Anonymous Secrets Thread

[fed0ra]

MO, I don't know if you're a friend or not, but I've learned that the need to be heard is a basic human need. Most of us have a hard time with your "secret" because we're looking at the big picture. We aren't just looking at a man who's betrayed not only his wife, but also his lover (cyber or real-life). We're looking at a family that could very well be torn apart. Kids that could grow up without their father's influence in their lives. Girls who could grow up to expect men to leave or betray them. Girls who grow up craving a man's love so much that they're willing to have sex with anyone who shows even the slightest interest in them. Boys that could grow up without any inkling of what real love, a real marriage is supposed to look like. It's a ripple effect. It doesn't just affect the man; it can and probably will affect the family for generations to come.

We all know the statistics. Kids who grow up without a father in the home are more likely to be alcoholics, drug users, promiscuous, high school drop outs, unemployed, and abusive. While the cheating husband may deserve to be taught a lesson for his part, does this act of vengeance really give you enough satisfaction to make it worth ruining kids' lives?

As I said before, domestic violence isn't just limited to women. Worst case scenario, the wife could choose to wreak her own form of vengeance. Do you really want that on your conscience?

You're the one who has to look yourself in the mirror. You have to live with yourself every day. This might seem like a satisfying way to bring justice to these men now, but time tends to dull emotions and allow more objectivity. Will it be worth it to know your vendetta ruined entire families when your pain dulls?

I'm asking you to take the high road. Sure, it would be more respectful and courteous to at least say goodbye before disappearing, but simple courtesies are becoming extinct. You can't control what anybody else does; you can only control what you do - control your reactions. I'm asking you to think of more than your own hurt and his betrayal. I'm asking you to think of the bystanders who will undoubtedly be hurt far worse than the hurt you feel from his betrayal.

My response won't be the most popular on this thread, but that's ok. I hear you. You're hurting. You want the other person to hurt as much as you do. You have my sympathy, but in the long run, your actions won't make you feel any better. Cry, vent to a trusted friend, and have enough integrity to be the friend to others that you claim to be. Instead of tearing somebody else down, build yourself up. I really do wish you well, and I hope you can find happiness.

Very well put. Thank you BeachMomma.

 

[RjThoughts]

One time at camp I found these pearls.....

 

[fed0ra]

One time at camp I found these pearls.....

Where did you stash them?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

OK, Since Kudram has effectively turned this thread on "HIGH" ( lol, I'm liking the idea that he is really the conspirator behind the infamous "Outer."

I will throw this out... there are a couple of my confessions that have shown up here..I'm sure you can't guess which ones !!!

 

[RjThoughts]

Where did you stash them?

I found them near the dead body of Minerva Della Croix, an elderly woman who had been up at the camp visiting her granddaughters. She had wandered away from the site late last night, not informing anyone....

(I slipped them into the front left pocket of my jeans shorts)

 

[RjThoughts]

OK, Since Kudram has effectively turned this thread on "HIGH" ( lol, I'm liking the idea that he is really the conspirator behind the infamous "Outer."

I will throw this out... there are a couple of my confessions that have shown up here..I'm sure you can't guess which ones !!!

You're actually a 50-year-old man?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Ok.. ok.... very good... yeah... That's me.. I've gotten a pretty decent boob job, huh? and the whole turn the penis inside out has really been working out for me, too..

 

[fed0ra]

I found them near the dead body of Minerva Della Croix, an elderly woman who had been up at the camp visiting her granddaughters. She had wandered away from the site late last night, not informing anyone....

(I slipped them into the front left pocket of my jeans shorts)

*chuckles* Minerva sounds....interesting. But you know you pearls shine best against warm flesh. Don't know if they can handle the front left pocket of your jeans shorts

 

[RjThoughts]

*chuckles* Minerva sounds....interesting. But you know you pearls shine best against warm flesh. Don't know if they can handle the front left pocket of your jeans shorts

Hey, I wasn't Encyclopedia Brown, so in the pocket they went LOL

 

[BeachMomma]

..... but I used to be brilliant at ECC.

ECC? Extrication something something? Emergency Care Center? Emergency Cardiovascular Care?

 

[singledad68]

ECC? Extrication something something? Emergency Care Center? Emergency Cardiovascular Care?

Excessive Caressing Copulation?

 

[BlackCashmere]

Ok.. ok.... very good... yeah... That's me.. I've gotten a pretty decent boob job, huh? and the whole turn the penis inside out has really been working out for me, too..

 

[BlackCashmere]

MO, I don't know if you're a friend or not, but I've learned that the need to be heard is a basic human need. Most of us have a hard time with your "secret" because we're looking at the big picture. We aren't just looking at a man who's betrayed not only his wife, but also his lover (cyber or real-life). We're looking at a family that could very well be torn apart. Kids that could grow up without their father's influence in their lives. Girls who could grow up to expect men to leave or betray them. Girls who grow up craving a man's love so much that they're willing to have sex with anyone who shows even the slightest interest in them. Boys that could grow up without any inkling of what real love, a real marriage is supposed to look like. It's a ripple effect. It doesn't just affect the man; it can and probably will affect the family for generations to come.

We all know the statistics. Kids who grow up without a father in the home are more likely to be alcoholics, drug users, promiscuous, high school drop outs, unemployed, and abusive. While the cheating husband may deserve to be taught a lesson for his part, does this act of vengeance really give you enough satisfaction to make it worth ruining kids' lives?

As I said before, domestic violence isn't just limited to women. Worst case scenario, the wife could choose to wreak her own form of vengeance. Do you really want that on your conscience?

You're the one who has to look yourself in the mirror. You have to live with yourself every day. This might seem like a satisfying way to bring justice to these men now, but time tends to dull emotions and allow more objectivity. Will it be worth it to know your vendetta ruined entire families when your pain dulls?

I'm asking you to take the high road. Sure, it would be more respectful and courteous to at least say goodbye before disappearing, but simple courtesies are becoming extinct. You can't control what anybody else does; you can only control what you do - control your reactions. I'm asking you to think of more than your own hurt and his betrayal. I'm asking you to think of the bystanders who will undoubtedly be hurt far worse than the hurt you feel from his betrayal.

My response won't be the most popular on this thread, but that's ok. I hear you. You're hurting. You want the other person to hurt as much as you do. You have my sympathy, but in the long run, your actions won't make you feel any better. Cry, vent to a trusted friend, and have enough integrity to be the friend to others that you claim to be. Instead of tearing somebody else down, build yourself up. I really do wish you well, and I hope you can find happiness.

Amazing post...Beautifully said...

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

...... does this act of vengeance really give you enough satisfaction to make it worth ruining kids' lives? .....

Bravo Momma! Hope you don't mind the edit to highlight what, to me, is an extremely important point. Mommies and Daddies may play their dirty games, but in the end the health and the welfare of the children are what is most important.

 

[o_so_wet]

I wonder if Kudram has gotten any more secrets ?

 

[BeachMomma]

You're actually a 50-year-old man?

No, no, no! (Well, I don't know. She *could* be!)

That's MY secret! Actually, I'm a little closer to 60. I do enjoy that I can still live in Mama's basement (hence my screen name), and I recently lost 150 pounds. I'm down to a svelte 300 now. I still have almost all of my hair, but some of it is coming out of my nose and ears. I think it gives me more personality.

And who needs a boob job? Moobs are sexy as hell!

 

[BeachMomma]

Bravo Momma! Hope you don't mind the edit to highlight what, to me, is an extremely important point. Mommies and Daddies may play their dirty games, but in the end the health and the welfare of the children are what is most important.

Thanks. I probably should've bolded and italicized the 2nd and 4th paragraphs for emphasis.

 

[BradBigBrain]

No, no, no! (Well, I don't know. She *could* be!)

That's MY secret! Actually, I'm a little closer to 60. I do enjoy that I can still live in Mama's basement (hence my screen name), and I recently lost 150 pounds. I'm down to a svelte 300 now. I still have almost all of my hair, but some of it is coming out of my nose and ears. I think it gives me more personality.

And who needs a boob job? Moobs are sexy as hell!

Dagnabbit, quit posting PI about me.

 

[BeachMomma]

Dagnabbit, quit posting PI about me.

*snort*

Yanno I love it when you say dagnabbit!

It seems a lot of us share the same anonymous secret!

 

[thesweetsweetness]

I've been following this MO discussion. While I in no way agree with what they are doing, I don't feel they are completely responsible for ruining any marriage or hypothetical children lives. The cheating husband and possible father is to blame, in my opinion. Why is it okay for him to fuck around on the side, especially if children are involved? He should end one relationship before entering another relationship that is serious enough to disclose personal information. Just my two cents.

 

[BeachMomma]

I've been following this MO discussion. While I in no way agree with what they are doing, I don't feel they are completely responsible for ruining any marriage or hypothetical children lives. The cheating husband and possible father is to blame, in my opinion. Why is it okay for him to fuck around on the side, especially if children are involved? He should end one relationship before entering another relationship that is serious enough to disclose personal information. Just my two cents.

To an extent, I agree. Cheating husband (CH for short) made a few serious mistakes. Obviously, he should've been more discreet about his information, and screwing around speaks for itself.

If this is strictly a cyber-affair, MO is basically playing God with someone else's life. She's appointed herself judge, jury, and executioner. There's one major problem with that though. This is the internet. It's all basically fantasy. It could certainly be more than fantasy for one or the other, but it's still fantasy - an emotional affair at best. There's very little difference between a cyber-affair and masturbating to porn - unless the emotional entanglement is considered an emotional affair.

If it's a real life affair, sure, he's wrong for what he's doing. That *still* doesn't make it MOs place to educate the wife. It appears that she's doing it purely out of spite - a jilted lover whose sole intention seems to be revenge. As has been mentioned several times already, the cliché "Two wrongs don't make a right" certainly fits this situation.

MO will someday recover from her broken heart. Neither CH nor his family will recover from her act of vengeance. Without her interference, CH and his wife could've gone on to repair their marriage or end it gracefully. That's *their* decision to make - not hers. That alone is my problem with her confession.

Entirely off-topic, may I please add congrats for your upcoming bundle of sweetness! When are you due?

 

[wooodyme]

This next bit, is not a fun or kinky secret

29 F- I was sexually molested as a child. I've never told and will never tell'em. The person who did it is a family member and I have to see them every year at Christmas.

At first, I did not want to post this. So I asked why would you want to share this, this was the reply:

There are so many folks who have had something like this happen to them as children that are in my same situation- we can't talk about it for fear of destroying our families... in a way, posting it and if there are any others who have gone through it on here, they know they're not alone.

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This must be very difficult for you and I would be the first to admit I cannot offer a solution. I feel fortunate. I feel sorry, too.

 

[thesweetsweetness]

To an extent, I agree. Cheating husband (CH for short) made a few serious mistakes. Obviously, he should've been more discreet about his information, and screwing around speaks for itself.

If this is strictly a cyber-affair, MO is basically playing God with someone else's life. She's appointed herself judge, jury, and executioner. There's one major problem with that though. This is the internet. It's all basically fantasy. It could certainly be more than fantasy for one or the other, but it's still fantasy - an emotional affair at best. There's very little difference between a cyber-affair and masturbating to porn - unless the emotional entanglement is considered an emotional affair.

If it's a real life affair, sure, he's wrong for what he's doing. That *still* doesn't make it MOs place to educate the wife. It appears that she's doing it purely out of spite - a jilted lover whose sole intention seems to be revenge. As has been mentioned several times already, the cliché "Two wrongs don't make a right" certainly fits this situation.

MO will someday recover from her broken heart. Neither CH nor his family will recover from her act of vengeance. Without her interference, CH and his wife could've gone on to repair their marriage or end it gracefully. That's *their* decision to make - not hers. That alone is my problem with her confession.

Entirely off-topic, may I please add congrats for your upcoming bundle of sweetness! When are you due?

Unless the wife is aware of what her husband is up to, she can't make any decisions on how to react to the situation. This whole, "let sleeping dogs lie" mindset isn't very fair to the wife. Everyone deserves happiness and companionship in their lives. If the cheating husband has decided to find his happiness and companionship elsewhere, he should end the marriage. I don't think he should get the best of both worlds at the expense of his ignorant wife.

I don't agree with how the MO is two faced though. As long as she is getting hers, she plays along being the silent mistress, but then once she feels scorned the tables turn and she contacts the wife.

Eh.. I've spent too much time thinking about the situation. MO doesn't deserve so much of my (or anyone's) time. Sorry for continuing the conversation, it was hard to not chime in though! Bring on some fun sexy secrets, please!!

Thank you! My due date is May 17th, but I'm feeling like it could be sooner, maybe, hopefully.

 

[sunshinegirl05]

Taking into consideration the nature of this site....and the fact that 90%* of the people are here without their spouses/SO knowing says that not everyone has an open relationship with their spouse/SO.

Those of you whose spouses know, that's great. But just keep in mind, not everyone has that special relationship.

I'm not saying that all of us who are on here without our spouses/SO knowledge are perfect and haven't engaged in "online" relationships and stuff......but it's not always so simple.




*The 90% is just a random number I pulled out to make a point.

 

[BlackCashmere]

Unless the wife is aware of what her husband is up to, she can't make any decisions on how to react to the situation. This whole, "let sleeping dogs lie" mindset isn't very fair to the wife. Everyone deserves happiness and companionship in their lives. If the cheating husband has decided to find his happiness and companionship elsewhere, he should end the marriage. I don't think he should get the best of both worlds at the expense of his ignorant wife.

I don't agree with how the MO is two faced though. As long as she is getting hers, she plays along being the silent mistress, but then once she feels scorned the tables turn and she contacts the wife.

Eh.. I've spent too much time thinking about the situation. MO doesn't deserve so much of my (or anyone's) time. Sorry for continuing the conversation, it was hard to not chime in though! Bring on some fun sexy secrets, please!!

Thank you! My due date is May 17th, but I'm feeling like it could be sooner, maybe, hopefully.

Congrats on your pending bundle of joy...I am happy for you and wish you a very healthy delivery and a most beautiful life together ...