Anal the first time.

[WriterDom]

Does it feel better going out? Or does the discomfort level never really change. Of the anal virgins I have had, one hurt a little at first, then she wanted more, another seemed fine with it from the beginning, but didn't seem to get very much pleasure from it, and another only did it to please me.

 

[carrie-on]

I think the discomfort level changes the more you do it. The first time we ever had anal sex,it hurt for a while but then began to feel good...real good I often initiate it myself now because it feels soooo good!

 

[pixiewitch]

Only 1 experience

Can't say if it gets better with time. But I can say that when I did it I expected it to hurt a lot more than it did. It felt good both ways and I loved it more than I ever thought I would. Let me tell you that I've been asked too many times to count to do this and always thought of it as strictly an EXIT. So for me to enjoy it the first time was unbelievable to me. I loved it and will be enjoying it again as soon as given the opportunity.

 

[ali14]

Anal

How can you prepare to do anal for the first time? I want to try it but am afraid

 

[lovetoread]

Re: Anal

How can you prepare to do anal for the first time? I want to try it but am afraid

Do what I do, run the other way. It doesnt hurt that way.

From what I have read, you need lots of lube, a partner that knows how to do it, and bravery.

 

[Mr.G]

PASS

""Do what I do, run the other way. It doesnt hurt that way.""

lovetoread...damn gurl. That's a GREAT philosophy for life too. Buy a big comfy couch, get all the cable channels available. Hide in basement. No pain.

No nuthin.

I agree. If your lover is a selfish jerk with a big dick and no consideration your "NO WAY" rule is a good thing.

On the other hand if he is slow, considerate and safe the feeling can be awesome. It is not unusual for a girl to try this and develop either a deep ASpot orgasm or be turned on enough that they just begin to orgasm. If done RIGHT there is NO pain. The sensation is certainly different but I repeat - NO pain. The psycholgical effects of doing something that is considered by many to be such a No No is also a huge turn-on.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Does it feel better going out? Or does the discomfort level never really change. Of the anal virgins I have had, one hurt a little at first, then she wanted more, another seemed fine with it from the beginning, but didn't seem to get very much pleasure from it, and another only did it to please me.

Initial momentary 'discomfort' if you want to call it that. Some of us look at that as part of the pleasure. Pain is such a mental thing. If you're frightened and tensed up - its gonna hurt cuz you've got it set in your mind that its gonna hurt. Couple of deep breaths, relax - then the pleasure is so overwhelming - pain? what pain?

 

[Etoile]

Re: Re: Anal the first time.

Initial momentary 'discomfort' if you want to call it that. Some of us look at that as part of the pleasure. Pain is such a mental thing. If you're frightened and tensed up - its gonna hurt cuz you've got it set in your mind that its gonna hurt. Couple of deep breaths, relax - then the pleasure is so overwhelming - pain? what pain?

Well put, I think. I find it much easier to take it up the ass if I relax. Often I have to remind myself to do this several times throughout the experience. I sometimes ask for it too, but only when I want to show that I can take it; I definitely prefer vaginal sex, my interest in anal is primarily because I'm submissive...I know Daddy likes it, and so I like to take it. Daddy has recently agreed to teach me to actually enjoy assfucking, though - we were talking recently and I realized I'm always so busy focusing on accepting the invasion and I don't pay attention to the sensations it produces. Hopefully I'll get to practice a lot soon.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

practice practice practice! lol

 

[sheath]

Re: Re: Anal the first time.

Initial momentary 'discomfort' if you want to call it that. Some of us look at that as part of the pleasure. Pain is such a mental thing. If you're frightened and tensed up - its gonna hurt cuz you've got it set in your mind that its gonna hurt. Couple of deep breaths, relax - then the pleasure is so overwhelming - pain? what pain?

I don't even call it anal anymore. I call it a mindfuck, which if done right, is exactly what it is. You're right, pain is a mental thing...and pain is incredibly relative to what you believe is going to happen. If you brace yourself for it, then it IS going to hurt. Your body has something to do with pain on that level. But the proper mindset can overcome almost anything, I think.

For me, it involves relaxing my body, taking deep breaths, and telling myself that it is going to be a sensational experience. Then taking it eagerly, not just lying there and letting him push into me. It involves rocking back onto him, listening to the naughty things he says, opening my body completely and willingly...believing that he knows how to take care of my body and control himself enough to not hurt me. Amazingly enough, when I just put my complete trust in him in the midst of sex, there is no pain. Only intense pleasure that puts me over the top in just a few thrusts. Then again...and again...and...lol...

If pain is involved, it's because we want it to be. If I've been a 'bad girl'...heehee...and he wants to punish his naughty little lady, then attacking my ass with no lube and a serious mission creates pain, yes. But again, it's the mindfuck. I know damn well he's doing it to hurt, and I know damn well I want it, and the pleasure is so intense it's almost ridiculous. The pain becomes part of the pleasure, because it's all about what goes on in my mind.

I'm hoping for a little mindfuck this weekend...

S.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[sheath]

<sigh>

A woman after my own heart.

Indeed.

We should trade stories, m'dear.

S.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Guest]

sheath - you rock! What a great explanation! I feel the exact same way.

The first time I had anal the guy was very experienced and use a lot of lube and I felt nothing but pleasure. The next I had anal was with a different guy and it hurt quite a bit. Rather than letting him put it in, I grabbed it and worked it in slowly. I also have to use different positions depending on the size/shape of the cock. With a real wide guy I like it on my side with one leg kinda resting on his shoulder.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

mmmmmm, mindfuck - what a great way to put it! I'm gonna have to get me some of that this weekend too.........

 

[Etoile]

Re: Re: Re: Anal the first time.

If pain is involved, it's because we want it to be. If I've been a 'bad girl'...heehee...and he wants to punish his naughty little lady, then attacking my ass with no lube and a serious mission creates pain, yes. But again, it's the mindfuck. I know damn well he's doing it to hurt, and I know damn well I want it, and the pleasure is so intense it's almost ridiculous. The pain becomes part of the pleasure, because it's all about what goes on in my mind.

Bin-fucking-go. Incredibly well said.

 

[candyman33]

I have to jump in here because we just had our first experience. I guess all the romancing has paid off as my wife finally agreed to try it. Using lots of KY and moving incredibly slowly. So slowly. It hurt a bit at first, but that went away, and once i got in to certain point we hit something b/c she went from "it feels different" to "OH MY GOD i'm going to cum!!" in a matter of seconds. She loved it. I think she is still in a state of shock b/c she never thought she would like it. What a fun new option. I would like to learn a bit more about it as i know very little, but i am searching the site for more "how to" info. I want to handle this right so any of you females who would not mind giving me a few pointers, insights and sensitivities in the area, please PM me. Your advice has been invaluable thus far.