Are lesbians more sexually open and adventerous then straight women?

[Frimost]

I know asking this here might be a bit baised, and that it may not be able to make exact comparisons in some curcumstances. But still, am I wrong or are lesbians more adventerous and more willing to try knew things and apt to experiment more then str8 chicks?

 

[John Doe]

Not necessarily.

Simply from my own experience this is not borne out to be true. I know and know of lesbians, for example, who are totally intolerant of pornography, whereas I know straight women who are quite tolerant of it and some even enjoy it themselves. Vice versa is also true though.

Some might even make the argument that if sexual orientation is out of our control that it is merely another aspect of ourselves, then it's not a choice that stems from a particularly open, adventurous and/or experimental side.

 

[Frimost]

All of the bi women anyway, all seem more adventerous and very porn-freindly. I know bi women are not the same as full fledged, blue-blooded lesbians. However, it seems that they would be more tolerant of toys and other forms of penetration and stuff?

 

[John Doe]

All of the bi women anyway, all seem more adventerous and very porn-freindly. I know bi women are not the same as full fledged, blue-blooded lesbians. However, it seems that they would be more tolerant of toys and other forms of penetration and stuff?

I agree about bi women. I have noticed that.

But regarding lesbians and toys and whatnot, you'd think so but no.

 

[deezire1900]

lesbian here.

uummm...i will say the women I have dated, range from prude to porn star (figure of speech). I usually dont stick around for the prude ones to warm up...not my style. So, I think it more rests on how you were raised, introduced to sex, and confidence.

just my opinion...now find me a chick who just wants to get laid!

 

[OneColdMonkey]

lesbian here.

Heehee. I just pictured you crashing through a brick wall, brandishing a symbol on your chest. *claps*

 

[John Doe]

Filthy yellow mothergrabbiing sonuvabitch Lit screw-up double-post FUCK!

 

[John Doe]

Heehee. I just pictured you crashing through a brick wall, brandishing a symbol on your chest. *claps*

*swoosh, hover* "Have no fear, for Lesbo-Girl is present!" *land, pose arms akimbo*

 

[jacuzzigal]

I don't know that sexual orientation is an indicator of tolerance or openness... I'm straight and pretty open to a lot of things in the sexual arena. I think personality and even the way you're raised (often highly religious people tend to be fairly closed off to sexual exploration, etc.) may have more of an influence over your openness in general. I'm interested to read other responses to this.

 

[IrishEyez]

As a straight female, my feeling on it is that sexual orientation has very little, if anything, to do with being adventurous. Like someone else said, if sexual preference is something we're born with, then it wouldn't seem to have much bearing on being adventurous. Of course, this is mostly a guess and not an entirely educated one at that.

In fact, I'll take it even a step further than that. Sexual promiscuity (for lack of a better term off of the top of my head) has very little to do with being adventurous. My best friend has been with many, many more men than I have. However, I've learned from discussing what experiences we have had (in particular our current long term relationships), that I'm so much more adventurous than her. One would think because she was more free with her sexuality in numbers, that she would be more free in practice, also. But its just not true. You can never tell about a person. Aside from my fiance, most people that know me would be shocked that I was on literotica (let alone other aspects of my sex life), due to my very conservative (and religious) nature.

 

[Baskin Robbins]

I'm conservative and religious as well. I've been with very few people and in a comitted-monogamous relationship. My wife is MUCH more conservative than I sexually. She doesn't go on sites that I do, such as lit. I was engaged to a girl that was definitely open to ANYTHING and she was straight. Not real sure... I think the sex drive is a separate beast from sexual orientation.

 

[John Doe]

I'm conservative and religious as well. I've been with very few people and in a comitted-monogamous relationship. My wife is MUCH more conservative than I sexually. She doesn't go on sites that I do, such as lit. I was engaged to a girl that was definitely open to ANYTHING and she was straight. Not real sure... I think the sex drive is a separate beast from sexual orientation.

Yes, though as IrishEyez pointed out, sex drive and sexual adventurousness aren't the same either.

 

[Frimost]

now find me a chick who just wants to get laid!

Ok, I did, now check your PM.

 

[rakastuja]

All of the bi women anyway, all seem more adventerous and very porn-freindly. I know bi women are not the same as full fledged, blue-blooded lesbians. However, it seems that they would be more tolerant of toys and other forms of penetration and stuff?

I might say that almost all of those girls who are willing to try anything and are very adventurous are at least somewhat bisexual. Makes sense doesnt it? Girl-girl sexuality is very popular in media and films - if you're adventurous, you'll end up imagining and probably also trying sex with another girl.

I think those are usually (sometimes a bit sadly) the loudest bisexual girls.

 

[SweetErika]

I might say that almost all of those girls who are willing to try anything and are very adventurous are at least somewhat bisexual. Makes sense doesnt it? Girl-girl sexuality is very popular in media and films - if you're adventurous, you'll end up imagining and probably also trying sex with another girl.

I think those are usually (sometimes a bit sadly) the loudest bisexual girls.

Are you saying bisexuality is a choice? Or are you confusing bisexuality with curiosity or being willing to try for whatever reason? I have known many women who were curious or have tried ff sex, but they weren't bi. Trying something doesn't define your sexual orientation.

I do agree that adventurous women are more likely to recognize and act on their bisexuality though. It's a lot harder to try to ignore it when you don't see anything fundamentally wrong with it.

 

[rakastuja]

Are you saying bisexuality is a choice? Or are you confusing bisexuality with curiosity or being willing to try for whatever reason? I have known many women who were curious or have tried ff sex, but they weren't bi. Trying something doesn't define your sexual orientation.

I do agree that adventurous women are more likely to recognize and act on their bisexuality though. It's a lot harder to try to ignore it when you don't see anything fundamentally wrong with it.

I think how you express yourself is partly your choise... Bisexuality is huge category containing bicurious, adventurous, people with strong gender preferences, people without any gender preferences and so on... also you can be very bisexual and still say you're homosexual or straight. Its all about terms and freedom to put whatever labels we like... (which clearly doesnt make communicating easy)

However I was meaning to say originally that I see it more like "all adventurous ones are bisexual" than "all bisexuals are adventurous" - if its put that caricatyrically

 

[Frimost]

Sanity is like virginity - you lose it with guys.

Oh come on, are we really that bad?

 

[rakastuja]

Oh come on, are we really that bad?

Not really - that quote just sounds cool

 

[Frimost]

Well here's an interesting question for you bisexual women out there (or for bisexual men for that matter or gay women and men that at one time dated the opposite sex).

In your experience, who is more trouble (on average) to be in a relationship with, Men or Women?

 

[Angel]

Well here's an interesting question for you bisexual women out there (or for bisexual men for that matter or gay women and men that at one time dated the opposite sex).

In your experience, who is more trouble (on average) to be in a relationship with, Men or Women?

Women.

 

[John Doe]

Women.

Why, sepcifically? and generally, do you think it's because there were two women in the relationship or just because women in general seem harder to get along with?

 

[SweetErika]

Why, sepcifically? and generally, do you think it's because there were two women in the relationship or just because women in general seem harder to get along with?

I'd have a hard time being in a serious/marriage-type relationship with a woman. One of the reasons is that women are really calculating and manipulative. That's not necessarily bad, but I do better with men in general because I understand them and know how to interact with them more effectively. I'm sure I'd learn the skills needed to live with a woman harmoniously in time, but I'm happy to be married to a man and have deep friendships with women for now.

 

[Angel]

Why, sepcifically? and generally, do you think it's because there were two women in the relationship or just because women in general seem harder to get along with?

It's because I personally find women more difficult to get along with in general.

But also, in my relationships, I, and only I am the Head Bitch. However, I am not attracted to timid, whiny females either, so I would forever clash in that situation.

 

[Never]

Angel
"It's because I personally find women more difficult to get along with in general.

But also, in my relationships, I, and only I am the Head Bitch. However, I am not attracted to timid, whiny females either, so I would forever clash in that situation."

Damn, couldn't make things easy for me, could you?

 

[rakastuja]

In your experience, who is more trouble (on average) to be in a relationship with, Men or Women?

Im not sure if it can be generalized that way.

Thinking about people I have been close enough to even think about relationship - I think the easiest and hardest ones would be both girls. Guys would all go somewhere between them.

I think this is pretty purely personality issue than gender issue. I mean of course your personality can be such that you cant live with men or women but I dont think its any property of a gender in general...