Anal Timeline

[stairwaytokevin]

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[Guest]

even after the first time when I wasn't impressed with the way it was done ( very painful ) ... I felt something later on that made me wish to try again and I love the sensations from it.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I happened to have a patient, experienced teacher. Makes ALL the difference in the world......

 

[Guest]

I think some people are anally erotic and some aren't. The act just isn't arousing for some folks.

And, if you are unfortunate enough to have had an insensitive partner for a first time experience, it is doubtful you received any pleasure at all!

Me, personally? I love it. Yes, yes, yes. My partner is terrific - and we find anal play to be wildly erotic!!

 

[stairwaytokevin]

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[Guest]

Re: Yes I agree

. . .It's a little premature, but I am surprised at the proportion of people who enjoyed it their first time. I thought that was more of a rare thing . . .

I wonder if the reason many receivers love it the very first time is because they've already done a bit of (ahem) self-exploration?

It would certainly help a novice!

 

[ReadyOne]

My first anal sex experience was a disaster. Started cold, only some spit for lube, don't know why I was crazy to even try. I wasn't surprised in the least when she quickly aborted the attempt.

The next one went much better, especially given our lack of education or experience!

I overheard (ex-)wife talking to her friend one day. "What do you think about anal sex?"

Friend replies, "If something that big comes out, then something that big can go in."

Wife: "But would it feel ok?"

Friend: "Sometimes almost anything can feel good."

The next weekend, wife and I have fucked once and were having pillow talk while we revive (much, much shorter when you're mid-twenty!) She proposed trying it, which I was willing to do, and I related my first experience to her. She still wanted to try, telling me that she had done some thinking about it.

Her mom used K-Y for dryness so she had gotten some thinking that lube would be nice. She also told me she had cleaned herself up extra well and assured me that there shouldn't be any BM poised "in the pipe". And she offered me a condom (she'd bummed from her friend) to use if I felt uncomfortable.

We petted a bit until I was rock hard again, including my fingering her pussy just to give her pleasure; I didn't understand that being well aroused can make it easier for many women. Then she handed me the K-Y, got down on all fours, and reached behind herself to spread her cheeks with her hands.

Now I've been fascinated with anal rings and rectums from childhood, so I spent a lot of time playing and stretching her just because I liked slipping my finger(s) in and out. Only as she loosened up did I realize that pre-stretching would really help.

Then being very tentative about this and not wanting to hurt her or tear something, I entered slow and followed her directions exactly about when to pause or continue.

She described the feelings of fullness and wanting to go, and then added that she knew she was empty so she wouldn't worry about them and not try to fight them.

So far, so good, even if only by accident and not by experience.

I started pumping; she let go of her cheeks and started fingering herself. I started wondering if I should try to cum or try to hold off. Her body language said things were going fine for her so there wasn't any question about quickly aborting the attempt.

Asking her about how she was doing got her encouragement to keep going. I tried a couple of things like deep vs. shallow, fast vs. slow, angle changes, and she directed me to one that she said was "hitting a really good spot". I adopted it.

I also decided to hold out as long as I could and see where all this would end up. It took a while, but her excitement built up into some sort of orgasm after which I couldn't tell for sure when she was or wasn't cuming. I just knew she was getting lots of pleasure and that I didn't need to/shouldn't stop.

Eventually I came, and slowed down. I let myself be pushed out of her ass, after which she lay down to recover her strength. I got a warm washcloth and cleaned her up and we talked about how good the experience had gone.

In summary, we ended up doing almost all the right things not knowing that we were following a good recipe. The result was great, and we adopted it on a regular basis.

I introduced anal sex to those of my future lovers who had no experience, and enjoyed it with those who already knew about it's pleasure.

Two lovers had had a bad previous experience. One I successfully "seduced" by teasingly rubbing her anus, inserting a finger during orgasm, then before orgasm (which could push her over the edge), then as foreplay, and finally by talking to her until the idea of gentle penetration under her control won out.

The other remained so paranoid about her anus that I would always avoid even brushing over it. I really regretted being unable to win her over because I had developed a strong taste for anal sex!

 

[SexyChele]

I like anal sex, but it took a long, long, long time. Most men are completely clueless about this, especially when they are in their teens/20s. They have a tendency to think of an anus as just a tighter version of a vagina. I did eventually have a very patient teacher, but it did take way more than 3 times. (But less than 7, I think.)

As to the reason why the liking anal sex on the 1st try is so high, it might be that more men are answering that one. (As givers, not takers) From the women that I've talked to, very, very few have enjoyed receiving anal sex the first time.

 

[stairwaytokevin]

Re: Re: Yes I agree

 

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[Gods_Favorite]

I love anal sex, I can say its my best sexual position. All the lube I use for my wifes ass is my saliva, when I give her a nice hot rimjob