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My husband wants to have anal sex, but it hurts me. I love when he uses his fingers, (they are of course smaller.) We've tried oils and such. Any ideas?
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Well, if it hurts you and you don't want to pursue it, then don't. If it hurts, but you want to try again, you need to go about it slowly. You mentioned how you like your husband's finger(s)... How many does he use on you? Your best bet for anal sex is to start off small and work your way up to a dick. 
There are several vibes & dilds designed for anal play. Try looking into that.
There are several vibes & dilds designed for anal play. Try looking into that.
Skitten
Sir's toy
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Taking it slowly is definetely the answer. maybe you should try with fingers and maybe some toys such as butt plugs and such to make yourself more comfortable and then ease your way into anal. But don't rush yourself and let yourself relax don't worry if you can't the first time your anus has to get used to having something in it. you might want to try experimenting with butt plugs and such just try and take it slow.
Ezzie
Unrequited Love Slave
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I think Tiggs can vouch for me on this considering she knows that anal sex is my personal favorite thing to do in bed. When I first tried it, I never wanted to do it again but I decided to give it another shot and the rest is history.
The key to anal sex is for the woman to be on top until you get used to it. You have total control over the situation from up there. You control the penetration depth, speed and everything else. And something else I've learned about it is that if it hurts then someone is doing something wrong, it's gonna hurt a little when the inital penetration is started but that's normal and will go away and my last words words of advice are Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate!! When you think it's too much, use more. Good luck with it and keep it mind that it's not for everyone but at least you can say you tried.
The key to anal sex is for the woman to be on top until you get used to it. You have total control over the situation from up there. You control the penetration depth, speed and everything else. And something else I've learned about it is that if it hurts then someone is doing something wrong, it's gonna hurt a little when the inital penetration is started but that's normal and will go away and my last words words of advice are Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate!! When you think it's too much, use more. Good luck with it and keep it mind that it's not for everyone but at least you can say you tried.
Wild Child
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my (rather unexpert but willing to help) opinion is that you should get a few but plugs in different sizes and get used to using those and then move on to sex. Though if your not comfy wiht the idea don't bother...it won't be worth it for either of you.....and remember to use tons and tons of lube!!!
