Any opinions on this one?

[YoungStud]

Well, I just wanted to hear some of your opinions on this matter............... thanks for any help, here goes the story I'm 18, my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me because she "never really loved me", because I "bored her but not wanting to go out with other friends all the time", and according to her, our relationship was "purely based on sex". I was told all of this flat out, bluntly to my face. I always treated her right, never hurt her (intentionally), we both cheated on each other (long time ago), but I never expected to be told all of this to my face. It's pretty much been hell the last month around me, and I have no ideas. I've talked to my friends about this, and were all in aggreance that it's a pretty fuc*ed up situation. Any opinions out there? Anyone think the way she did it might have been wrong? I'd love to hear them! Thanks.

YoungStud

 

[skitch]

ironically..

the same thing happened to me back in December...well not with the cheating and all that. My advice..move on. IF you were together that long and she didnt love you, then she probably never will. In my situation, there were extenuating circumstances that led me to believe she might have someone else that she wanted to date, but that wasn't the case. It took me about 4 months now, just to start dating new people. If your ex hooks up with another guy immediately..chances are that she DID find someone else. If not...then just remember that sometimes shit happens. No matter how sweet you are...or what you do...you can't ever MAKE someone love you.

that is all.

skitch

 

[cymbidia]

You're 18, she's probably near the same age, and it's over, after 2 years.

I know that hurts, particularly if you didn't see it coming. I know the pain of this breakup walks around with you everyday, feeding off heart, and making you wonder if you'll ever feel whole again.

However, (big truth coming here) you can't make someone love you or want to be with you or want to try again. You cannot force anyone to share affections that you thought were mutual but, in reality, were not.

Your friends are right, it's time to move on. Far more difficult to do than to say, i know. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Take some kinda fun class at your local college, just something to get you out of your normal routine.
2. Avoid driving past her house. "Driving past her house" includes things like being where you know she will be and going to where she works.
3. Write out your hurt. Write it all down. Even if no one sees it but you, it'll be a way for you to deal with the hurt in a concrete fashion.
4. Try to do something that will allow you some way to close this part of your life. Write her a letter telling her what she's meant to you, maybe, and wishing her a good life. When you mail it, tell yourself it's the last time you'll feel that bad, from now on, you'll be feeling a little better every day.

DO NOT try to see her again. In that direction lies madness and stalking. Let it go.

Good luck. This is painful stuff. I know.

 

[YoungStud]

Thanks everyone for replying so soon (all two of you ) It's hard moving on, as ya'll said it would be, I also knew it would. This wasn't the first time we broke up, but this one was a little more out of the "blue". I guess it's over, and I don't know how to feel about that. I am currently pursuing other "possibilities". As far as I know, she isn't dating anyone else, and I don't know if that's good or not? She was my second love, someone I could see myself with. Oh well, shit happens I guess. Gotta go now, thanks again!