Anal Virgin

[raverbaby24]

Hi all,I was wondering if you could help me? I am a young woman in need of some advice, my boyfriend and I are very adventurous and have decided we would like to try Anal sex, he has done this before with his ex partner but I have never done it. I would like some hints and tips on making it exciting and comfortable if possible. I've never tried it before and am very nervous about it as I think it may hurt.

 

[SweetErika]

Have you read through the Anal section of this thread? If not, I'd suggest starting there, and having him read it too.

When done correctly, anal doesn't hurt at all. You might feel a bit of discomfort first or periodically, but if it hurts, stop, add more lube (real lube; not KY Jelly or a numbing lube) and reassess what you're doing. You'll probably find it helps if he stays still and you control the speed and depth of penetration, at least until you're fully comfortable.

 

[Bokimbol]

I found also with my GF any way, having vaginal sex first tends to help out. If you end up liking it try laying on your back with you ass turned up. Then have your boyfriend grind on your clit while he does it. or maybe you rub it. I have never seen a more powerful orgasm from my GF than when we do that.

 

[SweetErika]

I found also with my GF any way, having vaginal sex first tends to help out. If you end up liking it try laying on your back with you ass turned up. Then have your boyfriend grind on your clit while he does it. or maybe you rub it. I have never seen a more powerful orgasm from my GF than when we do that.

I find having at least one orgasm before anal helps a lot. And like you said, clit stimulation before and during anal is an immense help. I prefer doggy style with my Hitachi Magic Wand w/ the g-spot attachment so I can alternate between clit and vaginal/g-spot stimulation. I find this provides enough pleasure and distraction to keep me from thinking about my ass and tensing up involuntarily (if my mind wanders "back there," my sphincter muscles inevitably contract ).

Since we started doing that and giving me total control of the speed of penetration until I'm totally relaxed (and then I tell him he can take over, and he can start thrusting VERY slowly), anal has been completely pain-free. That's kind of a miracle since my first experiences with anal left an awful impression (even though that partner was much smaller than Hubby) and I anticipated pain so much and never thought we'd get it right.

 

[bytor2112]

just let him plow his cock right in...lube it up good and let him ream your ass out but hard !!

 

[raverbaby24]

Thanks all for the comments, you have been a big help, my fella also says thanks , lol.

Alls good,

Thanks again. xx

 

[raverbaby24]

We have now done the deed so to speak, however it did NOTHING at all for me sexually, how can I make it more pleasurable for me, my boyfriend absolutely loved it but we were both gutted that it wasn't a 2 way street.

Any pointers would be greatly appreciated, thank you. x

 

[SweetErika]

We have now done the deed so to speak, however it did NOTHING at all for me sexually, how can I make it more pleasurable for me, my boyfriend absolutely loved it but we were both gutted that it wasn't a 2 way street.

Any pointers would be greatly appreciated, thank you. x

That's difficult to answer without knowing what you've already tried and find pleasurable in general.

Like I said, I like to use a vibe w/ a g-spot attachment for clit, vaginal and g-spot stimulation. But I also need to be aroused before we start anal.

Also, I remember it took me multiple experiences to relax and get into it more. The first few times I was concentrating on doing it correctly and nervous about potential pain. Once we had several positive experiences, I felt more confident and was able to focus on my pleasure.

Then again, some people just don't find anal enjoyable. You might be one of those people, but I'd suggest trying more things before making that call.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Personally, if I have a clitoral orgasm before anal, then I can often climax during the anal sex with little or no other stimulation. If I have a G-gasm before anal, for some reason I'm unlikely to cum.

Having said that, I'm a masochist and I enjoy the pain that goes with vigorous anal sex. If you're not at all into pain then I can see how it would be difficult to climax.

Try propping your ass on a pillow and having him go in facing you so that you can kiss and touch. Anal from behind can make a woman feel a little disconnected from everything because it doesn't give pleasure in the way that vaginal sex does. Keep stimulating your clit or letting him do it and if you're feeling really cheeky, you can put a vibrator into your pussy while he's fucking your ass. It's also very hot for the guy as he'll feel the vibrations while he's inside you.

You could also go on top, facing him and take control of the depth and speed of penetration, it's also a very good position for fingering your pussy and stimulating your clit. Reverse cowgirl is also fun.

Use lots of lube and be aware that if you're having anal for any length of time you'll need to apply more lube as you go. You might also enjoy wearing a buttplug to open and relax your anus before he tries to have anal sex with you, this can reduce the pain and hopefully allow you to relax and enjoy things more, which will make you more likely to cum.

Keep switching things around and experimenting. You'll find what works for you both in time.

 

[raverbaby24]

Thank you very much for the responses, they are very much appreciated, I feel I owe it to him to keep perservering with this as he really enjoyed it so much and I don't want to deprive him of something he likes, we will definitely try varying the positions and trying toys etc so I get a bit more pleasure out of it, I think I was very nervous and maybe that was why I didn't cum, although I find it difficult to come during vaginal sex, I tend to need lots of clitoral stimulation in order for me to climax.


Thank you ever so much for the comments.

 

[blueyz22]

Buy a dildo and practice by yourself first. Get comfortable with it while alone.