Anal sex - before and after

[MLyons]

Hello all,

I'm kind of... doing some research.

I'm wondering if I could get some different perspectives on anal sex--preferrably from those who have participated in it for real (both male and female, both giving and receiving) if you're willing to lend me your thoughts.

My question is how did you view anal sex before you had it. Meaning not whether it was a good thing or a bad thing, but perhaps more along the lines of what interested you about it? What was it that intrigued you, or were you not intrgued at all and pressured into it? Then AFTER you had it, did your perspective change? Were your expectations met or dashed? Did you come away learning something about yourself? About your partner? Was there a sense of increased intimacy, or the opposite? Why or why not? If so, what about it made you feel that way? The pain involved, the sense of complete surrender to another person? Or were those thoughts even in your head at any time?

I've enjoyed anal play in the past, but only in a masturbatory sense. (I'm male) and have my own perspectives on this, but I'd really like to hear from others.

The reason I ask? Well, for a story, of course.

Thanks for listening.

 

[Guest]

 

[Colleen Thomas]

My first experience with Anal was because my partner really wanted to. Up until then i didn't have an real preconceptions, except that it was painful and I will admit I was pretty scared. My partner, however, Knew what she was doing and was very careful and took it very slow. She also used a much less agressive dildo than was our norm. Even then, it hurt, a kind of stabbing tearing internal pain that is difficult to describe.

After that first time it became part of our normal bedroom activities and she gradually increased the size of her "cock" as well as the amount of time and force she used. It never stopped hurting on initial penetration, but believe me, that pain is a small price to pay for how good it feels afterwards. I totally enjoy it now and have no fear except when I try it for the first time with a new partner. It can still be quite painful if the person you are with dosen't know what they are doing.

I find it to be extremely intimate, mostly because the level of trust involved is significantly higher. Plus it just feels out of this world

-Colly

 

[ABSTRUSE]

My sweet virginal view of Colly just ran screaming out the door...

 

[MLyons]

Thanks so much for sharing your experience, Colleen! It's really very nice of you.

 

[Guest]

 

[ABSTRUSE]

So your prescription ran out today too?

Does it show?

 

[Guest]

My first experience with Anal was because my partner really wanted to. Up until then i didn't have an real preconceptions, except that it was painful and I will admit I was pretty scared. My partner, however, Knew what she was doing and was very careful and took it very slow. She also used a much less agressive dildo than was our norm. Even then, it hurt, a kind of stabbing tearing internal pain that is difficult to describe.

After that first time it became part of our normal bedroom activities and she gradually increased the size of her "cock" as well as the amount of time and force she used. It never stopped hurting on initial penetration, but believe me, that pain is a small price to pay for how good it feels afterwards. I totally enjoy it now and have no fear except when I try it for the first time with a new partner. It can still be quite painful if the person you are with dosen't know what they are doing.

I find it to be extremely intimate, mostly because the level of trust involved is significantly higher. Plus it just feels out of this world

-Colly

I don't have anything different to add from what Colly said. She pretty much described exactly how I felt and feel, too.

Once minor difference, my experience is with real cocks as well as dildos, but it really doesn't feel that different, except for when he comes - which feels amazing.

Lou

 

[MLyons]

Thanks so much Lou!

 

[Guest]

My sweet virginal view of Colly just ran screaming out the door...

My biggest laugh of the holiday weekend. P.

ML: I can't recall the thread but Svenska posted about the male's G-spot in his anus. New to me. I've yet to have a good anal partner (except in fantasy).

 

[dr_mabeuse]

The thing that surprised me is that it can be pretty noisy. That's something they don't usually tell you in the books.

All that trapped air has to go somewhere, you know, and that somewhere is usually out. It doesn't happen always, but when it does, the sound it makes is not one of the more erotic sounds in the world of sex.

Once past that though, the act is extremely erotic and intimate in terms of feeling like you really possess the other person. It does take a lot of patience though, so it's never been something I've insisted on, and I've only done it at my partner's request.

---dr.M.

 

[shereads]

What in the world are you people talking about? The anals of sex? Is that a historic archive or something?

 

[matriarch]

What in the world are you people talking about? The anals of sex? Is that a historic archive or something?

*sneaking back in when I should have gone to bed, laughing my ass off at this, tears of laughter*.

Oh She, that is so good, sending me off to bed laughing. Thank you, I so needed that.

*chuckling, muttering......anals of sex............. still laughing as I switch off.

Mat

 

[Liar]

My biggest laugh of the holiday weekend. P.

ML: I can't recall the thread but Svenska posted about the male's G-spot in his anus. New to me. I've yet to have a good anal partner (except in fantasy).

Yes it is. but it's overrated.

Anal sex as in Insert Cock Here doesn't really stimulate it. It's more of an Inset Long Finger And Feel Around kind of thing. Tried both, didn't find what was exciting/erotic about it. I mean, massaging that spot triggers a run-of-the-mill orgasm. Big deal. So does spanking the monkey.

#L

 

[minsue]

Yes it is. but it's overrated.

Anal sex as in Insert Cock Here doesn't really stimulate it. It's more of an Inset Long Finger And Feel Around kind of thing. Tried both, didn't find what was exciting/erotic about it. I mean, massaging that spot triggers a run-of-the-mill orgasm. Big deal. So does spanking the monkey.

#L

Such a romantic

 

[Liar]

Such a romantic

Nyah nyah nyah...

Point is, sex is not which thing you shove how deep into which hole, and how many and how powerful orgasms you can have.

And my experience, albeit limited, with anal sex is that it is more about carnal acrobatics than actual intimacy. Not dismissing those who find something more in it, and if I met someone who truly enjoyed it, I could be nagged into giving it a go again.

 

[Guest]

Nyah nyah nyah...

Point is, sex is not which thing you shove how deep into which hole, and how many and how powerful orgasms you can have.

And my experience, albeit limited, with anal sex is that it is more about carnal acrobatics than actual intimacy. Not dismissing those who find something more in it, and if I met someone who truly enjoyed it, I could be nagged into giving it a go again.

nagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnag

 

[Liar]

nagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnagnag

Don't make me come over there!

Um...what did I just say?

#L

 

[Guest]

Still laughing -

Abs - don't forget to take the yellow pill.

Sher - LOL! My husband wanted to know why I was laughing so hard.

MLyons - I think anal sex is very intimate, more of an advanced sexual technique. If two novices attempt it they may run into some difficulty enjoying a successful experience.

It shouldn't hurt. Not if it is done properly. Usually inexperienced people try to go too fast.

Ass does not equal pussy; each contain different muscle systems, they are in different shapes, have markedly different openings, completely different lubrication systems, etc.

Some people are curious about anal, some are not. Some people get more enjoyment from stimulation in that area, some do not.

It's just one more item in your sexual bag of tricks.


Oh - Liar? It's positively delicious when done properly.

 

[Guest]

Don't make me come over there!

Um...what did I just say?

#L

::blink::


roflmao..

 

[shereads]

Re: Still laughing -

Ass does not equal pussy

So this is what I missed when I skipped math class. Damn.

 

[Guest]

I got an A+ in math.

 

[Mhari]

You know, I keep meaning to try this "anal" thing. I'll hafta find meself a willing participant! It sounds oh-so-yummy!

~M

 

[Colleen Thomas]

You know, I keep meaning to try this "anal" thing. I'll hafta find meself a willing participant! It sounds oh-so-yummy!

~M

It is yummy, one of those things once you try, you kick yourself for waiting so long

-Colly

 

[Pure]

As to the 'complete difference' and separation of the two systems-stated by sweetsubsarah-- a look at the anatomy of the area should dispel that idea; one example diagram is below.

http://www.vaginismus.com/pc muscle group front.htm

http://www.vaginismus.com/pc muscles explained.htm

Note the 'figure 8' of the PC muscle. Also vaginal sphincter and external anal spincter blend into one another.

None of this is to deny that *mentally some manage to keep a brick wall between the two eroticisms.