Anal sex... HELP!!!~~~~~***

[pritty*Vixen]

For the last couple years or so I've wanted to try anal sex but my boyfriend hasn't wanted to. He's a little freaked by the idea. Anyway, I've used vibrators up there, fingers, etc. but last night he decided to surprise me by telling me to get some oil because he was going to give me the best birthday present ever.

Well, we tried anal, and he only got it in about 1/3 of the way, and it just hurt really bad! I made sure both of us had enough lubrication on, and he used his fingers to stretch me out ahead of time.

Did I do something wrong? Why did it hurt so much? It always felt sooo good with the vibrator. help! Please?

 

[P. B. Walker]

Is your beau significantly bigger than your vibes? that could have been a contributing factor to the pain...

some other things you might try:

1) have a few orgasms before trying it

2) have him play with your clit while entering, or do it yourself

3) go slow!!!! go very slow.

4) analiguous (sp?) helps also, but he might not be into that if he wasn't into analsex in the first place.

5) if all else fails you can try this creme that is available... I'm not sure what it's called, but it desensitizes the area so the pain isn't that harsh.

good luck and happy uhmm... analing I guess.

- PBW

 

[curvacious]

you probably didn't do all that much wrong. the other times, when you used vibes, you were expecting what was going to happen and had control. With your bf, you did not have as much control so you may have not been as relaxed.

Please though, do not use the desensitizing creams/lubes. If there is pain, it is for a reason. It would be awful to be in worse pain a few hours afterwards than the few moments of pain you might feel without the desensitizing lotion--which you can quickly stop the action.

 

[pritty*Vixen]

Tonight...

i took some of your advice, and everything was going great, we were both very turned on, and he was about 1/2 way in, and there was no pain! just pleasure. But I don't think he was into it as much as I was.

After a couple minutes he went soft, and that was it. I guess anal sex grosses him out, and I dont wanna push it, if he doesn't like it. I like to try new things, but not if both of us are into it.

*Sigh* oh well.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Mmm... sounds like his mind fucked him up...

You may have to do something to move his focus away from his dick being in your ass. Maybe start a sexy naughty conversation with him... you know him better than anyone else.. I'm sure you can figure something out... just something that will get his mind off your ass and keep him really turned on.

I've found that (being a guy) when I have anal sex with a woman that has never had it before, I need to concentrate on something else during that initial penetration. Since, I'm going so slow and gentle until she gets accommodated to the feeling of me being in her ass, my dick is basically getting no stimulation, aside from the feeling of being inside her. If my concentration falters and I start thinking about her being in pain or whatever, my "little buddy" quickly deflates. Basically, he's gotta be thinking of something that will keep him "pumped up" until you get to the point where he can start stroking in and out.

- PBW

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Just a thought

Tonight...

i took some of your advice, and everything was going great, we were both very turned on, and he was about 1/2 way in, and there was no pain! just pleasure. But I don't think he was into it as much as I was.

After a couple minutes he went soft, and that was it. I guess anal sex grosses him out, and I dont wanna push it, if he doesn't like it. I like to try new things, but not if both of us are into it.

*Sigh* oh well.

Try using a vibrator in your pussy after he gets inside you. He'll feel the vibrations too. and I'm pretty sure he won't go soft

 

[Willing and Unsure]

be very happy he went slow.. the first time i had anal sex, i wasnt really sure what was going on until he was already in. he was taking me from behind and for some reason he couldnt keep it in, he mumbled something, and the next thing i knew, he was all the way in my ass.. and it hurt like hell.. i almost cried out in pain.. i relaxed (and he offered to pull out if it really hurt that much) and it started to be more pleasurable, for both of us


all i can say is for both of you to relax.. a lot..

 

[Eric23]

You might want to try useing a butt
plug for a couple of hours before you attempt anal sex. It will make entry easier and less painful. Also you may want to find a better lubricant some work better than others during anal.

 

[Wizard]

Plug is a real good thought.....

When Skitten and I started we worked up to it. Started with a finger then bought a set of plugs,small.med, large......Took our time over months with plugs and other play we went for it and both loved it.
Like others have said lots of lube and don't forget to play with other places aswell.

Have fun.

 

[WickedEve]

I was just talking about this subject on another thread earlier today.
Anyway, it helps if you're both turned on before you start. Have you talked openly with your boyfriend? Have you asked him how he feels about it? You really need to get him excited about it. When my lover first mentioned the idea of me tongue fucking his ass... well, I was a little hesitant. But the more we discussed it, the more I read about it, fantasized about it, etc... the more I got into it. I'm sure your b.f. just needs some time. And make sure he associates pleasure with the act. Maybe you can do something special for him that he wants. Talk to him during anal sex. Give him positive reinforcement. Tell him how good he feels inside you, and let him know what great orgasms you're having!
It all starts in his mind. He has to want it, and it has to turn him on. If he gets to that point, he'll be on your ass about having anal sex, all the time!

 

[Guest]

I LOVE ANAL. IT FEELS SO GREAT.

 

[KMann]

Rocco

Give him time, he will learn. Tell him to rent a Rocco Sefredi video for some tutoring.

 

[SilverVeil]

Everything everyone has suggested are great ways to get used to it. We use plugs, lots of lube and also the AnalEase cream.


If your boyfriend does not like it, you might get off on using the plug on yourself with a vibe on your pussy ?