Any tips for a new bottom?

[jimmy_woods]

After contemplating it for a long time, I finally decided to try bottoming. I had played with various toys in the past (vibrators and butt plugs), but hadn't even done that for a while. I thought I could go in "cold" and be fine. Unfortunately the top was 7" and fairly thick. After using his fingers to get me ready he inserted his cock and it started to hurt. I thought the pain would go away, but it never quite did. I tried to keep going, but I finally had to call it quits.

I want to try again, but I know that I need to practice loosening up on my own first. Any suggestions on how I could do this?

 

[Riley69]

Tight every time

I'm tight every time I get fucked. No two ways about it. Of course, the guy who is fucking me loves the tightness! I, on the other hand, can be pretty uncomfortable sometimes.

I've found that position can be a big help in loosening up a bit. Plus, communication with your lover is a BIG PLUS in the process. If I happen to be with a new lover, I take the time to explain my curse of being tight every time and what I need to do about it. If someone isn't willing to take a few minutes to make sex more enjoyable for you, then you don't need to be having sex with them. (In my opinion!)

Having my lover lube my ass generously is a great start, especially if he is using his strong fingers to do it. I can be pleasing him in different ways while he does it! Once I feel I'm ready enough, I will have him lie on his back while I straddle him, and I let him know he needs to stay still just for a minute. I position his cock head at my waiting hole and apply some pressure with my ass a little at a time, which serves to tease his swollen cock head while my ass hole becomes accustomed to his cock head. Slowly but steadily, I apply downward pressure until I feel his cock head "pop" inside me and I feel my tender ring settle around his shaft. The whole time, I am in control and can lift-up with my legs if things start to hurt. I can then slide my ass hole up and down his shaft a little at a time until everything starts to feel better and better.

Usually, it just takes a minute or so to get me ready for him to take over and move to another position if he wants to. Missionary style is my favorite with my lover on top. Starting out that way has never been good for me! It usually hurts way too bad at the very beginning. So, I've learned to take my time and get things lubed and broken-in a bit before moving on to other positions.

If you trust your lover, doggy style can be a very comfortable way to start. BUT, men are impatient creatures and once they are inside your ass just a bit and they grab your hips, their animal instincts take over and they MIGHT start wildly humping without warning. PAINFUL if you aren't ready!

On a really positive note: I experience anal orgasms all the time. Having a swollen cock head rubbing against my prostate over and over never fails to have me "cumming like a woman" in no time flat. Being a bottom is fun for me and very sexy and fulfilling when done right.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

After contemplating it for a long time, I finally decided to try bottoming. I had played with various toys in the past (vibrators and butt plugs), but hadn't even done that for a while. I thought I could go in "cold" and be fine. Unfortunately the top was 7" and fairly thick. After using his fingers to get me ready he inserted his cock and it started to hurt. I thought the pain would go away, but it never quite did. I tried to keep going, but I finally had to call it quits.

I want to try again, but I know that I need to practice loosening up on my own first. Any suggestions on how I could do this?

You didn't use any lube? Well congrats on your first time!

 

[robertreams]

Try pushing slightly outward as if passing gas, this will open you a bit. Probably it is gona hurt fora while unti you get stretched enough, but maybe not. I never can be never will be, just too damn small. A one half inchthick four inch dildo makes me bleed. So my only bottoming is in my fancy. I have topped quite a few who hurt but don't mind because they receive theri pleasure from the total surrender. Perhaps that letting go, that surrenderis what you are lacking

 

[bluesky496]

After contemplating it for a long time, I finally decided to try bottoming. I had played with various toys in the past (vibrators and butt plugs), but hadn't even done that for a while. I thought I could go in "cold" and be fine. Unfortunately the top was 7" and fairly thick. After using his fingers to get me ready he inserted his cock and it started to hurt. I thought the pain would go away, but it never quite did. I tried to keep going, but I finally had to call it quits.

I want to try again, but I know that I need to practice loosening up on my own first. Any suggestions on how I could do this?

buy a set of butt plugs honey , the ones that get bigger by stages and use them for a day or two before you try again , i use mine all day before i have sex with a larger gentleman and i find it doesnt hurt then ,x

 

[planoman]

I found this to be helpful information

http://dailyxtra.com/world/life/sex/getting-the-bottom-anal-sex

 

[t1m1d1]

I'm no expert , but I'm def a bottom. You need plenty of lube , patience , and to really really relax.

I've accommodated a massive 9-10 incher . I couldn't suck it well as I have quite a small mouth. But my lover was v patient and skilful , and took me to a level of pleasure I didn't imagine was possible.

Be relaxed and patient, you will enjoy!