Anything but...

[lark sparrow]

Which BDSM instrument or activity do you fear? Is it a hard limit or an exciting caution? Would or do you indulge in it?

 

[zanna]

the answer that comes to mind is a hand spanking. There is a sting with that action that i find really hard to cope with. i am okay with the first 5 or so but after that, i have a difficult time.

i would like to be pushed once beyond that particular tolerance and find out what exists beyond it for me.

i fear it, yes, but He does indulge in it...frequently...

There are others but i think i will stay with that one.

zanna

 

[lesserMan]

limits

my hard limits are
1) No othermen involved (females with "men" attachments are ok)
2) No permanent damage

-lesserMan

 

[bunny bondage]

well, hard limits aside, the one thing i simply hate is when He tickles me. i've even gone as far as to grab His finger and playfully threaten to break it if He didn't stop tickling me. He says that He likes to watch me squirm and has no intention of stopping. you see, i'm VERY ticklish and tend to wriggle and squeal at the slightest touch. i guess it's quite a show.

 

[ownedsubgal]

the thing that seems to mess me up the most mentally/emotionally/psychologically, is being bound and then left alone somewhere. whether i'm simply alone in the room or in the entire building...i just can't stand it. it brings back all sorts of stuffed down and repressed memories from my childhood and puts me in an extremely vulnerable/shaky emotional state.

of course this is not a limit, as slave to my Master i have no limits, but it is definitely top on my list of unbearables.

 

[RisiaSkye]

I hate hate hate full hoods. I can handle sensory dep and I can handle gags, bug I just cannot stand having my whole face covered like that. I feel like I'm going to die--total panic.

I'm sure there are other things, but that's all that leaps to mind.
Needless to say, I have other hard limits, but most of them are based on things other than fear.

 

[zipman]

As a Dom, breath play scares the shit out of me. I just don't have any desire to do it.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Canes.

 

[zipman]

Canes.

Really?

http://www.edwards-enterprises.com/images/XMasCandy1.jpg

 

[A Desert Rose]

Really?

http://www.edwards-enterprises.com/images/XMasCandy1.jpg

Now I wish those had been the kind of canes I had been threatened with.... ;-)

 

[zipman]

Now I wish those had been the kind of canes I had been threatened with.... ;-)

Sorry Rose, I just couldn't resist!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Sorry Rose, I just couldn't resist!

And you are just irresistable.... period. ;-)

 

[zipman]

And you are just irresistable.... period. ;-)

Is it any wonder I adore you?


Sorry lark! [/hijack]

 

[A Desert Rose]

Is it any wonder I adore you?


Sorry lark! [/hijack]

You are the kindest gentleman I know.



Back on topic... BRANDING really scares the bejesus out of me!

 

[lilminx]

Fisting both scares and excites me (yes, I know it's not strictly a BDSM activity).

It's been tried on me by one person several times, and every single time I freeze up and have to tell him to stop before it's completed. It also hurts when he gets to a certain point. I even e-mailed him the link to the thread about fisting, but so far it hadn't worked.

 

[RisiaSkye]

Canes.

I used to feel that way about canes, too.
But now I've been corrupted.

 

[Netzach]

What scares me to use:

catheters. For some reason sounds are benign by comparison, actual catheterization still gives me the willies.

Knives. I know lots of people have no qualms about playing with really big sharp things, having cut my *own* fingertip nearly off with a boxcutter, I'm not so certain of my own infallability.

Electrostim is not high on my list, even though I'll use a TENS in certain ways for certain effects (a great additive to needles or sounds) it doesn't really do much for me and I usually feel a beat off. Probably because I detest it as a bottom.

 

[sasha_fem22]

Nipple clamps..........nooooooooo way, nope, uh UH!

 

[Sunnflower]

Nipple clamps..........nooooooooo way, nope, uh UH!

I second that one. Nibbling, even hard is preferable to inanimate objects with either teeth or just pressure. Got to be human fingers or teeth.....

 

[RonnyJane]

His belt

He knows I fear his black leather belt and he uses that in our play. He tells me he's getting it, sometimes taking off the blindfold so that I can see him getting it. Then he walks slowly over to me slapping it against his hand. Even the noise of it drives me insane. He makes me smell the leather (I love the smell of leather). By this time I'm in full panic mode with all senses in overdrive. When he strikes the first time and that belt wraps around to my side (on purpose) I lose it and almost always start crying. I really have to go deep within myself to take his belt. It's a love/hate relationship with the belt. I enjoy the sensations it brings but it's very intense and the build up and anticipation of it is always the worst.

 

[D's mariposa]

locked rooms, small rooms and hoods. Do NOT ever leave me in a room by myself for a long time. This is a hard a limit. A very hard limit. Especially do not leave me in a dark locked room by myself for any length of time. And by extension hoods. If it's dark and I cant see and I think I'm alone and the world crumbles and I dont know where I am and I fall apart and I hate hate HATE the Sperm Donor for this thing that rides me and gives me nightmares...


Um. Er. SAFEWORD!!!!

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Nipple clamps. Since the piercings were done my nipples are so extremely sensitive that clamps just send me screaming for a safeword. I can tolerate clothespins on the aureolae, almost to the nipple itself, but on the actual nipple and i can't take it.

~anelize

 

[Desdemona]

I don't think of it as a strictly BDSM activity, but body modification and the idea of it, freaks me out.

The other thing is public play. I have done a few things out in public and its not a hard limit, but if i know about it in advance, it pushes too many buttons. However, if we are out, and the opportunity arises and He wants it, I enjoy it. Its weird how that works for me.

 

[Etoile]

I'm too intrigued by everybody else's comments to come up with an answer myself!

• I actually like being spanked with an open hand. I think it's something about knowing it's hurting the spanker too. It also feels more intimate than being beaten with something else - and that itself is reason to be spanked with a hand, and reason not to be!
• Tickling is an absolute no-no with me, and my partners know this. If somebody makes jokes about tickling me, all I have to do is remind them that when I was in college I split a girl's lip because I thought she was going to tickle me!
• It interests me to see what other people steer clear of. zipman7 isn't into breath control, I like it. lilminx is interested in but has never been completely fisted (notice I didn't say successfully), where I will take a fist any chance I get! (I assume Deborah Addington's wonderful Hand in the Bush has been mentioned many times before.)
• Is it weird that I don't have a safeword? I find a lot of the online BDSM communities in which I participate are safeword-happy, and I fully endorse the idea where necessary, but I've never used a safeword with my Daddy...I guess the level of trust is sufficient that I don't feel I need to. We don't even have one, though I suppose if it were an emergency I could blurt out safeword! and that would work.
• ownedsubgal said "as slave to my Master i have no limits" - is there a thread somewhere to discuss something like this, or shall I start one? I don't want to hijack this one!

Also, I suspect many of you will not recognize my name. I haven't been around here in many months. I hope to be back now.

 

[lilminx]

Also, I suspect many of you will not recognize my name. I haven't been around here in many months. I hope to be back now.

I remember you! You have that cool tattoo on your back.