anon seducing via email

[endlesssupply]

I posted a confession really today about me lusting for a co-worker over in the general board. Well one of the responses was that I should create a hotmail account and seduce this woman via email anonymously. It was suggested as a joke I think and I wrote it off, but since then I can't get the idea out of my head. The concept of having this online relationship with her, anonymous of course but then working with her daily is too much.

I guess I am asking has anyone ever done this? Any ladies in here ever had a secret admirer? I am not talking about stalking this girl or anything other than playful fun teasing her online and then being with her at work.

Suggestions?

 

[dollface007]

Since this is a coworker, a scenario like this could easily be considered stalking and/or sexual harassment even if you don't intend it to be. Even an "anonymous" email account can be traced back to you. Sounds like a great fantasy, but it's a stupid move in real life.

 

[endlesssupply]

Since this is a coworker, a scenario like this could easily be considered stalking and/or sexual harassment even if you don't intend it to be. Even an "anonymous" email account can be traced back to you. Sounds like a great fantasy, but it's a stupid move in real life.

I know they can be tracked, I know she knows people who could...but at the same time I know how to mask it so that isn't my concern.

But ya, that has sorta stopped me, since I know her and work with her I don't want to cross the line like that.

Sneaking looks up her skirt is bad enough.

 

[Lancecastor]

Go to an internet cafe if you're paranoid.

Besides...talking a woman into touching herself for you is hardly a crime.

 

[sheath]

I know they can be tracked, I know she knows people who could...but at the same time I know how to mask it so that isn't my concern.

But ya, that has sorta stopped me, since I know her and work with her I don't want to cross the line like that.

Sneaking looks up her skirt is bad enough.

I think this one comes down to that old rule...if it feels like the wrong thing, then it IS the wrong thing. Your gut instinct is telling you no, so...don't do it. Plain and simple.

S.

 

[Dstorage]

Not to pick on you, but I'm going to chime in too about keeping this fantasy in your head. Nothing good will come out of it and the potential for catastrophic disaster will always be lurking around the corner....

 

[love2teaseu]

Oh man! If they catch you, and they can... you WILL lose your job.

I don't know where you are from, but I had an experience where I had changed jobs several years before and I ended up working with an old co worker It can happen.

I also had the mail room guy @ a place I worked send me an e mail once. All it said was that I looked good that day and he liked talking to me. He had already seen me once that day, he could have said that to my face. But it weirded me out and I stopped talking to him. In short, it might weird her out, not matter how innocent it is. I never showed the e mail to anyone at my company b/c I knew who sent it. But, if I hadn't known I would have really freaked and definately shown someone.

E mail and bulletin boards are kind of weird in that it is just flat words. Look at some of the posts and you will see that people need to put in extra things to display their intent. Like *wink* or *sigh*. Their is not enough room to display emotions that go with a face to face conversation. Step lightly!

 

[DirtyJJ]

I agree with the posters who said this is a bad idea... you have a lot to lose. At the worst your job, at best the relationship with your co-worker. That being said....

What is your relationship with her? Friendly or do you even work or speak with her on a regular basis? Another option, though also quite risky, is that you feel her out and see if perhaps there is an attraction there. I completely understand your feelings that talking erotically or flirting online with her and then seeing her at the office would be a big thrill; I have done it in the past. However, it resulted from a VERY long process of getting to know this person and reading the signals that were being sent. You have to be very careful not to misinterpret things and build trust, because work situations can become explosive (not in a good way! )

If you discover you have a mutual attraction, maybe you can indulge in a little flirtatious e-mailing, and see where it goes from there. It would probably be more fun that way anyway, instead of anonymously. But if there is not a mutual attraction or you can't trust her, then you are better off not going there.

Good luck,
JJ

 

[endlesssupply]

Go to an internet cafe if you're paranoid.

Besides...talking a woman into touching herself for you is hardly a crime.

Yup...I blame you for putting this idea in my head!

 

[endlesssupply]

I agree with the posters who said this is a bad idea... you have a lot to lose. At the worst your job, at best the relationship with your co-worker. That being said....

What is your relationship with her? Friendly or do you even work or speak with her on a regular basis? Another option, though also quite risky, is that you feel her out and see if perhaps there is an attraction there. I completely understand your feelings that talking erotically or flirting online with her and then seeing her at the office would be a big thrill; I have done it in the past. However, it resulted from a VERY long process of getting to know this person and reading the signals that were being sent. You have to be very careful not to misinterpret things and build trust, because work situations can become explosive (not in a good way! )

If you discover you have a mutual attraction, maybe you can indulge in a little flirtatious e-mailing, and see where it goes from there. It would probably be more fun that way anyway, instead of anonymously. But if there is not a mutual attraction or you can't trust her, then you are better off not going there.

Good luck,
JJ

Well I have known her for about 6 years, consider her a friend, a good friend. We've worked together for years and hung out together (run, ski, etc). She has a bf (nice guy) and I am married (open marrige).

I don't think I would ever actually want anything to happen between us physically. For the past 6 years we have been alone often, sometimes all night working late, it could have happened a few times I guess....

I basically just want to tease, be the secret admirer, etc. If she ends up coming to work panty free or touching herself at work so be it (damn you Lancecastor for putting these mental images in my head!) haha

hmmmm

 

[Lancecastor]

Yup...I blame you for putting this idea in my head!

It's a pretty good idea, actually, and as long as you're not logging on to mail her using work resources, it's no problem.

It's not against the law to desire a woman.

Or to try and pick her up.

A hotmail account accessed from a cafe or dialed to a busy modem bank is effectively untraceable and as long as you don't say anything illegal, no harm, no foul.

And if, for example, her email address wound up in my PM box, perhaps she and I would form an online rapport that would have her fingerfucking herself at her desk, fantasizing about guys at work she'd like to taste, maybe even doing one of them....

Who knows?

And the crime would be what exactly....? Wouldn't it be more like matchmaking?

 

[endlesssupply]

It's a pretty good idea, actually, and as long as you're not logging on to mail her using work resources, it's no problem.

It's not against the law to desire a woman.

Or to try and pick her up.

A hotmail account accessed from a cafe or dialed to a busy modem bank is effectively untraceable and as long as you don't say anything illegal, no harm, no foul.

And if, for example, her email address wound up in my PM box, perhaps she and I would form an online rapport that would have her fingerfucking herself at her desk, fantasizing about guys at work she'd like to taste, maybe even doing one of them....

Who knows?

And the crime would be what exactly....? Wouldn't it be more like matchmaking?

I like your thinking, though your AV scares the hell out of me.

 

[DirtyJJ]

Well I have known her for about 6 years, consider her a friend, a good friend. We've worked together for years and hung out together (run, ski, etc). She has a bf (nice guy) and I am married (open marrige).

I don't think I would ever actually want anything to happen between us physically. For the past 6 years we have been alone often, sometimes all night working late, it could have happened a few times I guess....

I basically just want to tease, be the secret admirer, etc. If she ends up coming to work panty free or touching herself at work so be it (damn you Lancecastor for putting these mental images in my head!) haha

hmmmm

Hmm.... because you know each other so well, this could be fun. It still contains the potential workplace danger, but you can judge that situation for yourself. But, the possibility exists that even if you play the "secret admirer", she may guess it's you, and play along. That could make for some fun times at work - even if it is just teasing, etc. I like the panty-free idea... I did that a couple of times at my "work bf's" request (panty free with a skirt) and it was HOT.

So have fun, but be careful... and if you want to share with us what you decide to do that would be fun...

DJJ

 

[endlesssupply]

Well then...

Any advice on getting my foot in the door or breaking the ice in the first e-mail. Intriguing her to play along while not coming off too scary or freaky?

 

[DirtyJJ]

Well then...

Any advice on getting my foot in the door or breaking the ice in the first e-mail. Intriguing her to play along while not coming off too scary or freaky?

Do you have a personal e-mail address for her, vs. a work one? If not, this might be the first step... one because you don't want to say dirty things to her in her work e-mail, and two... it sets the tone that you are taking things to a more personal level.

As for what to say - I will have to ponder that one. It's a pretty delicate matter to balance the flirtiness with not coming on too strong.
JJ

 

[endlesssupply]

Do you have a personal e-mail address for her, vs. a work one? If not, this might be the first step... one because you don't want to say dirty things to her in her work e-mail, and two... it sets the tone that you are taking things to a more personal level.

As for what to say - I will have to ponder that one. It's a pretty delicate matter to balance the flirtiness with not coming on too strong.
JJ

She only users her work address, has for years. That isn't an issue for a few reasons.

I would just set up an anon yahoo address.

I was considering starting off that we had briefly met at a party a few weeks back and haven't been able to get her out of my mind. I found her breathtaking and charming, wish we could have talked more. I finally decided to send you an e-mail from the card you gave me....

I know she goes to parties in NYC in the industry we are in. most of them are more social than business so an e-mail like that wouldn't be too out of the blue from a secret admirer.

I guess after that I am unsure how to proceed. To intrigue her and get her to play along.

 

[Mary Hall]

Sneaking looks up her skirt is bad enough.

Okay, major ewness

 

[Lancecastor]

1. Do not disclose the gender of your alter ego.

2. Start with a little gift delivered by courier...filmy translucent panties...and a note saying "we met at a party; I propose to seduce you anonymously before revealing myself. " signed Secret Admirer.

3. Send a brief email next day asking if she's wearing her gift.

4. if she answers, you're off to the races. if not, you wait a week then send another gift....

 

[endlesssupply]

1. Do not disclose the gender of your alter ego.

2. Start with a little gift delivered by courier...filmy translucent panties...and a note saying "we met at a party; I propose to seduce you anonymously before revealing myself. " signed Secret Admirer.

3. Send a brief email next day asking if she's wearing her gift.

4. if she answers, you're off to the races. if not, you wait a week then send another gift....

Any ideas for a plan completely online? Though I like your one above....but what about online only?

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

I think this one comes down to that old rule...if it feels like the wrong thing, then it IS the wrong thing. Your gut instinct is telling you no, so...don't do it. Plain and simple.

S.

Sage advice.

 

[Lancecastor]

Any ideas for a plan completely online? Though I like your one above....but what about online only?

You say she uses her work address for everything...which I doubt...you just don't know what she uses to play online when she's bored or between boyfriends or doing stuff like looking for another job or sex tips she doesn't want work to know about...assuming she's that savvy.

But you can try google-ing her name and email address in all separate google categories...web, news, images, news...to see if she hangs out in any online groups...you might get lucky.

If so, join the group anonymously and start from there.

Otherwise, you have to be the Mystery Guy who just writes her out of the blue to say he (or she....a pass by a woman might captivate her) caught a whiff of her perfume in the coffee shop downstairs today and had to write to say how much she turns you on.

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Or if your goal is to watch her masturbate at her desk, forward her suitable stories from Lit..."thought you'd like this...."Anon.

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Or if you want to nail her, switch from having lunch with her sometime to dinner...work late when she does. Find a place your work chums don't go to. Make sure you get up once or twice at the table while she's seated so she can see your erection.



There's a thousand ways to explore the potential without harm....you know her, so tailor a program.

Or, get me to warm her up for you.

 

[endlesssupply]

You say she uses her work address for everything...which I doubt...you just don't know what she uses to play online when she's bored or between boyfriends or doing stuff like looking for another job or sex tips she doesn't want work to know about...assuming she's that savvy.

But you can try google-ing her name and email address in all separate google categories...web, news, images, news...to see if she hangs out in any online groups...you might get lucky.

If so, join the group anonymously and start from there.

Otherwise, you have to be the Mystery Guy who just writes her out of the blue to say he (or she....a pass by a woman might captivate her) caught a whiff of her perfume in the coffee shop downstairs today and had to write to say how much she turns you on.

~~~

Or if your goal is to watch her masturbate at her desk, forward her suitable stories from Lit..."thought you'd like this...."Anon.

~~~~

Or if you want to nail her, switch from having lunch with her sometime to dinner...work late when she does. Find a place your work chums don't go to. Make sure you get up once or twice at the table while she's seated so she can see your erection.



There's a thousand ways to explore the potential without harm....you know her, so tailor a program.

Or, get me to warm her up for you.

My goal is not to "nail" her, rather to enjoy teasing her, maybe get her to show up to the office panty free and or masturbate in the office, though I am thinking that the first two are within reason.

more advice, your thinking has my mind running....

 

[dollface007]

Endlesssupply and Lancaster,

You guys are totally fucking clueless and living in a fantasy world if you think this is going to work. If i got an email (especially on my work account) from someone i didn't know and it turned remotely sexual, i'd immediately freak out. Yeah, i hope for your sake and for her sake, she doesn't freak out, Endless. But you should know that this could seriously scare her.

You might not be concerned about getting in trouble yourself, but you could turn her world into one where she starts looking over her shoulder, and that's not cool.

For some reason, guys think that women like this shit and most of us DON'T!!

 

[Mary Hall]

They have a word for guys like you dude



STALKER!

Enjoy jail, i heard there`s a few men who may put your purty mouth to good use, and you`ll deserve it.

Isn`t the world full of enough sick freaks?

 

[Lancecastor]

You guys are totally fucking clueless and living in a fantasy world if you think this is going to work.

Maybe we should start a pool.