Anal Sex

[Kat Eyez]

Hey everyone! I am new to this site and thought I'd finally post my question. My husband wants anal sex so bad but everytime we try it I stop because It hurts so bad. When we first starting dating (8 yrs ago) we had anal sex once but he only got his dick 1/2 way in. I want to be able to have anal sex often but I need better tips and how to ease the pain. We use vaseline which I now realize isnt the best. Also is it like a womens pussy that if you have anal sex often it will begin to get easier the more you do it?? Which is the best position for first time anal sex??

 

[nightswan]

try the post "assfucking".Go to the site puckerup.com,lotsa of good advices.Vaseline is not the best,especially with a condom.Don't have vaginal intercourse after anal.After doing it for a while,you will become more aware of your body,things will get easier,no loosening of the muscles,at all(don't worry),but it will get more confortable.About positions,you should experiment what's more confortable to you.It hurts since you are tryng to force yourself.Sart to focalize your attention to that part of your body(and all the emotions coming from that,especially the negative ones),take your time,you must be willing to do it yourself,not for pleasing him,since it will become another source of anxiety(it becomes a performance).The inner muscle is under the command of the subconscious,so if you are not confortable with it,it will hurt.Patience and love wil get wonderful results.Also the first time try to incorporate some clitoral stimulation too.Read that post and everything Tristan taormino has written on puckerup.com,there's even a Q&A.
Good luck!

 

[Guest]

take it slow

 

[Kat Eyez]

Thanks to the both of you for your advice! I am going to try it out and see how it goes. I thought about celebrating the 4th of July with a hit at anal sex!

 

[lutelover]

warm up with hot vaginal sex first, coming before is great too. I just love anal sex.

 

[sheath]

To address a few of your questions:

We have found that using "Wet" or "Astroglide" works best for us. And so far as positions, I agree with raventale...anything that keeps him from going too deep the first few times is a VERY good thing. What also helped me was knowing that I had control over it...once he was inside me, I moved on him, until I was ready to let him begin moving. Him behind me worked well, and letting me lower myself down on his cock. I could control it that way.

And yes, I have found that over time, I grow more accustomed to anal, and it becomes much easier.

S.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

I do love anal sex soooooooooooooooooooooo