Anal Timeline

[Gil_T2]

Thank you for your kind words, Stairwaytokevin.

I'd like to clarify something, sort of like a self-edit to my previous post on this thread. My usage of the word "rape" in my first paragraph seems too 3Dimensional now that I've re-read my words. I'd like to clarify how he basically "fucked my ass without my consent" and scratch out the term rape.

Some might be wondering what the difference is and that's fine. Guess I'm really only considering how there are probably other women on this board who've had to endure real rape and, well, that's not what I truly meant.

Indeed, it was an awful, terrible first time. Yet I'd consented to our normal lovemaking but he was just a dickhead high on cola and things went really awry without my consent. No everlasting affects or effects, just that I still chalk him up to being one of the biggest dickheaded mistakes of my life.

Hehe, looky here Stairway, you told me not to refrain when I feel the need to unleash .

No matter how you term it IT WAS RAPE.

 

[It'sasecret]

My husband refuses to touch my ass, so all my anal play is by myself. My first time I started with a shower, and a soapy finger. I was scared to even use my fingers, but I quickly learned how great it felt. Then I got out of the shower and lubed up a vibrator really good. I slowly entered myself. It hurt a little, but also felt good. Now, I enjoy fucking my ass and pussy at the same time. I don't think I will ever get to enjoy the feeling of a real cock inside of me, but I do enjoy playing by myself.

 

[CuteJenn]

My bf and I just attempted for the first time, but he wasn't really sure what he was doing and I didn't speak up because...well...I'm lame. Anyway, it didn't work. We'll be trying again, I think, since he's rather keen on the idea. To be sure, next time will be different.

 

[stairwaytokevin]

You are torturing the lit men

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[stairwaytokevin]

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[ReadyOne]

Sites for discussion/howto instructions

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A general non-commercial site http://sexuality.org/index.html

Personally, for the first couple of times, I see how far down the list we can go, and then wait until the next time they are in the mood, and try it again. Repeat until everyone is happy.

Make sure they feel clean (shower, enema if needed for thier peace of mind),
Given females a couple of orgasms first,
Rim job,
lube,
rubbing the outside of the anal ring,
lube,
ask what they are feeling,
lube,
gentle stretching,
lube,
check how they are feeling,
lube,
maybe small toy,
lube,
warning about feeling full (accept and savor as part of the experience),
lube,
suggestion to bare down while being entered,
lube,
let the person being impaled control the entrance (doggy style and push back),
stop and wait for them,
again stop and wait,
keep them talking about how they feel,
stay shallow at first,
stop and wait some more for permission,

and finally concentrate only on THEIR experience.

 

[PinkOrchid]

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[stairwaytokevin]

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