Appropriate gift?

[serijules]

Ok guys, help me out here...I'm pondering something.

I am going to visit my Domme in a few months. We've known each other for years and have been very close friends for that time, played together many times...but we have only "officially" been together for a few months now, and this visit will be our first together as Domme/sub. I want to get her a gift to symbolize our relationship and my committment to her. I know she has gotten me something along those same lines.

Garnets are our "thing"...she calls me her garnet or her jewel, and most gifts she gives me have a garnet theme to it. I happen to love anniversary or eternity rings (bands with stones layed in a row around the whole band) and I think a silver and garnet eternity ring would be very special and meaningful, and intended to get one for each of us.

My question is...is a ring an inappropriate gift? Which finger should I try to find out the size for it? I was thinking middle finger...I'm quite sure her ring fingers are already occupied by rings from her girlfriend, so I was thinking that middle finger would be best, not to mention that eternity rings look best on middle fingers and are most comfortable there.

I had thought about asking her girlfriend not only what her middle finger ring size is, but if she would be upset by my giving her a ring....but then I thought perhaps I'm worrying too much over nothing.

Any thoughts?

 

[bustyblondebombshell]

I think that sounds like a wonderful gesture.

I am taking it that your Domme's girlfriend is aware of your existence and has had no particular problems with your D/s relationship? If this is the case, I am sure that asking said girlfriend wouldn't present too many problems, and in any case would be a good idea.

I think an eternity ring is a very pretty way of showing your commitment to your Domme, go for it, besides, seeing as you have known Her for so long, I think you would have a fair idea as to whether she would think it inapproriate or not.

Just my thoughts.....

BBB x.

 

[Quint]

I personally think that a ring is a beautiful gift choice. Regardless of what a precious gem you are to her , garnets are only a semiprecious stone and so I don't consider them over-the-top even for such an early meeting. Plus it's a verrrry D/s sort of stone--resonates with images of blood, power, and a kind of dark, sultry sexuality. Mebbe that's just me. To continue on topic, I also support your idea to try for a finger of lesser importance than the ring finger directly. I personally would find a pinkie ring quite charming and befitting a dominant from her submissive, but if that's not her style, ask for her middle finger ring size and buy for that one.

Yes, of course you are worrying too much over it, but that's the nature of new relationships! Sounds like your fears and desires to please her are just manifesting here.

 

[serijules]

Thank you for your thoughts

Busty, yes, her girlfriend is aware of me, we are good friends as well so there are no hidden feelings there or any such thing. I was just thinking about it today and realized I've never given much thought to if there is any unspoken set of "rules" about giving someone a ring...seems a bit silly now, but I'm glad I asked for opinions regardless.

I am sure she will love the significance of the garnets and what the eternity ring would symbolize in our relationship so I really think it will be the perfect gift...we waited a long time to be together. I just hope she didn't think of it first *grin*

 

[Scarlett_t2]

Any gift from the heart is the most beautiful. You seem to know your Domme very well and I am sure she would be most pleased that you have thought of her this way. Good luck to you and let us know it turns out.
Scarlett

 

[bustyblondebombshell]

Well, Serijules,

I wish you all the best, I hope that the day you present the ring is one for you to remember for a very long time. I am looking forward till I am at the point where I can offer such a gift to my Master. But I believe I will know that time will make itself known to me, and shall be right for the both of us!

So, good luck (not that you need it), and have a wonderful day when that time arrives for you!

BBB x.