Any Ladies like the Good Guy type or am i just out of luck.
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AZNiceGuy79
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Ha! You an' me both, pal.
But, I think most ladies like the rude, obnoxious guy who's a total jerk to everyone. It shows strength of character, which is really what they're looking for.
They hope to tame such a wild man for themselves (wanting them to be rude to everyone BUT them), but it never usually works out that way.
But, I think most ladies like the rude, obnoxious guy who's a total jerk to everyone. It shows strength of character, which is really what they're looking for.
They hope to tame such a wild man for themselves (wanting them to be rude to everyone BUT them), but it never usually works out that way.
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yeah, i see that all the time too!
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AZNiceGuy79 said:
Not entirely true....I stay as far away from men like that as possible. There are many other things that show strength of character. Being an asshole shows just that...that they are an asshole.
Chin up...a few of us still want the nice guy *wink*
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Seshena said:
I have to say that I agree with you Seshena.
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Here's a clue, guys. Contrary to popular belief, women do want nice guys.
However, most women don't want a doormat. They also don't want to be bored. Most women like a bit of a challenge.
There are two surefire ways to lose any sexual appeal for most women - whining and showing desperation. If you whine to a girl, you'll never go beyond 'friend' mode. If you act desperate, she'll assume there's a reason and stay away.
I'm not claiming that any of the above apply to you, but if one or more of these things ring a bell, then perhaps the fact that you're 'nice' isn't the problem.
However, most women don't want a doormat. They also don't want to be bored. Most women like a bit of a challenge.
There are two surefire ways to lose any sexual appeal for most women - whining and showing desperation. If you whine to a girl, you'll never go beyond 'friend' mode. If you act desperate, she'll assume there's a reason and stay away.
I'm not claiming that any of the above apply to you, but if one or more of these things ring a bell, then perhaps the fact that you're 'nice' isn't the problem.
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Wrong track,
Before I met my DH I would have settled for soooooooooooo much less. I didn't know there were still guys that were nice, honest, would open my door, cook for me, take care of everything but most importantly make me feel safe. BUt....I found him! Actually he was around all along but I never really "saw" him and then one day poof I realized what a real man he was.
I think most women don't believe in nice guys. Sometimes it seems like it's only a myth.
ZGuy32 said:
Before I met my DH I would have settled for soooooooooooo much less. I didn't know there were still guys that were nice, honest, would open my door, cook for me, take care of everything but most importantly make me feel safe. BUt....I found him! Actually he was around all along but I never really "saw" him and then one day poof I realized what a real man he was.
I think most women don't believe in nice guys. Sometimes it seems like it's only a myth.
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my problem has been that the nice guys don't want me, the nice girl
they look at the tall, thin beautiful girls who are with the bad guys, and they want them, while they keep the nice girls as friends
and i normally end up as the friend who consoles them when the girl chooses the bad guy over them
they look at the tall, thin beautiful girls who are with the bad guys, and they want them, while they keep the nice girls as friends
and i normally end up as the friend who consoles them when the girl chooses the bad guy over them
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I met my guy here on Lit almost 7 months ago and he is an extremely nice man who has strength of character. He is both dominating and gentle, serious and funny. I think it's the whole package we women want just like you guys want that from us.
Don't give up or become bitter. Love is out there. I know if I found it anyone can.
Don't give up or become bitter. Love is out there. I know if I found it anyone can.
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I met a guy online who was a naked orc barbarian and I was a half elven knight.
So it takes all kinds.
Really, if we could find love...
Who knows?
Turns out we thought the other person must be a complete and total nerd.
So we didn't try to impress each other at all.
And we were impressed.
Married.
So it takes all kinds.
Really, if we could find love...
Who knows?
Turns out we thought the other person must be a complete and total nerd.
So we didn't try to impress each other at all.
And we were impressed.
Married.
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I hear all of this. *chuckles* I am always sent into friend mode, not from whining, but because I listen. *shrugs* I'd rather have a friend than a love that went wrong and we no longer talk to each other.
I'm strange that way, though.
My problem is simply that I lack self confidence. I don't go after women until they are friends already, and at that point, they lose interest in me, if they had it at all.
It's something that makes me me. I don't really want to change that, I just want to find a woman that wants the real good, romantic guy.
Who has more kinks than a BSDM rope after a thousand good nights!
*smiles*
Maybe one day my princess will come....and then cum, and cum, and cum.
Until then? I'll just pass my days dreaming and waiting.
I'm strange that way, though.
My problem is simply that I lack self confidence. I don't go after women until they are friends already, and at that point, they lose interest in me, if they had it at all.
It's something that makes me me. I don't really want to change that, I just want to find a woman that wants the real good, romantic guy.
Who has more kinks than a BSDM rope after a thousand good nights!
*smiles*
Maybe one day my princess will come....and then cum, and cum, and cum.
Until then? I'll just pass my days dreaming and waiting.
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Too bad you have that 25 rule. Im 23, 6'2, 160 lbs, muscular, and a DAMN fine individual ;P
INeedLove said:
Too bad you have that 25 rule. Im 23, 6'2, 160 lbs, muscular, and a DAMN fine individual ;P
The sad part is, being a guy, I get to see how a lot of other guys actually regard women. There might seem like a lot of guys who are really nice and sweet, but a good portion of the times it's a front to get layed. After a while the mask wears thin and the girl get's to see how the guy really is.
It's rather easy to fool people, really. Just show someone what they want to belive, and they won't question what they see, even if it's not the truth of the situation. I have rarely come across a guy who is genuinly respectful of women, not just playing at it.
That's why it's so hard to find the real Mr. Right. ;-)
It's rather easy to fool people, really. Just show someone what they want to belive, and they won't question what they see, even if it's not the truth of the situation. I have rarely come across a guy who is genuinly respectful of women, not just playing at it.
That's why it's so hard to find the real Mr. Right. ;-)
ickle_stace
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nobody else realised that its not just the nice guys that get overlooked? the nice girls do too!
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Ya know, I really think there's some truth to that. I've encountered a few men on this site who feel the need to talk about how nice/great/whatever they are. (By "encountered," I mean that I've had conversations or debates with them.) People who are truly nice or great generally don't need to tell others all about it; these characteristics are, in my experience, self-evident.MstrG said:
As always, YMMV.
I would never say all women want X. But I do believe a significant portion of women want the bad boy and not a guy who simply isn't a "doormat". I don't mind that at all. If someone wants the bad boy, more power to 'em. I'm usually considered the good guy, though I've had my bad times too, and I've never had a problem finding girls. What I do mind is the people, this applies to guys as well, who say they want one thing (the good person) and yet always go for the bad person. It's like they say they want the good person so they don't sound like a horrible person or something.
I knew a marine rotc cadet when I was in college who was a very nice and good looking guy but never had any luck with women. He was by no means a doormat but he just always lost out on the girl when he tried to be the nice guy. He decided to try and be the asshole and he had girls tripping over themselves trying to go out with girls. (No this cadet was not me, I'm not crazy enough to join the marines)
Just food for thought.
I knew a marine rotc cadet when I was in college who was a very nice and good looking guy but never had any luck with women. He was by no means a doormat but he just always lost out on the girl when he tried to be the nice guy. He decided to try and be the asshole and he had girls tripping over themselves trying to go out with girls. (No this cadet was not me, I'm not crazy enough to join the marines)
Just food for thought.
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I don't think that men fall into "bad boy" and "nice doormat" categories and no others. Nor do I think that nice implies doormat.pa-guy said:
Both men and women might have better luck finding partners if they looked beyond preconceived notions/stereotypes.
difficult
Not an easy thing to do. Those of us who honestly fall into the nice girl/guy category and are looking for the same don't always see what's in front of us. I've unfortunately fallen into the pattern of finding seemingly nice girls who are really soulless assholes, and have seen after the fact (hindsight is usually 20-20) that I had a shot with a real catch, who'd found someone else.
But c'est la vie, right? The real trick is not wasting time with someone who isn't worth yours. Again, not an easy thing to do.
Harumph.
Eilan said:
Not an easy thing to do. Those of us who honestly fall into the nice girl/guy category and are looking for the same don't always see what's in front of us. I've unfortunately fallen into the pattern of finding seemingly nice girls who are really soulless assholes, and have seen after the fact (hindsight is usually 20-20) that I had a shot with a real catch, who'd found someone else.
But c'est la vie, right? The real trick is not wasting time with someone who isn't worth yours. Again, not an easy thing to do.
Harumph.
