Anticipation

[Croctden]

Do any other Doms purposely tell their subs what is coming, but make them wait for it. This is along the the lines of "you die a thousand deaths." For example one of my favorites was over dinner looking at my watch and saying at 8:30 I'm going to give you a heavy whipping and then letting them stew for a couple or hours.

I've found some subs really don't like this. One got all upset and said I could not do that, litterally stamping her foot.

Who da Croctden?

 

[Red Menace]

Sir doesn't. I never know what's coming until I'm in the middle of it. Some advance warning might be nice for a change.

 

[Justina123]

I'm in the camp of those who do not like to be told something is going to happen, and then have it not occur when promised. One of those "trust and truthfulness" things. I'd prefer to be hold it will happen "later" than be given a specific time that doesn't occur.

However, having to wait for something can be a good exercise in patience and get me quite hot, like when I am naked, ass in air, waiting for whatever comes next, and blindfolded can make it even "worse" (better?).

- justina

 

[lovetoread]

Let me know about it.

Let me think its coming.

I like to think about it until it happens.

Tis up to him whether it actually happens or not.

 

[Desdemona]

I like anticipation.... alot! Snooze uses it as another way to control me. He has been known to make me wait for days, knowing what is to come. I happily stew about it and by the time we scene, I'm primed and ready for anything. However, if for some reason it doesn't happen on schedule, it can be a let down. Life intrudes some times, ya know.

 

[Mr Blonde]

Do any other Doms purposely tell their subs what is coming, but make them wait for it.

Yes, I have been known to do that on occasion.

I have promised a certain time and I have let them know that something is gonna happen before a certain time. Or alternately promise a window of opportunity, so to speak.

I have always made it a point to follow through when mentioning specifics. As Justina123 and Desdemona explained, it can be a matter of trust as well as not interfering with real life. "I promised my parents I would call them at 9 o'clock because you said you were doing it at 7 o'clock!"

A proper amount of anticipation can build excitement and whet the appetite. It can also show the submissive who is in control and display just how organized the dominant really is. Being too focused on the clock can diminish spontaneity, but occasionally letting the passage of time build anticipation can be a nice way to keep things interesting.

 

[InnerDarkness]

I have never been told a certain time frame for anything....but I have been told, "we will discuss this later" or "this will occur later" but I never know when "later" is, which leaves me rather excited and nervous all at the same time.

One the one hand, I am always wondering WHEN he will approach me. On the other hand, I am wondering WHAT I can expect.

It really tends to heighten everything for me when it does finally occur.

 

[Etoile]

I don't know if I like it or not. I'm not usually given a specific hour, but rather told about "tonight" or something to that effect. Sometimes I'm just given instructions (something to wear, or to bring when I'm traveling to Daddy) and allowed to figure out for myself what they mean! I think that's the best - when I'm not told exactly what's going to happen, but I'm just told "bring only a small purse" or "make sure you're wet when you arrive at the train station"!

 

[FungiUg]

I do and I don't. Just depends on my mood, I guess.

 

[bunny bondage]

ooh, anticipation! i dont' know which is better - knowing exactly what's coming and when, or just knowing that i'm in big trouble and i'm gonna get it!

 

[Croctden]

Shit I don't do it all the time, boring. "Oh, it's 9:15 - time for your beating." But some times I want them to be counting down the minutes. One time a sub tried to hide she was so distraught.

Much funnier was the time I was asked by an upset sub why I was telling. I told her so she could get prepared. I almost kept a straight face too.

 

[FungiUg]

Much funnier was the time I was asked by an upset sub why I was telling. I told her so she could get prepared. I almost kept a straight face too.

Mean! I love it!

 

[JupitersGirl]

Anticipation!!

It makes every nerve ending scream...

 

[sweetlittleass]

kills me and he knows it.

We've only known each other for a month, and live in seperate towns. Everytime we've met, he has brought me a gift, and about 3-5 days before we meet, he starts torturing me with hints about what the gift if... DRIVES ME CRAZY!

And even in bed, especially in bed... cause we are still learning about each other, anticipation is ALWAYS there... wondering what he is going to do next, thinking about what I'm going to do to him

But! I get to see him tomorrow... and we have TWO WHOLE days / nights together

Kisses,
Baby

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Do any other Doms purposely tell their subs what is coming, but make them wait for it ... I've found some subs really don't like this. One got all upset and said I could not do that, litterally stamping her foot ...

Both.

i've found a little unbalance keeps the submissive's attention attuned to what we do, not what she thinks should come next.

and did you spank said little foot short of hobbling her?