Anyone switch after his orgasm?

[DrHappy]

Does anyone here let the man play the dom during the beginning of a sexual encounter, but you switch as soon as he cums? I had so much fun writing "Playful Power Play," which is about a couple that does this. The story starts with him in charge, and he has a good time using her to fulfill his sexual whims. As soon as he cums, however, it's payback time, and she has her way with him. They are a very playful couple, and it's obvious from the story line that they are both having a good time.

I've done some bits and pieces of this story in my life, but not quite the fantasy encounter in the story. I can be pretty aggressive before my orgasm, but I tend to turn zombie-like as soon as I cum. That seemed like it would be a good time to make the D/S switch. It would seem harder for the woman to start as the dom and to switch after his orgasm. Maybe that could be a challenge for a sequel.

I thought that I'd ask around to see if anyone else has done anything like this. It could be something you've done or would like to do. What new ideas do you have to share?

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I have always wanted my wife to be more engaged/initiating in our sexual lives. I'd be fine with her being FemDom - after or even before.

In my life, that only happened when I was eating my older brother's girlfriend's pussy when he was away in the US Armed Forces during Vietnam. Obviously, she was older, and if I might say, she had me wrapped around her little finger, or should I say she had my lips wrapped around her clit. I've been the "Sub" in almost all of my male/female relationships - except with my wife, where I consider us to be equally D/S.

 

[Lucien_Al]

When we got into some mild bondage and spanking / whipping, I was envisaging that she would be the one restrained with me being the dom. After a few sessions with both of us being sub we quickly found that she loved being the dom and I loved being the sub. Since then she controls the entire session and gets sopping wet and very horny. By the time she finishes me (normally restrained and her using her glass dildo on my ass) she then releases me and I take charge of bringing her off with her silicon cock and a vibe.

 

[Noor]

Nope, women come first
May switch long before orgasm, and to be frank many men are kind of done after orgasms

 

[Lucien_Al]

Nope, women come first
May switch long before orgasm, and to be frank many men are kind of done after orgasms

Many are, unless the like the idea of cleaning up the creampie.

 

[Noor]

Many are, unless the like the idea of cleaning up the creampie.

I guess I didn’t consider that as switching.

 

[DrHappy]

Nope, women come first
May switch long before orgasm, and to be frank many men are kind of done after orgasms

Switching when he comes doesn't require him coming first. My story (see link above) has many examples:

- He makes her get naked and masturbate to orgasm while he watches.
- She has multiple orgasms while they have sex (before he cums).

If she's in charge, he won't have a choice, even if he's had his orgasm. If he ruthlessly dominated her before his orgasm, he'll know that he's earned his punishment, and should put in the extra effort to do what she tells him to do.

I'm ready to conquer the universe before my orgasm. As soon as my orgasm hits, I'll do anything she tells me to do without a fight.

 

[DrHappy]

Many are, unless the like the idea of cleaning up the creampie.

That's an element of my story that I linked above. Someone will have to clean up that mess! Actually, her punishment for him is a bit worse (or better ) than that! He totally deserved it.

I realized that maybe I should have posted this in the BDSM Talk section.

 

[Noor]

That's an element of my story that I linked above. Someone will have to clean up that mess! Actually, her punishment for him is a bit worse (or better ) than that! He totally deserved it.

Yes,?I repost it there, it feels off to me, buy they’d have better suggestions
I realized that maybe I should have posted this in the BDSM Talk section.

 

[DemimondeDenizen]

Or the opposite; man gets tied teased and edged first. Maybe she gives him some slapping to build up a little rage. Then he gets sprung and turns the tables. He teases her, forces her to come before he takes her to pound town.

Just did a lite version of this irl. After teasing me while I was tied down, she gave me a choice of cumming for her or fucking her. I choose fucking. We went straight to fucking, but after all the teasing, I had to take it slow while rubbing her clit. Once she came, she begged for a pounding, I obliged and it was a short run before we both came together.

Definitely worked for us and would work for a story about a couple of switches.

We’re not far into any heavy dom/sissy roles or real pain scenario, more restraint and teasing torture with a little slapping and spanking as a spice.