Another repetitive question about lesbian sex...

[Soulfiregirl]

Much to my dismay, my experience with females has been limited. And it's been a while. But just like riding a bike you never really forget. (yes, I am making an effort to check out all those bi dating sites so many of you recommended to me when I first joined but nothing yet...but thankyou!)

What type of sex do you prefer with a woman? Fingers, fisting, dildos, oral...
I guess I'm curious to what type of sexual "intercourse" lesbian or bi women prefer with each other. What's the "norm" in other words? Or, the "norm" for you?

Personally, I like all the the above but I wonder if that's the case with other women who are bi are gay. And then there's assplay. As a lesbian or bi women do you enjoy that?

Again, just curious.

 

[deezire1900]

I was reading a very interesting artical in a mag recently, and it was called....uuummm....something like...a lesbains guide to straight men eating pussy....I was bored at the hotel....anyway.

All women are different, but it had some great pointers in there and I even learned a few things.

I am into a little bit rougher sex and ass play, but most of the women I have been with are not.

A few pointers from the story included:

:::Just because one finger feels good, doesn't mean two will feel better:::
:::you don't like anything up your butt for a love suprise, she probably doesn't either...or ask her FIRST:::
:::If your in a hurry, you should never start:::

Anyway...those were a few that I remember.

I will try to find the mag.

 

[anne27]

The sex I have with men is almost always rough and that's the way I like it, but like deezire, I have yet to play with a woman who was into that brand of sex. My bi sex has consisted mainly or oral- cuz I'm an oral sorta gal, hand play and some ass play. I like most everything with men and think that I'd probably be the same in my sexual relationships with women, but in my limited experience, I just haven't met an open partner.

 

[Harrowborg]

Much to my dismay, my experience with females has been limited. And it's been a while. But just like riding a bike you never really forget. (yes, I am making an effort to check out all those bi dating sites so many of you recommended to me when I first joined but nothing yet...but thankyou!)

What type of sex do you prefer with a woman? Fingers, fisting, dildos, oral...
I guess I'm curious to what type of sexual "intercourse" lesbian or bi women prefer with each other. What's the "norm" in other words? Or, the "norm" for you?

Personally, I like all the the above but I wonder if that's the case with other women who are bi are gay. And then there's assplay. As a lesbian or bi women do you enjoy that?

Again, just curious.

Don't take this the wrong way but the way you've said that makes you sound like a bloke finding things out lol.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

Don't take this the wrong way but the way you've said that makes you sound like a bloke finding things out lol.

I ask, to learn. It's very simple really. Like your post.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

I am into a little bit rougher sex and ass play, but most of the women I have been with are not.

Hmmm...that is interesting. That's something I've been wondering about. For example, I put an ad for myself in the BDSM personals forum and I specified that men or women were welcome to reply, but I've gotten absolutely no replies from women. So, I kind of gave up and "toned down" my BD desires for a more simple ad that I also placed in the GBLT personals forum.

I like rougher sex too. I guess I can understand why many women might not be attracted to it. (whether straight or gay) I think it's harder for women to give themselves permission to enjoy that kind of sex. Or if they were victims of violence, that type of sex may disgust them. (oh, and I haven't actually tried "fisting" yet but I've tried a few of the other things I mentioned with women....again, years ago)

I would never try to force anything on a female partner if it made her uncomfortable. Good old "vanilla" lesbian sex is fine for me. But I was always curious as to how many bi and lesbian women prefered that. Anyway, interesting replies, as always.

 

[WyldSpirit]

I'm not sure that I really have a "norm" it's just what ever I'm in the mood for at the time, or what we're in the mood for at the time I should say. Toys are a very good thing, a high quality harness strap on is a very good investment (I preferably the o-ring kind that is compatable with any "ballsy" toy) I also like things a little rough at times. It really really does just depend on my mood. Oh and on your question about ass play, omg, yes please, LOL.

A bit of advice about personal ads, when posting looking for women, just post looking for women, when looking for men, just post looking for men. For some reason women online tend to not respond if they see that you are open to either, I think that they think that you aren't serious about looking for women if you are also looking for men. This is just from my personal experience so I'm not sure that this is the reason, I just know that my response from women has always been better if I keep my ads seperate and don't try to combine them.

Hope your weekend is great so far.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

A bit of advice about personal ads, when posting looking for women, just post looking for women, when looking for men, just post looking for men. For some reason women online tend to not respond if they see that you are open to either, I think that they think that you aren't serious about looking for women if you are also looking for men. This is just from my personal experience so I'm not sure that this is the reason, I just know that my response from women has always been better if I keep my ads seperate and don't try to combine them.

Hope your weekend is great so far.

But see, that bothers me. I need to be honest about myself when I post an ad. I don't want to "hide" my bisexaulity. Because I'd have to tell them eventually anyway. If that lowers my chances of more replies, so be it. I figure, a woman who isn't threatened by it is the one I want to reply anyway. (but thanks for the advice...always appreciated)

 

[deezire1900]

Hmmm...that is interesting. That's something I've been wondering about. For example, I put an ad for myself in the BDSM personals forum and I specified that men or women were welcome to reply, but I've gotten absolutely no replies from women. So, I kind of gave up and "toned down" my BD desires for a more simple ad that I also placed in the GBLT personals forum.

I like rougher sex too. I guess I can understand why many women might not be attracted to it. (whether straight or gay) I think it's harder for women to give themselves permission to enjoy that kind of sex. Or if they were victims of violence, that type of sex may disgust them. (oh, and I haven't actually tried "fisting" yet but I've tried a few of the other things I mentioned with women....again, years ago)

I would never try to force anything on a female partner if it made her uncomfortable. Good old "vanilla" lesbian sex is fine for me. But I was always curious as to how many bi and lesbian women prefered that. Anyway, interesting replies, as always.

To me rough sex does not include fisting. I may have to examine my use of the term "rough sex."

I am very comfortable with what I want in bed, and I am not afraid to ask for it. I think many women are. They want someone to read their mind, and when you read it wrong...two fingers, instead of one...they seem to freak out and hold it against the person.

 

[SweetErika]

But see, that bothers me. I need to be honest about myself when I post an ad. I don't want to "hide" my bisexaulity. Because I'd have to tell them eventually anyway. If that lowers my chances of more replies, so be it. I figure, a woman who isn't threatened by it is the one I want to reply anyway. (but thanks for the advice...always appreciated)

I don't think posting an ad for women is hiding anything, as long as you state you're bi and single/committed/married, etc. I agree with Wyld though...for some reason "looking for men or women" ads just aren't attractive to me.

As for sex, I've had little experience, but I enjoy pretty much anything with the right woman. I really love to receive a little rougher nipple play, and have noticed women seem a little more hesitant to give some pain (nothing extreme...some pinching, harder sucking, nibbling), even when asked for something specific, but maybe that's just my limited experience talking.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

!) What type of sex do you prefer with a woman? Fingers, fisting, dildos, oral...I guess I'm curious to what type of sexual "intercourse" lesbian or bi women prefer with each other. What's the "norm" in other words? Or, the "norm" for you?

Personally, I like all the the above but I wonder if that's the case with other women who are bi are gay. And then there's assplay. As a lesbian or bi women do you enjoy that?

My sexual preferences (with women) are whatever my partner likes. Usually I am involved in heavily BDSM relationships. (Case in point: I am Domme to a submissive grrl in training as well as maso botom to a Sadistic Male) so of course rougher sex is usually the rule.

I have engaged in ass play, toys, oral and the like (not to mention wax, ice, clamps, belts LOL) with partners of both sexes. I can't imagine NOT having some roughness (either in the giving or receiving). So to me, all of these things are the norm...

 

[ravenmx]

Always ask you partner what they like, prefer and don't like.

I have had partners that enjoy only oral and fingers and others who enjoy oral, fingers, dildos, strap-ons, and yet others you preferred nothing but oral.

For me I prefer oral and vibrators but my current partner enjoys all the above as well as a little rough sex play. I enjoy using all the toys on her as well so it works out for her.

I have friends that do not use toys at all, they don't see the sense in it. They figure if they wanted a "penis" they would sleep with men. Others don't like them because of what it reminds them of.

It all really depends on the person and their thoughts or feeling as well as what you as a partner are comfortable with or willing to do.

 

[ravenmx]

As for sex, I've had little experience, but I enjoy pretty much anything with the right woman. I really love to receive a little rougher nipple play, and have noticed women seem a little more hesitant to give some pain (nothing extreme...some pinching, harder sucking, nibbling), even when asked for something specific, but maybe that's just my limited experience talking.

I think your right in the fact that some women are hesitant to give pain. I myself don't care for it but I have had partners that do. I have always been happy to oblige. However it seem that the women I've been with are also hesitant to ask, maybe they felt that if I didn't want it then I wouldn't enjoy giving it to them?

 

[WyldSpirit]

But see, that bothers me. I need to be honest about myself when I post an ad. I don't want to "hide" my bisexaulity. Because I'd have to tell them eventually anyway. If that lowers my chances of more replies, so be it. I figure, a woman who isn't threatened by it is the one I want to reply anyway. (but thanks for the advice...always appreciated)

I never said hide your bisexuality, I don't advocate for that at all. My ads always state that I'm bi, usually in the tag line, but if not, then definately in the body of the text. You just are way more likely to get responses from women if you target ads just for women. I'm not sure why, that just seems to be the way that it works.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

I never said hide your bisexuality, I don't advocate for that at all. My ads always state that I'm bi, usually in the tag line, but if not, then definately in the body of the text. You just are way more likely to get responses from women if you target ads just for women. I'm not sure why, that just seems to be the way that it works.

Sorry, I misunderstood. Thankyou.

 

[Etoile]

I highly recommend Felice Newman's book "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book" and perhaps also "The Lesbian Sex Book" (a bit old) and "Making Out: The Book of Lesbian Sex and Sexuality."

 

[anne27]

I highly recommend Felice Newman's book "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book" and perhaps also "The Lesbian Sex Book" (a bit old) and "Making Out: The Book of Lesbian Sex and Sexuality."

They have books on this stuff? Oh cool

Editted to say- No, I'm not really THAT stupid. It just hadn't occured to me to get a book on how to play with women.

 

[Etoile]

They have books on this stuff? Oh cool

Editted to say- No, I'm not really THAT stupid. It just hadn't occured to me to get a book on how to play with women.

Yup, plenty of 'em! I don't have more titles on hand at the moment (I'm posting from my cell phone) but if you go to www.cydyblog.net and check out the "good reads" section on the right there should be a "see more" link (or something like that) and I know I put some relevant titles in there.

 

[John Doe]

God damn it, I hate questions I can't answer.

 

[anne27]

Yup, plenty of 'em! I don't have more titles on hand at the moment (I'm posting from my cell phone) but if you go to www.cydyblog.net and check out the "good reads" section on the right there should be a "see more" link (or something like that) and I know I put some relevant titles in there.

Thanks Etoile!!

I just picked up The Whole Lesbian Sex Book online .

 

[Etoile]

Thanks Etoile!!

I just picked up The Whole Lesbian Sex Book online .

woo hoo! That's a good one. There was another one that was similar to that, but when that came out I remember thinking that the original could start gathering dust now. Newman's book is just that good! have fun with it!

 

[OzDvl]

I love being with a woman and even know my experiences with women have been limited i worked out really quickly i love giving oral*sighs* I like getting oral too, don't get me wrong but i love knowing that what i am doing is getting her 'off' As for the rough factor i don't like it 2 rough, but to some degree is nice

 

[mystic_maiden32]

I highly recommend Felice Newman's book "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book" and perhaps also "The Lesbian Sex Book" (a bit old) and "Making Out: The Book of Lesbian Sex and Sexuality."

GREAT books

 

[Soulfiregirl]

God damn it, I hate questions I can't answer.

It just kills you doesn't it?