Anal sex questions for women

[UtilityCurve]

I've been told that no matter how enthusiastic and/or experienced a woman is, there is always discomfort, even pain, on being penetrated.

Do you tell him?

Not for sympathy, I suppose. But I have to say, from the penetrating end of things, I lose some of my desire to assfuck her if I think about that, no matter how eager she is for it. So maybe some women hide it, so not to buzz-kill?

And if he's bare, do you have reservations (aesthetic, emotional, physical, etc.) about him finishing in you? I've never been asked to pull out (and I'll be honest: It would be really difficult, I think!), but except for one girl (age-appropriate use of the term), no recipient has told me yea or nay about it (she was a "hell, yes type, BTW)--unlike finishing in her vagina, which every woman was pretty verbal about wanting/enjoying.

 

[occasional_lovers]

Do you tell him?

Yes, when it goes beyond my limits, i.e., the pain exceeds the physical or mental pleasure I derive from it.

if he's bare, do you have reservations (aesthetic, emotional, physical, etc.) about him finishing in you?

The difficult part is for me to let him enter bare. If I do, it 's obvious that I want him to cum in me.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Yes, when it goes beyond my limits, i.e., the pain exceeds the physical or mental pleasure I derive from it.

My lovers maintained that pain always faded and was replaced by, as you say, physical and mental pleasure, which seemed plausible, but that's an equation, not a rule, I suppose.

If it's not "too much," though--do you tell him then? (Obviously yes if painful play is the goal, but when you're just trying to please him, is it (un)mentionable then? No matter how much I'd want to accept her gift [and make no mistake, I regard it as such], I'd be reluctant in the moment and even more so in the future if she were to say so, no matter how much it pleased her to please me that way.)

At the same time, it bugs me to no end to think a woman I was having sex with wouldn't be 100% candid and honest, even if she believed she was endangering my pleasure.

 

[blkjames]

Unfortunately the few times I have tried anal it has been exstreamley painful for all parties involved. Give me a tight mouth and pussy and I am exstreamley happy lol

 

[Islander55]

My lovers maintained that pain always faded and was replaced by, as you say, physical and mental pleasure, which seemed plausible, but that's an equation, not a rule, I suppose.

If it's not "too much," though--do you tell him then? (Obviously yes if painful play is the goal, but when you're just trying to please him, is it (un)mentionable then? No matter how much I'd want to accept her gift [and make no mistake, I regard it as such], I'd be reluctant in the moment and even more so in the future if she were to say so, no matter how much it pleased her to please me that way.)

At the same time, it bugs me to no end to think a woman I was having sex with wouldn't be 100% candid and honest, even if she believed she was endangering my pleasure.

I do not do a lot of anal but sometimes the mood hits me. If I found it uncomfortable, I would let him know and we would make adjustments. It does not have to be painful. Use lots of lube and start slow. Once I have adjusted to him and got him all in, I will let him know that he can go for it. There are a lot of nerve endings there so it can be very pleasurable and I have had orgasms from anal. The issue that concerns you can happen with vaginal sex as well. So you want a partner willing to let you know when something is not working. Again communications is the key to good sex.

 

[Islander55]

I've been told that no matter how enthusiastic and/or experienced a woman is, there is always discomfort, even pain, on being penetrated.

Do you tell him?

Not for sympathy, I suppose. But I have to say, from the penetrating end of things, I lose some of my desire to assfuck her if I think about that, no matter how eager she is for it. So maybe some women hide it, so not to buzz-kill?

And if he's bare, do you have reservations (aesthetic, emotional, physical, etc.) about him finishing in you? I've never been asked to pull out (and I'll be honest: It would be really difficult, I think!), but except for one girl (age-appropriate use of the term), no recipient has told me yea or nay about it (she was a "hell, yes type, BTW)--unlike finishing in her vagina, which every woman was pretty verbal about wanting/enjoying.

The biggest reason to use a condom is for the males protection. There are critters in the anus that can be a problem in the urinary tract. So going bare in the butt can lead to a urinary tract infection.

 

[SandyWhitlock]

I don't agree there is always discomfort but I get a lot of pleasure from it and have cum from it without any other stimulation but I was very turned on. I would tell someone if it hurt or use a safeword if we had one if I couldn't take it.

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

I've never had a pleasurable experience with anal, so it's off the table for anything sexual that I'll do going forward. The pain has always been the major turn-off for me.

 

[UtilityCurve]

The biggest reason to use a condom is for the males protection. There are critters in the anus that can be a problem in the urinary tract. So going bare in the butt can lead to a urinary tract infection.

Ooooo, don't I know it! One GF had serial UTI's and the doctor suggested I be tested in case I was reinfecting her (I was told symptomatic UTI's in men were rare indeed, so we could be unwitting carriers).

Having a cotton swab on the end of a wire inserted into my penis was, well, uncomfortable doesn't do it justice. As it turned out, I was not infected and it took quite a while for the irritation to subside.

For going bare, though, we kept on going. The psychological/emotional pleasure of leaving my semen inside her was mutual, and sufficient for me to risk another Q-tip someday!

 

[KaitlynW1993]

No, I dont experience discomfort or pain.

I mean if a guy hits the wrong spot but that can be in any hole it can hurt.
Generally no. I was trained to be able to take anal sex well. So maybe with that line of training I have never had that issue.

Maybe if a woman hasn