Any suggestions?

[redneckgirl]

I have a problem, well not really a problem, but still. Lately I have been thinking about women more than men, namely, my husband. He says it doesn't bother him, but I think it does. Should I stop telling him or is it better to be open with him? There are times we will be having sex and in the middle of it, I will blurt out that I need a woman, he says it turns him on, but I don't know...................how would it make you feel?

 

[Filly Gal]

I have a problem, well not really a problem, but still. Lately I have been thinking about women more than men, namely, my husband. He says it doesn't bother him, but I think it does. Should I stop telling him or is it better to be open with him? There are times we will be having sex and in the middle of it, I will blurt out that I need a woman, he says it turns him on, but I don't know...................how would it make you feel?

I feel the same way at times as my HOTTEST fantasy sometimes when we are having sex is to have a hot gf join us!! I just make sure he knows he is my boy toy big cock stud of a husband and that no piece of pussy coul ever replace that slab of delicious man meat. He knows I love having and playing with women but in the end I crave his cock and make sure it knows it!!
Just a little ego support can go along way and you can have your fun too!!

 

[redneckgirl]

Thanks, I'll have to do that. I will let him know how I feel about him so he doesn't think I don't want him anymore.

 

[Etoile]

You must talk to him about this when you're not having sex. Right now all you know is that he said he doesn't mind...you suspect that he does. Talk to him and find out how he really feels before worrying about what to do.

 

[redneckgirl]

You must talk to him about this when you're not having sex. Right now all you know is that he said he doesn't mind...you suspect that he does. Talk to him and find out how he really feels before worrying about what to do.

We've had threesomes before. And he seemed to enjoy it. I think it bothers him that I want to have sex with a g/f when he's not there. He's not comfortable with that. But he needs to realize that I don't always want him there and I've been talking to him about this, but he just doesn't understand the importance of it to me.

 

[Etoile]

We've had threesomes before. And he seemed to enjoy it. I think it bothers him that I want to have sex with a g/f when he's not there. He's not comfortable with that. But he needs to realize that I don't always want him there and I've been talking to him about this, but he just doesn't understand the importance of it to me.

Perhaps it's something you need to discuss again? Let's assume he's worried about losing you to a woman. You can reassure him that a woman gives you something completely different - that she could not replace him. And likewise, he cannot replace the touch of a woman...that is also something that you need. If that's not what he's worried about, you need to figure out what he is worried about, and work it out with him. Remember that you will both have to compromise here - you are asking him to accept something you want to do, so you need to consider his conditions or alternatives. Maybe if he lets you have a relationship with another woman, you can occasionally bring her home for the three of you to have fun. Or maybe he can have a relationship outside too, provided it doesn't include x, y, or z. It's all about communication and compromise...what will make you both happy? What can you both live with?

 

[redneckgirl]

Perhaps it's something you need to discuss again? Let's assume he's worried about losing you to a woman. You can reassure him that a woman gives you something completely different - that she could not replace him. And likewise, he cannot replace the touch of a woman...that is also something that you need. If that's not what he's worried about, you need to figure out what he is worried about, and work it out with him. Remember that you will both have to compromise here - you are asking him to accept something you want to do, so you need to consider his conditions or alternatives. Maybe if he lets you have a relationship with another woman, you can occasionally bring her home for the three of you to have fun. Or maybe he can have a relationship outside too, provided it doesn't include x, y, or z. It's all about communication and compromise...what will make you both happy? What can you both live with?

Thanks, I talked to him today and he said that he's worried about losing me to someone else. So I assured him that I would never leave him for anyone. He told me he would think about it and I can understand his worries and compromise. We just have to figure out HOW to compramise.

 

[Etoile]

Thanks, I talked to him today and he said that he's worried about losing me to someone else. So I assured him that I would never leave him for anyone. He told me he would think about it and I can understand his worries and compromise. We just have to figure out HOW to compramise.

You might want to have him look at some information on polyamory, particularly this link:
http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html