all the time. You understand that sometimes your partner will be down, get pessimistic or worry too much. These days are balanced by the many good days the two of you will share. In fact, you share a number of positive qualities, including:


No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.






Number of women your type
Women with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken this test, only 5% (or 1 in 20 women) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.

However, there's a larger group, 19% (or 1 in 5 women), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.

Approximately One-third of the women have at least some of the traits you find attractive.

But you'd have a negative reaction to 9% (or 1 in 11 women), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

How many women are your "ideal" type?

Finding someone like you
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in women suggest you would certainly be happier with a woman who's more like you.

No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to women who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.

Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a woman who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" woman:

You described a pretty balanced person as most attractive to you, so no strong quirks were noted. Watch out for quirks during dating, since they may indicate a strong quality that is hidden at first.
Downside of your "ideal"
In addition to her quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, her quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

Because you're most attracted to women with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.
Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the women you're looking for, but there are types of women you clearly do NOT like. Women's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

Women who have a strong need to make their plans ahead of time and stick to them.
Trade-offs you'll face

Good Qualities Challenging Qualities
Cares deeply for a few very close friends. Has little desire to branch out and meet new people.
Tries to balance a creative and imaginative side, with "real world" pragmatics about what you can and cannot do. Promising ideas are often dropped if they don't succeed right away.
Sensitivity to emotions promotes greater insight and compassion for you and others. Emotions can cloud judgment and thinking.
Not afraid to make tough decisions and move ahead. Jumps too quickly to make decisions, because waiting is so hard to do.



Sex

Romantic sex
Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you connect with your partner. To you, life is about finding balance, and a romantic and satisfying sex life is a key part of your vision.

Among men your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 6 men (16%).

Is she sexually compatible?
You're looking for someone just like you, who values the quality of sex over the quantity. You want someone who would never pressure you about sex.

What's ahead for you sexually?
A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. Your only risk is to have sex get too comfortable; too predictable. Since you're naturally calm and rational during fights, you miss out on great "make-up" sex! If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring.

How you and your "ideal" partner compare





Attraction Science

What is personality?
Personality is the set of traits and characteristics that make each of us unique yet relatively stable and consistent over time.

- People see and interpret the world differently.
- They want different things.
- They make decisions differently.
- They get excited and energized by different situations.
- They structure their careers, social life, and private time in different ways.

What does personality have to do with attraction?
The way in which people are similar or different in personality strongly affects their attraction to one another. Two people with similar values are more likely to become (and stay) friends or a couple, indeed part of compatibility is having "common ground." However, for many people, compatibility may also involve a balance between each other's quirks and differences.

 

[Etoile]

I'm pretty predictable around here - ooh, fisting, here comes Etoile!

I didn't think the test was that great, though. I took the whole thing, but I wasn't very impressed. It doesn't delve very deeply at all.

 

[ReadyOne]

A month or two ago I found www.match.com's " provocative personality test". It has a section on sexual compatability, which is pretty cool for a free web site. Take it and post your results here. It's free and worth a try. Do you feel like it matches you?

This test is also available directly at http://attraction.match.com/ -- match.com just links to it.

 

[ReadyOne]

Who You Are


You're a "real" man

You're an honest and straightforward man. In a crisis, you're definitely a man who can "come to the rescue." In fact, you're known for your common sense advice and business savvy. You're somewhat reserved or even shy and a deep thinker. You can wrap your brain around almost any problem. You have a close network of friends and would rather spend time one-on-one or in a small group than hang out at a club or a party. You're not someone who "wears his heart on his sleeve" so those close to you don't always know how you feel. When you express your feelings, it's more likely through your actions and practical support than through words.

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because you thrive on new adventures and excitement, long-term relationships can be boring. And when you're bored, you typically try to shake things up. Deciding when and with whom you're ready to "settle down" is especially challenging for you.

You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!

Sex

Lots of sexual fun

As you probably know, you have a higher sex drive than most! To you, spontaneity, playfulness and fun is what sex is all about. You're skilled at exciting and surprising your partner with new techniques and fantasies.

Is she sexually compatible?

You're looking for someone who enjoys sex and wants it as often as you do. You want someone who shares your playful and adventurous approach to sex.

What's ahead for you sexually?

Once you've found a woman who matches you sexually, the stage will be set for a happy and stable relationship. Your only risk is to have sex get too comfortable; too predictable. Avoid boring sex by letting your spontaneous and sensual side shine. You and your partner could end up with an envious sex life.


Who You're Looking For

Deal breakers

You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the women you're looking for, but there are types of women you clearly do NOT like. Women's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

- Women who need frequent reminders that you care about them and would be upset if they thought you found another woman physically attractive.

- Women who lack an imaginative or creative side.

- Women who have little awareness of their feelings and base decisions, including relationships, on the "facts."


Do women like your type?

Notice that 55% of women are generally attracted to your personality type. 1% say they are VERY attracted.

Number of women your type

Women with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken this test, only 12% (or 1 in 8 women) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.


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Now take (1% women my type) X (12% Very attracted to me) X (1% women shorter than I) .... means 1 in 83,333 women will qualify for serious consideration.

On average, I'd need to check out 4.5 women a day starting when I reached 15 years old and keep checking for 25 years before I find a potential match. That would make 40 and just "over the hill".

Expand the pools to women attracted in some way and mostly my type, and it's up to 1 in every 6,500. Still, quite a search!

Aren't statistics fascinating?

 

[butterfly27]

Hm, very interesting.

I have to admit, doing the test was fun. I think they got pretty close to what I think of myself and how I see myself. I wouldn't agree with everything .... after all, I end up sounding pretty boring

Here are the results:

Who I am:
You're a very balanced person. You have clear goals in life and dreams you hope to pursue while still being practical about the realities of life. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. Despite your natural charm, you can't pretend to care for someone if you're missing a deep connection. You have lots of friends who really enjoy listening to your jokes and great stories. In fact, you put the ones you love ahead of everything else. You're ready and able to experience romance and a powerful "spark" with someone special. Your biggest challenge may be finding time to connect given your busy (and often frantic) life.

What's dating all about to you?
Finding a loving relationship is a mission for you. You have clear goals and even a timeline in mind. Falling in love is an especially magical experience. You're suddenly free from the rules and thinking that guide your life. You usually keep your feelings and life under control. But remember, the bigger the dam, the bigger the flood when it breaks!

Quirks men notice:
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person in your life who understands.
You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!

Who I am looking for:
He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a man who really enjoys life and can bring fun and excitement to your relationship. He'll have a down-to-earth and easygoing style. He'll love to work with his hands and will probably have an artistic side. He's more comfortable with his emotions than most men, but is still more likely to express his feelings for you through his actions and practical support than through words. He'll always be fun to be around, one-on-one or on adventures with his many friends. Life will never be boring, since he loves to "shake things up," and constantly try new things.
Your ideal:
You don't expect your partner to be in a good mood all the time. You understand that sometimes your partner will be down, get pessimistic or worry too much. These days are balanced by the many good days the two of you will share.

Sex
Sensual balance
Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways to bond with your partner. You like to plan ahead for special times when the two of you can get away. You like to make sex a relaxing part of your time together.

]What's ahaed for you sexually?
Once you've found your sexual match, the stage will be set for a happy and stable relationship. Your good and honest nature will make your partner feel at ease and unpressured sexually. The down side? Your "comfortable" sex can become "boring" over time. However, just because you're conservative on the outside doesn't mean you can't explore your inner "wild" side with your partner. Make plans for sensual nights together, when you can make love and explore your bodies. Show your partner that still waters really do run deep!

 

[Antinomy]

If you like these sorts of psychological tests this one will probably interest you. I found it to be more accurate than the one on match.com.

 

[wicked woman]

Enjoying reading everyone's responses but it would be even more fun if you commented if the results were accurate or not.