Anal sex

[Courier345]

Me and my gf are going to try anal sex at somepoint soon and I wondered what hints people can give so we can make it as painless and enjoyable as possible. Its both our first times so naturally there is a bit of worry. Thanks in advance

 

[NorCalCumCannon]

1. Use a good amount of lube

2. Finger her ass first

3. When she's ready for your cock, insert slowly and carefully

4. Use slow, gentle strokes to get her used to it... maybe hold your cock in her for a few seconds every so often

5. If she likes it and it doesn't hurt her, go to town and let her have it. You still gotta be careful though

 

[warl0ck1]

As above and it can't be said enough lube. Probably more than you think because it does not produce its own. Get her ready take your time and enjoy it. Use your funder and maybe even your tongue when you are licking her pussy. It is a muscle and needs to be stretched.

 

[Courier345]

Thanks for the advice very appreciated!

 

[Learin]

This thread might be helpful for you. Almost everything has been discussed here.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1201059

 

[XtraKat]

The first post is spot on.

I will advise that you first start by using your finger. Even when you finger her ass, use lube and lots of it, can never have enough. Oh and tell her to relax, it can be uncomfortable at first, just rub her back or butt check, just e kind and reassuring the entire time. It does help. It helped me.

 

[MarianneRavenwood]

1) Lube
2) Lube
3) Lube
4) Foreplay first with finger/small plug
5) Go slow

 

[ChattyAnnie]

1. Use a good amount of lube

2. Finger her ass first

3. When she's ready for your cock, insert slowly and carefully

4. Use slow, gentle strokes to get her used to it... maybe hold your cock in her for a few seconds every so often

5. If she likes it and it doesn't hurt her, go to town and let her have it. You still gotta be careful though

I would add that she should push out rather than let the natural reflex to contract take over. In other words don't fight it..

 

[Hypoxia]

Bend over and smile.



Get her a strap-on and let her peg you first; see how you like it.

 

[looking34205]

Me and my gf are going to try anal sex at somepoint soon and I wondered what hints people can give so we can make it as painless and enjoyable as possible. Its both our first times so naturally there is a bit of worry. Thanks in advance

I also find that if I spend enough time on her first, making her cum and relax then she is more receptive to anal. So I usually spend a good and long time going down, make her enjoy one orgasm and then I go to steps mentioned by the others. The only other thing I would recommend is to let her move. Just stay inside her and let her move slowly against your cock. Be prepared to take a long time and stay in the same position for a while until she feels comfortable.

let us know how you did.

 

[DrHappy]

As a first timer, the biggest obstacle may be the initial insertion. Go very slowly. Getting past the outer sphincter is easy, but the inner sphincter is trickier. She has less control over the inner sphincter. If you encounter a hard stop and she encounters mild pain, then immediately stop the insertion, but don’t withdraw. Maintain a little pressure without trying to continue moving inward. Wait there with a little pressure until she fully relaxes and then gradually increase the pressure until you can slip inside. Once you get past the inner sphincter, it will just pop inside. Not everyone is able to slide inside on their first attempt, so don’t be too disappointed if it doesn’t work on the first try.

I routinely hear advice about using lots and lots and lots and lots of lubricant. For insertion and moderate activity, I’ve found that only a moderate amount of lubricant is needed. If we were doing a rigorous marathon anal porn scene, we’d need more, but not for our typical activities. Too much lubricant makes a mess, and I’ve found that excessive slipperiness makes it hard to get started with insertion.

I agree with the advice on getting her aroused first. We usually only attempt it after she’s had several orgasm from regular intercourse. Touch her anus and insert a finger with some lube. Get her really turned on and wanting more back there.

 

[stickygirl]

ETA to the above: asking her to do a positive 'breathe out' if you meet resistance at the inner sphincter I found helpful

 

[lynn-23]

ETA to the above: asking her to do a positive 'breathe out' if you meet resistance at the inner sphincter I found helpful

STickygirl, could you explain this a little?

 

[stickygirl]

Well first up - I'm not a medical person, so what I'm saying is gleaned from various sources, advice and personal experience.
The outer sphincter is controlled by the conscious mind - you can push down/tense up and feel it move. The inner one is controlled by the unconscious brain, the autonomic nervous system, which regulates all those body activities we take for granted like heartbeat, digestive system, adrenal responses etc. We can get around that primary responsibility with practise, and learn exactly how to relax that sphincter consciously.
Take some parallel examples: if you've ever been to an osteopath they'll tell you to breath out just before they do a manipulation. I think I'm right in saying that our muscles generally relax on an out-breath - our heart beat even slows a little. Yoga kinda focuses on relaxing by syncing our breath to that moment of calm it brings.
Our instinct when we're frightened or feel pain is to suck in and hold our breath, which is exactly what you don't want when there's a big cock trying to push its way in! You need to overcome the natural (fear) reflex to tense and as good a way as any is to make a big out-breath - like you were blowing bubbles under water ( except don't make the noise or you'll laugh and ruin everything! ).
So yea - if you're nearly there with anal sex but find yourself tensing up at the vital moment, then breathe out. It's like you kid your body that 'everything's ok out here, you can relax - look I'm breathing out!'. If you work with your partner then you can learn to control the reflex to a point where it becomes a pleasure.
If it doesn't happen straight away, stay cool - practise in your own time and take your time, because you need to be calm and in control. Anal sex isn't for everyone and there is plenty other fun to be had after all.
Hope this helps

 

[lynn-23]

Thanks Sticky. I think that is great advice. if you are nervous and anxious, its going to be difficult. Take a break, do some more foreplay with your man, and try again. Don't be in a hurry. And NEVER let a guy rush you. When its done right, it can be AMAZING! and fun.

 

[stickygirl]

Thanks Lynn - but as you said elsewhere, it's about trust too

 

[loveroflove]

1) Lube
2) Lube
3) Lube
4) Foreplay first with finger/small plug
5) Go slow

This, I didn't have the first time. ... no lube, well not lube from a bottle! But foreplay is very much needed! Do not just lube up and go for it!

 

[Antron3]

Use . ..

Albolene cream is the best lubricant. Pull the feminine on to the masculine. Don't push into the female. Think of an opening flower. ..

 

[Rammhart]

The bottom end of a sharpie and a glass of warm water. Make sure you clean out the area first, you don't want to make a stinky mess Dip the bottom end of the sharpie in the warm water and slowly slide it into the asshole. Don't push in with any force. Do this over and over until you can comfortably slide the entire sharpie in and out with ease. The trick with anal is slow baby steps until your asshole gets used to being penetrated. After you are comfortable with the sharpie, you can move onto thicker and longer objects.