Anal sex question

[Guest]

My boyfriend and I are excited about trying anal sex.

We've started out with him only inserting a finger or two -- haven't gotten to his dick yet. It has been somewhat uncomfortable so far and I'm was wondering if there were any tricks to making things easier.

 

[Weird Harold]

Look back through the threads in this forum, and you'll find a dozen or so threads on anal sex.

Most of them emphasize the three things you need for enjopyable anal sex: Lube, Lube, and More Lube.

 

[Agent Intrigue]

yes, good LUBE , lots of LUBE, then a bit more.

Plus take it small and slow, work slow, dont let him rush you.
lots of books and articles and this site to help you learn and enjoy the pleasure in it.

Advice from a guy who likes to take it and give it.


Agent Intrigue

 

[MissTaken]

The most important tid bit I can offer is to ease the discomfort and make it more enjoyable for you and the bf, press down as though you are going to the bathroom.

*Poof* gone with the discomfort. And it certainly heightens the pleasure for you both.

 

[Wizard]

Yep..................All great advise............Many, many threads here on that subject with good stuff on them.............

 

[onlineslave]

Lay on your stomach, play with your clit as he puts the head of his cock in you. Start slow(use alot of KY) Keep rubbing your clit, the more excited you are the more relaxed you'll be. Go slow!

 

[Guest]

When in doubt...

lubricate...stimulate the clitoris...try different sexual positions...work slowly! And, above all, have fun! Sex is supposed to be fun! NOT painful, and not a chore.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Whay everyone else said.. but remember everyone is built a different size and what feels comfortable for one person might not be for another. Depending on how big your man is.

Get horny and Relax !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Savage Kitten]

Anyone who has ever given birth knows....

the best way to work thru pain is to breath. Maybe (just maybe) even more important that lube is being able to relax those muscles so the entry is easier. When the pain gets to be too much it's a natural reaction to tense up and tighten those muscles. So, what you should do is have your man pause, (not pull out), and you take a couple deep breathes. In thru the nose, out thru the mouth. When the pain subsides you can let him go a lil further. The initial entry is the worst, after that its rather fun!

 

[sudsy]

Re: Anyone who has ever given birth knows....

the best way to work thru pain is to breath. Maybe (just maybe) even more important that lube is being able to relax those muscles so the entry is easier. When the pain gets to be too much it's a natural reaction to tense up and tighten those muscles. So, what you should do is have your man pause, (not pull out), and you take a couple deep breathes. In thru the nose, out thru the mouth. When the pain subsides you can let him go a lil further. The initial entry is the worst, after that its rather fun!

OMG! The comparision between anal sex and childbirth just made my blood run cold! I just lost all interest in that altogether.

 

[SilverVeil]

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Also, we are using a plug. Not a very big one, but when I have had the plug in me for an hour or so, I am very very ready for him (blushing) and the ring of muscle is already relaxed from having the plug inside me.

Mmmm, I'd like to hear more about butt plugs and what people use for them for. I've only seen them in shops etc, never used one.... why would I ?

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Anyone who has ever given birth knows....

OMG! The comparision between anal sex and childbirth just made my blood run cold! I just lost all interest in that altogether.

LMAO silly azz!!! It doesn't hurt as much as childbirth!! geeeeezzzz I was just trying to compare the breathing techniques. Almost everyone has heard about lamaze.

 

[Lady_Kit]

All good advise! Try positioning yourself on top, then you control how fast and how much.

Mmmm, I'd like to hear more about butt plugs and what people use for them for. I've only seen them in shops etc, never used one.... why would I ?

T.H. one uses a butt plug because it feels good.

Oh, if you were only closer....

Kit

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Oh, if you were only closer....
Kit

Damn, Damn, Damn and more triple Damns where they came from

 

[InLove]

Okay.......... how ordinary is this???

My husband never liked anal sex.. I myself loved it.

Are there men out there that do not like anal sex? And why?

I have an online lover who has never experienced anal sex, and he sounds excited about tring it. But I'm to shy to talk to him more about it, and he doesnt bring up the subject.

So, I really would like to know how many men do not like anal sex, I do not want to force (force isnt a good word, but) him to experiment with something most men do not like???

Help me out please ~ thank you

 

[Gnome]

Oral sex + 1 finger and/or vibrator at a time + lube + patience. Do it to each other, those who give must be willing to receive.

 

[cyndiesweet]

All the stuff here is good. I have one more. Have a drink beforehand. Everything relaxes a bit more. Go slow, use lube and have fun.

Lots of help in the how to stories too.

 

[SilverVeil]

Okay.......... how ordinary is this???

My husband never liked anal sex.. I myself loved it.

Are there men out there that do not like anal sex? And why?

I have an online lover who has never experienced anal sex, and he sounds excited about tring it. But I'm to shy to talk to him more about it, and he doesnt bring up the subject.

So, I really would like to know how many men do not like anal sex, I do not want to force (force isnt a good word, but) him to experiment with something most men do not like???

Help me out please ~ thank you

Yes, this is ordinary. Lots of men do not like anal sex. They think it is dirty and nasty. Their loss.

As for your online lover..... find a story that has a couple of variations of sexual positions in it, reg, bj and make sure it has an anal scene, send it to him and then talk about it. Ask him if he liked the story, what he liked most about it. Mention you thought the anal scene was really hot.

I have found that stories make a great ice breaker in some cases.

Good luck and I am curious how this turns out.