Anal sex advice

[notnormalgirl]

I just recentley started haveing sex(wooo hooo!!!) , and would like to try anal sex. I was just wondering if anyone out there has any advice for me. something I may want to do or not want to do...that sorta thing. Please help

 

[cajuncat]

anal sex

I would suggest you read the past post here in this board. I would also say you must really desire anal sex to truely enjoy it. Next find a partener who truly enjoys it, or go solo.Go slow!
your can e-mail me for more tips since this is my favorite type of sex & at 50 yrs. I have alot of experience on this subjuct.

 

[Son of a Sailor]

Going by my name you would expect that anal sex would be one of my preferences, and indeed it is. It took me a while to convince my girlfriend to try it, but once she moved past the whole unnatural act thing and the fear of stained linen she actually enjoyed it. What we found from personal experience is that you will need to be relaxed and highly aroused to enjoy it, and he will need to be well lubricated. Some positions are more comfortable than others, which is a damn fine excuse to try them all if anyone needs an excuse. Also, if your partner is anything like me you will need to stimulate yourself, I have never been able to pat my head and rub my stomach at the same time. It is a great opportunity to bring the toys out of the closet.

Have Fun.

 

[cymbidia]

Read these:

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=27740&highlight=anal

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=31602&highlight=anal


We seem to cover this subject in depth about every 10 days here. Read some of the back threads on this and then ask your questions.

 

[doctor_insanus]

We seem to cover this subject in depth about every 10 days here. Read some of the back threads on this and then ask your questions.

You said it! What a bunch of freakin' perverts!

Thinks about it for a second

Oh yeah... hehe... never mind...

 

[nitengale]

niten's thoughts...

Anal sex. Those two words together can excite or frighten when the topic is raised between sexual partners. Many women think their partner has some sort of serious defect or wonder if he is suddenly showing gay tendencies when he mentions this desire; others are intrigued by what anal sex may have to offer. What makes men so interested in this territory?

Throughout history, men have marvelled at and wondered about uncharted terrain. The world has been filled with explorers of all kinds. Traditionally, if there is a touch of the “forbidden” to it, men want to explore it more. So, my guess is that once a man has laid claim to this new area, he feels, like Lewis and Clark, as if he has just made a conquest.

If you too are willing to explore, then as with anything we do as a couple, communication is the key. Don’t hesitate to share any trepidation you may feel: “I think it is wonderful that you want to invade my anus, but here is what I think about it. I would like to try it, but I do have some anxieties, so please be patient.” Talking together about each other’s concerns is key. Anal sex is not going to be pleasurable if you are not both relaxed and not both equally interested in seeking out something new.

Getting relaxed enough to have his penis penetrate what you probably think of as a tiny space can be scary. Becoming comfortable is the first task, and this is a perfect time for your partner to practice his massage skills. Have him work the muscles of your butt (they usually cannot keep their hands off it anyway.) Some massage oils may come in handy here, and the extra lubrication won’t hurt, either; just be sure to use an oil safe for condoms.

I also recommend your partner gently stretch the anus with his fingers as a part of the foreplay; this type of manual stimulation in many cases is already going on. Another bit of foreplay you can indulge in is anilingus, or “rimming.” Oral stimulation of the anus can be very erotic for some, but again communicating your mutual likes or dislikes is necessary. Rimming is a potentially hazardous activity in that it can carry body fluids back and forth between partners; therefore, a clean bill of sexual health is essential for both parties.

Its important to know that the anus does not self-lubricate like our vaginas, nor is it quite as elastic. Try to penetrate this hole without lubricant and you might find you are digging pieces of fingernails out of your skin. So now is a good time to pull out that lubricant you have been dying to add to your lovemaking. The markets are flooded with many brands, so it is a personal choice. Again, PLEASE keep in mind that there are lubricants made specifically for condom use. Key word in that last sentence is CONDOM. No one is worth dying over, so if you are not in a trusted, health-checked relationship, use it.

One of the concerns women express is the loss of power they fear during anal sex. However, this does not have to be an issue. You can control the depth, the speed, and pace if your partner is caring enough. Get into a position that makes you feel comfortable. Many women prefer the “doggy” style, but for anal sex, lying on your back with your legs pulled up allows you to see your partners face, and may prove to be more comfortable.
Many women are surprised to learn they may orgasm during rectal sex. The walls of the vagina and rectum are actually shared, so many in reality claim the orgasm is even more intense. Massaging of the clitoris by either partner will only add to this experience. It also helps in the relaxation.

There are many new pleasures that can be found in anal sex, but communication, comfort, and the willingness from both partners to dive in are all vital. There is no evidence that anal intercourse will damage the anal muscles, nor will they become over stretched. I would like to add that there are men who absolutely insist it is much tighter “back there.” This makes me chuckle. I get the impression these guys are comparing vaginas to being the size of plane hangars.

Just a few reminders:

·Remember that anal sex carries a high transmission rate of STD’s, so use a condom.
·Never go from the anus back to the vagina, as you could carry normal bacteria from the rectum to the vagina, which is not normal there.
·Anal sex is a perfectly normal sexual experience for anyone, as long as you are both consenting adults and not something that is limited to cheesy porn films.
·Serious damage can be done to the rectal walls if you are too rough.
·It has been said that many women try anal sex twice. Once to see how it is, and again to reassure themselves it was not so bad the first time.
·If you have concerns about having a full rectum make sure you empty it before beginning. Some women even like to use a small cleansing enema. If it helps to alleviate anxiety, then go for it.
·And lastly, a request. Please try not to refer to this act as a “drive down the Hershey Highway.” This only ruins the idea of what good chocolate is all about.

 

[His Whimsicality]

1) Lubrication
2) Stretching
3) She has to be relaxed all the time, so do things slowly.

 

[cymbidia]

And honey?
It's gonna feel funny - maybe even feel like something you might find kinda uncomfortable.

But, i promise, if you relax, stay with it, and communicate to your partner what you need and want (go slower, please stop a minute, oh god now!), you might well come to really like anal sex as an addition to whatever you do normally.