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xxkayse

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i'm looking to start anal training to stretch myself. i'm relatively inexperienced, only finger play. any advice?
 
xxkayse said:
i'm looking to start anal training to stretch myself. i'm relatively inexperienced, only finger play. any advice?
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Well, the way I got used to being penetrated was working up from fingers to thumbs, then from thumbs to small toys, from small toys to bigger toys, and finally to my partner's penis.

Now, how I did that was I just kept practicing with one during foreplay and masturbation so I would be relaxed and the endorphins would help with the anxiety and minor pain associated with stretching an orifice that doesn't necessarily enjoy being stretched, and after a few months I was able to take each successive penetration without much warmup.

You're basically training your body to accept a stimulation that it isn't used to. Go slow, be patient, LISTEN TO YOUR BODY because there is a difference between acceptable pain and unacceptable pain, and don't be afraid to stop when you think you need to.
 
much like the post above, go slowly and enjoy :)

I'd suggest a set of anal toys - ranging in size from small to the size you want to be able to accomodate. (and plenty of options in between to use, you might want anal beads, different size butt plugs, just google a local sex toy shop and see what anal toys they have on offer - experiment what type of toy and shape works best for you)

Practice with a small one, til it's comfortable to use.
Slowly work your way up to something bigger, it will take a while, but just take baby steps.

Make sure you enjoy :)

I've done lots of practice and stimulation while masturbating - and found it increases my orgasms without fail :)


Oh - also check the Blank Manual (sticky at the top of the 'how to' section)
it has lots of useful advice, I'm sure there must be something about anal stretching (if not the very least, anal and helpful advice) in it.
 
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yes, yes yes, all the above - the only thing i would add is LUBE - you can never have too much in my opinion, especially when exploring new orifices!
Goodluck - it's fairly awesome when you get there.
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Again, yes to all the above, especially the lube. The only thing I'd add is your fingers are probably your best tool for stretching yourself. Even now, tho I'm pretty experienced at anal play, I love working myself with my fingers first. There's just something about feeling that tight little hole loosen as I work on it......
 
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I definitely had to start by working it up. I have a basic vibe that I love to use to stretch myself. I also feel lots of lube. I have one particularly that I have found is the only one I love. It is Climax Bursts Anal Lube.
 
Posters have good advice that includes lubrication and not rushing. The other piece of advice, I will add is learning to breathe. Breathing is important as it will influence the level of discomfort. If you are breathing fast you may find that your anus is tight and resistant to insertion. However taking a deep breath in and then slowly exhaling will help to relax you. By doing this a few times you find that you are able to relax and the discomfort you feel is reduced. Also you learn how to control your breathing making insertion a lot easier.
 
I found it helpful having my partner help me. Someone you trust to listen to you and can talk you through things definitely helps!
 
Having a partner that you trust makes a world of difference as well. Also I have found that as he is inserting you can push out some as well and that tends to open it up some and make it easier.
 
An important tip.

We found something that made all the difference in the world. We bought a LUBE LAUNCHER on Amazon.com for less than $5.00. Its a small pencil size syringe that shoots lube about 4" into the rectum. It makes penetration much more pleasant and enjoyable for both. Have fun!!!
 
Ex Princess said:
I found it helpful having my partner help me. Someone you trust to listen to you and can talk you through things definitely helps!
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I am also a novice and was fortunate in having an excellent "coach" to help me bridge that gap between just talking about it and actually taking that first step. I've learned to correctly coax open and insert my butt plug in a relatively pain free process, and now I'm working on gradually increasing the size of the plug and the length of time that I am able to comfortably wear it each day. My biggest accomplishment though was for the first time having vaginal intercourse while I had the plug inside of me. It was fantastic . . .

Everyone has giving such wonderful advice, but a couple of things that I don't think anyone has brought up is the importance of making sure that your bowels are clear and that your hands are always washed after handling your toy. You don't want to have any accidents or embarassing mishaps. Pick up a bottle of Fleets or something comparable from the drug store and use it maybe a few hours before your training session or before you have anal sex. Good Luck!
 
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If you are horny and have a man willing to lube you up then you'll be fine. A little shot of something will help.
 
icandothis said:
I am also a novice and was fortunate in having an excellent "coach" to help me bridge that gap between just talking about it and actually taking that first step. I've learned to correctly coax open and insert my butt plug in a relatively pain free process, and now I'm working on gradually increasing the size of the plug and the length of time that I am able to comfortably wear it each day. My biggest accomplishment though was for the first time having vaginal intercourse while I had the plug inside of me. It was fantastic . . .
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Wow, I feel honored to be called an "excellent coach"! I actually had a lot of fun "coaching" you through it via PM's. I was surprised at how sexy of an experience it was for me. If there are any ladies out there who would like some assistance let me know, I'd be happy to help!. I would also add, give yourself an orgasm before attempting anal play as this will not only relax you, but with relax the muscles in that area. Also, the position you're in is important. Putting your knees up to your chest allows easier penetration.
 
dman4887 said:
Wow, I feel honored to be called an "excellent coach"! I actually had a lot of fun "coaching" you through it via PM's. I was surprised at how sexy of an experience it was for me. If there are any ladies out there who would like some assistance let me know, I'd be happy to help!. I would also add, give yourself an orgasm before attempting anal play as this will not only relax you, but with relax the muscles in that area. Also, the position you're in is important. Putting your knees up to your chest allows easier penetration.
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D,
Thank you again :kiss:
 
Nyiatha said:
If you are horny and have a man willing to lube you up then you'll be fine. A little shot of something will help.
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You're on to something there. In fact your man or someone else that you trust to help you may be one of the most important things. The next important thing is to be RELAXED and allow the anal stretching to happen in my case I decided to start off using a butt plug. .

Leading up to my "session", I could feel myself getting more and more anxious which kind of worried me. I had already had an earlier false start and I really wanted to do this but was afraid I'd be so tense I wouldn't be able to relax.

I made it into a whole relaxation production; I took a hot bubble bath and had a chilled glass of wine within reach, I brought myself to orgasm while in the warm bath, and while I was lying on the bed waiting for my coaching session to begin, I gave myself another orgasm (the orgasms really do relax your pelvic and butt muscles as well as giving you a sense of well being), so trust me when I say I was relaxed.

From beginning to end I found this to be a very erotic experience. Because I was so relaxed and wanting this to be succesful, my mindset was right where it needed to be. An added bonus - Add in the effects of the bath, the wine, the touching, contracting and releasing my muscles, massaging my butt and I was fortunate enough and quite surprised when I experienced a totally unexpected orgasm in the middle of all this . . . am I lucky or what?

Oh, and one other thing . . .When we got to the point of actually inserting the butt plug and it was finally in place, I was relieved to find that it was more like temporary discomfort rather that actually pain that I experienced. So don't let that fear hold you back.
 
icandothis said:
You're on to something there. In fact your man or someone else that you trust to help you may be one of the most important things. The next important thing is to be RELAXED and allow the anal stretching to happen in my case I decided to start off using a butt plug. .

Leading up to my "session", I could feel myself getting more and more anxious which kind of worried me. I had already had an earlier false start and I really wanted to do this but was afraid I'd be so tense I wouldn't be able to relax.

I made it into a whole relaxation production; I took a hot bubble bath and had a chilled glass of wine within reach, I brought myself to orgasm while in the warm bath, and while I was lying on the bed waiting for my coaching session to begin, I gave myself another orgasm (the orgasms really do relax your pelvic and butt muscles as well as giving you a sense of well being), so trust me when I say I was relaxed.

From beginning to end I found this to be a very erotic experience. Because I was so relaxed and wanting this to be succesful, my mindset was right where it needed to be. An added bonus - Add in the effects of the bath, the wine, the touching, contracting and releasing my muscles, massaging my butt and I was fortunate enough and quite surprised when I experienced a totally unexpected orgasm in the middle of all this . . . am I lucky or what?

Oh, and one other thing . . .When we got to the point of actually inserting the butt plug and it was finally in place, I was relieved to find that it was more like temporary discomfort rather that actually pain that I experienced. So don't let that fear hold you back.
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Yes, all great points! With doing all of the right things and not trying to go too fast, you really didn't have a reason to be nervous. It's just a normal response, the best thing to do is to continually work to relax yourself through it so you don't tense up.
 
satindesire said:
Well, the way I got used to being penetrated was working up from fingers to thumbs, then from thumbs to small toys, from small toys to bigger toys, and finally to my partner's penis.

Now, how I did that was I just kept practicing with one during foreplay and masturbation so I would be relaxed and the endorphins would help with the anxiety and minor pain associated with stretching an orifice that doesn't necessarily enjoy being stretched, and after a few months I was able to take each successive penetration without much warmup.

You're basically training your body to accept a stimulation that it isn't used to. Go slow, be patient, LISTEN TO YOUR BODY because there is a difference between acceptable pain and unacceptable pain, and don't be afraid to stop when you think you need to.
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totally agree
 
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