any thoughts

[blue112]

Ok so heres the thing, my girl and I have been together for awhile now and our drives are a little outta sync as we now live in different cities (students). I was thinking of surprising her by blindfolding and tying her arms to the head board (which I should add shes cool with) and a long session of various activities with her being the centre of attention, my thought is whether I should tell her what i basically have in mind before hand or totally surprise her the next time she comes to town.
anyway, just wonderin what the board says...

 

[curiouswtchr]

imho...just ask her to trust you an tell her that is is only allowed to enjoy! and go from there...have done this with my husband and it is so erotic especially when you don't just focus on the obvious parts.....touch and tease thoes too but look for the other areas that will drive her insane....let me know if ya need some ideas for the sensory deprivation,,one of my fortes'
enjoy!

 

[Weird Harold]

I was thinking of surprising her by blindfolding and tying her arms to the head board (which I should add shes cool with) ... my thought is whether I should tell her what i basically have in mind before hand or totally surprise her the next time she comes to town.

I don't know that I'd warn her exactly, but I would be concerned about establishing what her mood is before you go ahead with surprising her. Perhaps you need to agree on a "safe-word" she can use when she's not in the mood to play -- not just for this specific case, but for the duration of your relationship.

I know that several women in my past have occasionally reacted with anger or frustration to things that they normally found arousing. In the scenario you have planned, there is a lot of room for mis-understandings -- i.e. if she's not really in the mood for that kind of play and you are expecting some feigned resistance.

 

[blue112]

Ya I was plannin on establishing the safe word and I guess thats what was at the heart of thought, what to do if shes not in the mood to play, hate to plan a big night and then find out shes simply not up for it which will undoubtedly happen at some point though so I guess theres nothing really to wonder about.

 

[intrigued]

Ya I was plannin on establishing the safe word and I guess thats what was at the heart of thought, what to do if shes not in the mood to play, hate to plan a big night and then find out shes simply not up for it which will undoubtedly happen at some point though so I guess theres nothing really to wonder about.

You can say to her things like "this night is all about you, showing you how I feel about you, you are safe, I will stop anytime you want me to". I don't think i'd start immediately with the blindfolding, tying up stuff, though. A littl foreplay, then go into that. It wouldn't hurt to have some flowers for her, and a candlelit room, maybe some soft, romantic jazz playing.

 

[intrigued]

Oooh! Feathers and massage oil (not used together, ofcourse) work wonders too.

 

[blue112]

hmm good point, little dinner, some candles and maybe some charlie parker

 

[Felt Tip]

You could give her a little forewarning, and establish a safeword. Say, earlier on the day you'd be doing this.

By giving her a vague suggestion of what was to come, she should be thinking about what's in store for her until she gets to you.
She'll enjoy the anticipation, and will be in the mood and ready for a surprise when she arrives.

But just don't tell her too much, part of the excitement is in not knowing